Something for "Conservative guys" to know ...

[Chris F]

There is something for those  "very conservative guys" to know about Colombia...

This has been said before but is worth repeating.  Yes...Colombian men can be known for having two or more "girlfriends".  But do you actually think that these "girlfriends" do not also have other "boyfriends" as well at times???  This is much more of the "norm"  in Colombia then here in the United States.

The bottom line is simple....at times....Colombian women are no different then Colombian men.   If you very "conservative guys" are looking for a woman that has always been a " very conservative girl" in regards to relationships....Colombia is not where you may find a plethora of this category.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Something for "Conservative guys&qu..., posted by Chris F on Jul 8, 2004

In Colombia and in the United States you can find all types of women. I happen to think one's chances of finding a "keeper" are greater in Colombia but you are going to find a lot of players following the gringo trail. Yes, you can find a very conservative girl but you are not going to find her in the bars, in the marriage agencies or wandering around shopping malls getting picked up by gringoes.

[Pete E]

... in response to Something for "Conservative guys&qu..., posted by Chris F on Jul 8, 2004

Good point,but I doubt the women are quite as bad as the guys about it.At least not as blatenly open about it.
But my eyes sure got oped lately.Whammo.Never saw it coming,didn't have a clue or concern.Trudging along in my  head,missing the subtle little signs that something was different.I was so sure of this person.She seemed so happy to get me initially.But I think there was a part of her needs I was not meeting and someone else stepped right in,or so I've been told and it fits every thing else.
Still she didn't want to give up sugar daddy so played us both.I suspect the other guy probably knew the truth,she had to work around a pretty busy schedule with me.A guy she used to work with before I was told.30 some year old Colombiano.
This is all based on imformation from a girl who knows her I don't totally trust,so I injitially just set it aside untill some more things happened.Then it became clear the relationship was not working,so it really is not so important why.And this girl is basically a good person,but did some other things even more dishonest.

Pete

[Chris F]

... in response to Re: Something for "Conservative guy..., posted by Pete E on Jul 8, 2004

Hey Pete,

In November of 2002 I met a guy who use to post under I think "H2o" . He is your friend and he is married to a beautiful Calena and living in the San Diego area. He owns a plant business.

He told me once...."I feel I found the right Calena...but you have to be careful...many Calenas can be given the Academy Award for being "great actresses" playing the part of the sincere and loving girlfriend. When its all an act. Some of them are very good at it."

[mudd]

... in response to Hey Pete...something else to remember, posted by Chris F on Jul 8, 2004

yep, sounds like my EX. could look you right in the face, and lie like their was no tomorrow. caught her doing it all the time to her friends.

[Pete E]

... in response to Hey Pete...something else to remember, posted by Chris F on Jul 8, 2004

Yup,H2-0h is a very good friend of mine.He has a great wife.Beautifull,nice,down to earth.I spent some time with them in Colombia around Christmas and saw her when she was there un March.I always liked her but now that her english is good I see what a great person she is also.I count them as a very successfull marriage.
But,she is getting it all.He is not only a good looking  and personable late 40's guy but is very well off.And very creative and active in new projects.Including alot of interest in Colombia.She would be a fool to ever do anything else.So there is a very practical side to it.I spent Chritmas with them.They gave tons of gifts to her whole family.H2-oh trully cares for the family,although he is very realistic about Colombian ways and is smart about it.There were some really touching things he has done for some young family members.One young guy thinks he is the best person there ever was.She is a super success to have him.She gets to go to Colombia 4 times + a year.Her family is totally cared for.She would have to be very disatisfied to ever mess it up.
But my ex couldn't hang in there with me.I don't match H2-oh
but gave her and her family alot.I have to be running second of the guys I know in that department.But it just wasn't there for her,she could never really love me but I think she tried.
And unlike H2-oh's wife she wants to be very independent.I am going to see her tonight.She is now doing real estate,my old business.She loves it,was showing property today when I called her.She was loving it.She was the star of a commercial video they did for a spanish TV channel.It doesn't hurt to be cute,charming,personable.She loves looking at houses,showing them.She loves the woman she works for.I am very proud of her.I will get more imformation tonight.And I get to see my dog.Hugs for her will have to wait untill after the dog.
When I find out my schedule of doctors appointments here I will run down and see H2-oh.He was in Colombia,he has a business in Medellin,but he is probably back.And if I don't find a new chica soon in Cali I will take him up on his offer to use his apartment in Medellin.Its right in the entertainment zone.

