The Missing My Girl "Funk"

[JimmySTLOUIS]

Hi everyone
Once again I appreciate this board and its members.
Good to see Pete back on track too.

Everything with my girl is going super. Many of you know I have been to Peru twice (Thanksgiving and Christmas) to see her. Everything is wonderful.
We now talk on the phone for at least an hour a day plus many text messages all day long.
This girl really is the sweetest girl I have ever met. She is crazy about me and I am crazy about her.

Here is the downside.
I am back in St. Louis and my job is nothing near what it should be. Its freezing cold with snow and ice. My house is huge and empty.
The only thing that really seems to make me happy is thousands of miles away. I had such a wnderful time with her. Every minute was great.

I am sure some of you have been throught this. It really is becoming a problem for me mentally. I cant seem to motivate to do the things I need to do here. All I want to do is take the next plane back to Peru and stay there. I know that I should be more motivated to do the things that will get me back with her but ........

For know I have one thing on my mind and everything else is BLAH.

The "Funk" is really getting to me - any ideas?

Te Amo Peru!

jim

[tnolan1]

... in response to The Missing My Girl "Funk", posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Jan 28, 2004

Ahhhh Yes....
I remember it very well.  I went through the same depression and anxiety in between my flights to Peru (5x in 6 months) while waiting for my wife.  Here are a few things that helped us:

Get a webcam and do Video conferencing with her.
This probably helped more than anything.

Take some classes in Spanish.

Prepare the house for her arrival.  got through it with a Fine toothed comb and make sure that you have gooten rid of ANY old photos with other women.  Don't even leave a Hair from another woman in your Bathroom.  Even if it's your mothers.  She WILL find it (The attic is Not a Safe Place to store old photos no matter how well camouflaged).

Participate in discussions like this one and be active in the Googles newsgroups like alt.visa.us.marriage-based.  It is great for Timelines plus it helps to know that you are not the only one suffering.

Does she like animals?  Get a pet!  It will help you for now and her when she arrives and is going through culture shock.  Also, she won't feel alone all day while you are working.

Hope that helps!
Terry Nolan
Te Amo Peru!
Te Amo Betty!
www.mylatinrose.com

[lswote]

... in response to The Missing My Girl "Funk", posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Jan 28, 2004

No ideas, but I know the feeling.  My wife went to Colombia to have the support of her mother when she had our baby and she has been there since Jan 1st and probably won't be back here till early to mid March.  We talk on the phone everyday, but lately are conversations have become more stilted between bad phone connections, post partum depression on her part and me being tired from working 10 or 11 hour days.

I know the feeling exactly.

[Fuzzyone]

... in response to The Missing My Girl "Funk", posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Jan 28, 2004

Jim

   Hey dude.. I know I said alot to you but  I got to tell you. It is not easy
sometimes you feel like you are a caged animal all you want to do is be
with her. I know you are talking with her I think msn so talk to her as
much as possible. Think about what you want to do, you have to work
hard to get it. That girl needs you too and I bet you your pay check right
now she misses you so much she could cry. Hang in there because the
light is in the tunnel do everything you can now. What I mean by that is
start looking and learning about everything you will need to get her here.
You already have done the hard part dude you won her heart now it is
just time. One day your house will not be empty and your life will be
filled. Close your eyes and dream she will be there with always until the
day you bring her here. Motivate your self you can do it look at the two
guys who put pics up here I think it is great and in the future you can be
another one. I hope that some I can too put pics here showing a happy
family mine...... Good luck

Chuck