for Kevin: the typical Filipina

[dd]

"Contrast the typical Filipino mindset today. Many want to get to the USA as soon as possible and it doesn't matter how. In a way it's prostituting oneself to fake love over a protracted period. Once she gets here, because there was never any love for this guy, she's a very miserable soul especially once she realizes that the money can and does quickly run out and she can't get the things she idealized."

Kevin, it is my impression that the typical Filipina DOES NOT want to go to the USA as soon as possible and no matter what. Many would prefer to stay with their families. I met a very sweet friend in Baguio City this Spring, and her dream is to have a little house in Baguio, close to her family, siblings and cousins. To move overseas and be dependent on her husband would not be her first choice...

I am not saying the others don't exist, of course they do, but I don't think it is 'typical'...

('timex' aka 'cc' posting as 'dd' in the future...)

[Jeff S]

... in response to for Kevin: the typical Filipina, posted by dd on Aug 18, 2001

Not just Filipinas. You hear the same topics discussed on all three boards, the Russian, Latin and here on the Asian. Most of the married guys experience the same thing: their wives settle with living here but it wouldn't be their first choice. They'd rather have stayed home but are willing to move for the right guy.
-- Jeff S.

[Ray]

... in response to for Kevin: the typical Filipina, posted by dd on Aug 18, 2001

Good observation dd! I agree with your impressions of the "typical Filipina".

Hey, Baguio is a really nice place. A great town to settle down in if you ever want to chuck it all and move overseas.

This "cc", "timex", and "dd" stuff is all so confusing. What does "dd" signify? "Dumb Democrat"? (ROFL!) Why not stick with the old "cc" handle? Or at least something like "c squared" or maybe "c (2x)"?

So, what are you doing in Berlin? Attending a global convention of proctologists? (just kidding)

Keep us posted on your Vietnam adventure and watch out for those commies over there :-)

Ray

[humabdos]

... in response to for Kevin: the typical Filipina, posted by dd on Aug 18, 2001

n/t

[Dave H2O]

... in response to for Kevin: the typical Filipina, posted by dd on Aug 18, 2001

...often it is a bridge of love.

Hi dd,

I think that many Filipinas might have a fascination with America, but not necessarily a desire to live here. It is only natural since America is so much a part of the Philippines, from Coke and McDonalds to MacArthur and Mickey Mouse. Several months ago I asked my fiancee whether she preferred to live in America or in the Philippines. Marife said that since she had never been to America, she did not really know what it was like. Marife said that she would let me know after several years. I felt that it was certainly a fair answer. I pressed a little more and she told me that she wanted to be where I was. While she would prefer to live in her barangay in the Philippines, she knew that I could not live there with her, due to my reponsibilities as a single parent of my two minor sons. Thus, she decided that she would leave her homeland and family, coming here with only a suitcase to marry and live with me. I think that it is usually love that motivates these women to leave everything behind and come to America. As with any marriage, it doesn't always work out and of course there are always a few exceptions (ie. gold diggers).

My fiancee's sister has lived in America for almost 2 years. They lived together in the Philippines during their first year of marriage. She would return to her barangay to live in a heartbeat, if her husband would join her. I have also known many Filipina nurses here on work visas, whose plan was to return to the Philippines to live one day. They were not looking for Americans to marry so they could stay. The only ones that seemed to want to stay were those with American husbands and children here.

Dave H.

[Stephen]

... in response to for Kevin: the typical Filipina, posted by dd on Aug 18, 2001

There is too much being said about how everyone in the world is just dying to get to America regardless of what they have to do to get here.

Filipinas are family oriented.  They like to be together.  Moving half-way around the world is going to separate you from the family.

A smart lady will think it through very thoroughly before coming to America.

Stephen

PS.....Tess has said to me several times that she never thought of living in America. She never gave it any thought even after we started writing to each other.  She is satisfied with being a Philippine citizen.  I doubt that she will get her American citizenship.  That's okay with me.  It's her decision.  (I told her I'd expect her to vote Republican if she were an American citizen.)

[William]

... in response to I agree with Double D!.........., posted by Stephen on Aug 18, 2001

If she had to vote republican, I can understand why she
might not want to be an american citizen.

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: I agree with Double D!.........., posted by William on Aug 18, 2001

I feel like if you're going to be an American, then you ought to vote like one.

Stephen

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to for Kevin: the typical Filipina, posted by dd on Aug 18, 2001


Last January I conducted a search for a USA businessman that somehow had special diplomatic passport.  That allowed him to take his new bride home to USA immediately - NO Visa wait!  I should also mention he said he would buy his bride's parents a new house and he seemed to have much money.  He was in 40s and was reasonably handsome.

On the personality side, he was very opinionated, bragadosious, self-centered, and seemed to really enjoy using his "power" of position and money. I should also mention.  He also had very strict demands like he wanted fiancee to get pregnant before marriage so he knew he would have heir.

I tried for 6 weeks to find matches for him until he requested I stop search.  None of my friends were interested- not even one.  I did find him several candidates but they were not women "I" would consider if "I" was a man.  But, they met his requirements and were interested in him.  

This experience made me feel good about my friends and what they valued above EASY life and immediate USA home.  I also felt good as I had no interest to what I suspect many Western men would see as "HoT competition"

He did marry a Filipina and I must give him credit as he did keep promises.  He met woman in different way during a trip to PI and I do not know her but did speak with her.  I hope they are happy.

So, this good "test" of cc or dd's comments.  I wonder if next year will you be called ee?

Blessings on the search for True Love and congratulations to those that have found it,

jean