About Kiltboy's situation

[Locii]

I am happy to hear that she is out of town and you are back in your house.  That is usually a pretty big deal for hearings about divorce and settlement down the road.  

You mentioned in a previous post that the NY man had made mention of her 'strategy'.  I was wondering about the following.

-Could you sue for divorce in NC claiming abandonment? (most states have this but not sure about NC).  It would probably put you in a different class than divorce for irreconcilable differences or something.

-Would your lawyer agree to depose and subpoena NY man about her 'strategy'.  Judges tend to look very sternly at premeditated actions like that.  For example, if a judge finds out you discussed bankruptcy with an atty as an 'option' to avoid financial problems, I have seen them put the screws on people/businesses (and deny the plea for bankruptcy even).  They view at it technical manipulations of the law.  The NY guy was, after all, communicating with her on the sly, and part of the problem.

-Theft of your tax records is probably a crime of some serious magnitude.  They are, after all, YOUR tax records and not hers.  A judge might carefully consider her point that she was going to need them to build a civil suit against you...after she gets bailed out of jail.  If you are sure they are gone, call the police and file a report of burglary.  List her as having possibly taken them.  The other thing to be aware of is identity theft.  If she already lost her wallet she might have lost, given away (sold?) you tax records to God knows who.  You might look at taking precautions based on that alone.

Your situation will probably get wierder before it gets more sane.  She clearly has the ability to make rash decisions and will probably continue to do so.

My guess is she has no idea what she's doing; moreover she seems to be getting terrible legal advice.  Do you have any idea who her lawyer is and how she knows him?  The answer to that may explain everything.

Ciao

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to About Kiltboy's situation, posted by Locii on Apr 10, 2004

Locii

I have considered all that you have said . I have left messeges with my attorney about the tax records and also the conversation with the man in NY.

My attorney will bring up all of this in court tuesday.

My wife has a history of making rash decisions without really thinking about them. She is so obsessive about her son that she cannot think straight at times. I think she really believes that she will get a job, bring her son here in june and live happily ever after.

First. She has very limited english skills and will not be able to find a job with a decent wage unless it is in the adult entertainment field, which i do not believe she would consider unless there was no other way.

Second
To get her son in school in NY will require a lot of documents and also i think she will be unhappy with the school systems in the area she lives in.

third
I believe she is so nieve that i am afraid something bad will happen to her, but she has to learn on her own

Fourth

She is just frigen CRAZY !!!

I suspect she will in the future call me for help, but i will not help her as she has burned all bridges with me.

But tuesday will be a difficult and also interesting day which many things will be said that are hurtful to both of us.

And i do believe the Legal advice and just advice in general is not avice based on her best interest, but the interest of other persons that may have had bad experiances in the past with a man here .

[greg]

... in response to Re: About Kiltboy's situation, posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 10, 2004

Good to hear that all is well with You. I wouldn't trust that Guy in NY, he could be Lying to mislead you.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Hi Andy, posted by greg on Apr 10, 2004

Hi Greg

The only thing i trust about what the guy says is that she is trying to build an immigration case against me. The rest, who knows and i really do not care anymore. I just want her gone for good and let me move on

[valleydude]

... in response to Re: About Kiltboy's situation, posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 10, 2004

I followed this post but figured my 2 cents would be just that. I was either for or against many things in the original post, but this stood out to me...

"third
I believe she is so nieve that i am afraid something bad will happen to her, but she has to learn on her own"

Dude! Remember that 100%.

"I will always love your daughter" means the doors will remain open for B.S. Translation, "It will always be a great reason for me to call."

No matter what, cease all contact after this passes.
Anything you say, can and will be used against you.
It will all be twisted to fit a new scam.

Freaky chicks pulling stunts like that don't go away until they get no reaction. When you don't hear from them in years and they appear, you almost want to find out if you were right or wrong. Did they succeed or fail? Or? No matter what...don't do it.

I'm sure we all know it, so this is just a friendly reminder.

On a lighter note:
If I am ever in this situation.... please remind me to search for my own posts.

V-Dude

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to You got!, posted by valleydude on Apr 10, 2004

All taken and noted valleydude

She has made her bed, now she will see what the good ole USA is all about

Chewing stupid  nieve people  up and spitting them out !!

[burbuja2]

... in response to Re: You got!, posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 10, 2004

You seem to have a head on your shoulders.  Make her pay a stupidity tax.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Yo, KiltMAN, posted by burbuja2 on Apr 10, 2004

She will pay burbuja2

She will pay with the fact that she lost the best man that she will ever find --the rest will just use her--but if that is what floats her boat.

Just say --BYE BYE !!

[larrydarrell]

... in response to Re: You got!, posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 10, 2004

Multiply that by a factor of 10 in New York City.

[Craig]

... in response to Re: About Kiltboy's situation, posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 10, 2004

Though I'm not a lawyer but I work in the Justice system and spend a great deal of time in injuction court, or domestic violence court where protection orders are issued. Here in my state if the party applying for the injuction no shows the injuction petition is dropped. So if she's in NY that's good for you. Judge's are aware the people use these oders to get the legal edge. It's a mistake if your in there bull crapping away.... Nothing ticks off the judge more then when you waste their time.

Second as far as distribution of assests your off the loop.... short term marriage. Remember in many states marriage's under 10 years are considered short term.... No allimony. Make sure your wife works, well educated, and makes good money that will increase your chance of no support if the marriage lasts over 10 years. What is yours before the marriage is yours don't mingle assests make it simple for the judges. If the marriage lasts then it makes no difference, if not then you won't have to take up residence in a card board box.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: About Kiltboy's situation, posted by Craig on Apr 10, 2004

My wife will be returning to North Carolina for the hearing on tuesday. She had left a messege the day she left on my ex american wifes cell phone that she would always love my daughter and consider her family and that she would see me in court on tuesday and then no more.

The man in NY also confirmed she would be in court as she is desperate to save her immigration status