My Wife Has Someone reading The Board For Her

[Kiltboy1]

Guys

I am not going to post anymore information on my situation as i am fairly sure my wife has someone reading the board and telling her whats is being said.She told me yesterday that she knows i have been saying bad things about her(yes, and she deserves what i say as well) , but it will do nothing but get her more angry and harder to deal with, so if anyone wants to keep up with the saga , email me at
adoyle33@aol.com

I will be glad to keep you updated

Thanks

[mudd]

... in response to My Wife Has Someone reading The Board Fo..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 14, 2004

I still think you should hire a P.I in her city to see what skeletons are in her closet. Im sure if a local P.I digs some dirt up on her, you could use it against her for her bogus abuse case. She might have told people her plan to marry some American sucker and use him for a green card, couldn’t hurt. Besides, with an abuse case filed against you, I don’t thing you are going to bring another girl here, even if you do find a good one.

[kented]

... in response to My Wife Has Someone reading The Board Fo..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 14, 2004

I will tell you my experience with my ex Colombian wife.  She is undoubtably not the worst by far and in retrospect the major error was mine for not taking enough time and ignoring red flags.

That said, my wife had come from a bad relationship and either didn't know how to compromise about anything or just hadn't done it for so long she had forgotten how.  She was clearly unwilling to try and make our relationship work.

Every Colombiana has friends here who know the system far better that we do (the part which deals with BCIS).  She  turned down $5000 and got nothing.  I don't see how whether you speak kindly about her will help anything but I certainly wouldn't reveal any legal strategy.  

I was bitter and after suffering a year, I used this board to gloat because I know she read it.  It's a long painful process and nothing in my life has affected me as deeply as this hurt and deception (and her greed) did.  But all things pass.  You need to reinvent yourself and move forward.

Kented

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: My Wife Has Someone reading The Boar..., posted by kented on Apr 14, 2004

Kented

You and i sound like we were married to the same woman. She was not all bad , they just were opportunist

[Pete E]

... in response to My Wife Has Someone reading The Board Fo..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 14, 2004

Andy,
Yes this is a public forum and alot of people are aware of it who don't post.My ex knew everything I posted.Even now she probably gets reports.
I don't care,but you don't want to post anything you don't want her to know about.
On the other hand its a way to send a message to her if you want,like you screwed it up big time again.

Pete

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: My Wife Has Someone reading The Boar..., posted by Pete E on Apr 14, 2004

Hi Pete

yes, you are correct there as well. I just do not want to piss her off so bad that it makes getting this divorce take longer then possible. Also, i do not want to say anything she could use against me in immigration or court.

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to Re: Re: My Wife Has Someone reading The ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 14, 2004

Kiltboy

You might want to edit that last post before "Someone" reads it.  If she thinks doing what you posted will make you unhappy, she may do so just for spite.

Steve

[cancunhound]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: My Wife Has Someone reading ..., posted by DallasSteve2 on Apr 14, 2004

At the same token these posts could be viewed as "public announcements" - seems like in those iffy scenarios in the courts at least you have a paper trail of your side of the story?  Wild guess

I haven't followed this whole clusterfu%k and I'm surprised that one could get booted out of their own house due to "spousal abuse" without any proof whatsoever?

Our legal system is getting out of control.  I would sure as hell report the gal to Immigration as it would appear she had a boyfriend in place in New York from day one - her intent in the relationship was just to get that visa - that will have her exported for a LONG time.

Of course, we only have one side of the story

CaliGringo.com

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: My Wife Has Someone read..., posted by cancunhound on Apr 14, 2004

The man in Ny i have spoken to 3 times in length and he has told me he is getting married next month to his fiance in equidor and has no interest in claudia other then friends--i cannot prove anything if he is lying or not--i have no idea--the only person i know for sure is lying to me is CLAUDIA

[jim c]

... in response to My Wife Has Someone reading The Board Fo..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 14, 2004

I thnk actually she is happy that her plan is working (at this point) and she is somewhere else without you. I doubt that she has thought this thru completely. Impulsive people generally accept small victories. I am sure she will regret leaving Colombia and New York is a cold,cold place.
  Now that you are free and the court case is not pending, you need to go foreward. Connection with your past romance good or bad is still connection. So stand up,wipe your mouth,use some mouthwash and move on. The lawyers will handle your legal problems. Go back to Colombia and take your time enjoying the present instead of trying to buy the future.      
  Courting can be very pleasant and enlightening.  You feel so much better making choices when financial issues are not involved and there is no emergency. I am aware of the temptation of a permanant relationship, but find out if it can be permanent, before you make it permanant.jimc

[Brazilophile]

... in response to My Wife Has Someone reading The Board Fo..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 14, 2004

Maybe. Maybe not.

Separation and divorce is an emotionally stressing time for anyone.  When you add being in a foreign country, not knowing many people, not speaking the language well, and being worried about a child in another country, the stress level sky rockets.  When people are under that kind of stress they tend to do the things we learn about in Psych 101.  For example, projection.  I'll bet she is saying bad things about you and is projecting her bad behavior on to you with her claim that you are saying bad things about her.

I don't think being more reticent in public about your situation is a bad idea.  I just don't think she has spies working for her.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: My Wife Has Someone reading The Boar..., posted by Brazilophile on Apr 14, 2004

You could be right, but i am 100% positive that people in the "colombian underground" helped her get set up with the lady she is staying with. My wife is extreamely smart, diobolical, whatever you want to call it. i expect there are colombians that view this site to obtain the type of information about our system that is written on this board. If i were in this type of group, i would look for boards like these to learn how to get around our Immigration system and other things as well.

[Troy]

... in response to Re: Re: My Wife Has Someone reading The ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Apr 14, 2004

Been reading this soap-opera, guess I'm different.  No way in hell I'd let some foreign b*tch run me like this.  With the peoples I know, she'd be hustling to get OUT of America, not stay, and can't nobody's underground stop that.

I bet these LA scammers have a profile of the kind of American men they can intimidate and get over on.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to You're too soft, posted by Troy on Apr 14, 2004

think what you want , but the people helping her have a lot of money behind them. immigration is not going to do anything about deporting her either . just because she is from another country does not mean anything. In a way, she has more rights as a green card holder then a citizen as far as immigration is concerned. I am not soft as you say, i am pissed off like hell , but i spent 2 years with her and they were not all bad.