Pete

[Chris F]

... in response to Re: Something for "Conservative guy..., posted by Pete E on Jul 8, 2004

Hy Pete...sorry to hear about your situation..and you are right..the girls are not as opened about it...but they do it too.

Somebody from this board a few years back drove the point home by making this observation.

"That agency girl who comes from a very poor family and is not working has very nice clothes and jewerly....who do you think paid for it?.........one of her Colombian boyfriends...thats who!!!!!"

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: Something for "Conservative..., posted by Chris F on Jul 8, 2004

Chris,
I have seen the type you talk about,I know a good example.Even got a new set of t!ts paid for in the last year,a great investment,really rounded her out.If they have alot its either well to do Colombiano or a gringo,or a succession of both.
But my girl was not typical agency,didn't have alot of nice things.When I gave them too her she was thrilled,said nobody ever did that before for her,which I think is mostly true.I belived she was telling me the truth.Tears would come to her eyes.She would say thank,thank you,thank you.
But there apparently was not enough glue in our relationship to keep her from falling in with another guy she used to know but not romantically before.It was a chance meeting I was told.A guy she used to work with who had been married.
Another thing,be carefull what you wish for.This girl was very sexual,loved sex.I did get her off every time,so that wasn't missing,but I can see her falling for alot of spanish banter and jokes and charm then it becoming sexual with a guy she was attracted to.She told the girlfriend,supposedly,she was trying to give the guy up for me,but never got it done.
Actually at the end she was not finding time for sex with us,a huge red flag and unacceptable situation.And then she stole some money and that was really the end of it,but I was ready to end it anyway.I think she knew that and grabbed the cash.She did it before I think,but this time she took so much it was very obvious.
And this again is a girl who I think is a good person.She
is a great mother to 2 great kids,quite a person,everybody loved her.A real down to earth seeming person,but my perception can be limited by my lack of spanish.
I should shut up.I'm 95 % sure on the money,think its 80 % or so the other guy story is true.But not totally absolutely sure.There is a chance,a small one,the relationship could be revived.I really liked this girl,over and above love and romance,just a great person I thought.Energetic,hard working,practical.I was even thinking about  helping  her start a business.I think she has the drive and smarts to do well with the right opportunity.I think she will wake up and be calling me back.
I know.I would be a fool to ever go for it.And I was not ever totally satisfied with the relationship,time and the kids got in the way alot.
5 days here and I'm ready for another Colombiana.I sure as hell will not find anybody hot here who will go for me.
Just the truth of the situation.After 45 there has been no way I was going to get what I wanted here.I would like to have a real love permanent relationship,but I would rather have a string of young latinas than an old fat AM.The few I dated before I went to Colombia I decided I did not even want to see what they looked like with their clothes off.
I saw a couple of 250 pounders having dinner together last night.They seemed to be having fun.That was good,but they will not likely ever find a guy,but I do know one who did.
Its like I'm not finding a guy anyway,so point me to the food.And if thats reality ands its OK with them what the hell.Sold out for a banana cream pie.Life is a choice.
Jim C and I have a running joke about never seeing and old woman naked,never having one had one over 40.
Its nice to have some options.Colombia will spoil you forever of ever thinking about settling for what you can get in the US.So its Colombia or another latin country.
Asians?Russians?Not remotely interested.

Pete

[Heat]

... in response to Something for "Conservative guys&qu..., posted by Chris F on Jul 8, 2004

You can find real life communists and left wingers of all kinds in Colombia if that's what you are looking for.

But I disagree there are many conservative girls here who are very much into sex.

Don't confuse conservative politics and sex together.

I'm Libertarian/conservative and I have a VERY open attitude towrds sex.

I love having sex with as many women as I can.  As often as I can.  Living in Colombia gives me the kinds of women who think very much like I do.  These women are very sexual.
I think sometimes they love it more than me.

NOT!!!!