[This message has been edited by BahiaBoy]
I have been following this board for sometime now so I thought I'd make a contribution. BTW, I am not married to a Colombian.
I am 1st generation born in the USA to immigrants. I have been married 25 years to the same woman (7th generation WASP American). I have yet to see my 45th birthday (do the math...got married REALLY young).
It has been my experience that when people marry outside of their culture whan they are not many generations removed, have a very tough time of it. Remember this when you decide you are bringing back a "nice" girl to the US. Take into account also that she is leaving her family, friends, culture and familiar surroundings behind. If she was coming back here into a Colombian sub-culture, and you were maybe 1st or second generation Colombian, you may have a chance. If you are bringing her back here and expect her to just slide into YOUR world, a 100% American world, you may have a surprise coming.
Works the other way around too. Ask my wife how it feels sitting around a table, time after time, year after year, listening to a very difficult (not Spanish) language, catching every 10th word; listening to weird music; eating funky foods; changing religion (her choice); etc, etc. Not easy. I am surprised she didn't dump me all these years.
If you're pushing 50, and your novia is mid-twenties, try to think with the head on your shoulders, not the one in your pants. When you were 24, would you have even wanted to kiss (let alone have sex with) a 50 year old? I doubt it. And don't believe that "Latina women like older men" crap. They like it because you are secure but will most likely have a young lover or two along the way. Hey, who can blame her? Remember The Latina's Rules for the Perfect Man:
1. It is important that a man helps you around the house and has a job.
2. It is important that a man makes you laugh.
3. It is important to find a man you can count on and doesn't lie to you.
4. It is important that a man loves you and spoils you.
5. It is most important that these four men don't know each other.
Seriously guys, youth is youth.....
For you second timers thinking you will find the sweet demur woman of your dreams (vs the gnarly b*tch you married the first time), I offer you this. Marriage is really, really hard under the best of circumstances. You need to really examine yourself and figure out what went wrong. Just because a girl is from a foreign country and sweet, it doesn't mean she will be a doormat for very long. Learn from your mistakes and MAYBE you have a chance.
For those of you who are "attached" and thinking that you'll find something better or easier....think again. Listen to my uncle. Here was his advice to me 25 years ago:
"There are 100 rules to marriage nephew. Rule #1 is NEVER, EVER break up your house. Rule #2 is get as much p*ssy as you possibly can in life. Rule #3 is see rule #1. Rule #4 is see rule #2, etc, etc."
Sound advice when you consider the alternatives.
OK, one more thing and I'll get off this podium that I have somehow worked my way onto. My mom was gonna marry a US soldier after the war. She was poor, he was nice, the family pushed her hard to do it (all they had was rubble for a home after the Nazis were done). I have to give her credit. He came back to get her and she sent him back with a broken heart. She didn't have the heart to do it. She married some geeky neighbor who is still my dad. Would it have worked out with the GI? My mom is 75 and still has a gleam in her eye when we talk about it. "Nah, it would have been fun for a few years...exciting. But in the end, I would have been unhappy. He was a nice boy, and he loved me, but I would have really broke his heart then, wouldn't I have".
Just my 2 cents.
PS Wonder if there's women like my mom still around 
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