Question for the more knowledgeable(sp?)

[Howard]

I met someone that is considering exploring the penpal route in his search for happiness.  I invited him to come here, but he says he's not ready to participate yet, which I understand.  Anyway, I'm a bit out of touch with the newer sites, but aren't there a few that deal primarily with e-mail correspondence?  He is interested in writing ladies from the Philippines.  Does anyone know of a site that works this way?  I couldn't remember the name of the one I knew of back in the day :c)

Just thought I'd ask :c)

Thanks in Advance :c)

H

[Cecil]

... in response to Question for the more knowledgeable(sp?), posted by Howard on Aug 9, 2001

Howard,

Cherry Blossoms has listing for emailing only and all the women must have an email account to be part of it.

Cecil

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to Re: Question for the more knowledgeable(..., posted by Cecil on Aug 10, 2001


Hi Cecil.

Just curious as I know many clubs, agencies, directories require a form field to have something entered to go on to next page?

Like example, I have to use USA zip code to get many forms on the Internet to process even though they have option for foreign country.  Just programmer didn't consider that when they write error checking program.  So, you will see me sometimes, and it say I live in CA (90210 is one of feww USA zips I can remember :-) even though I live in HK as I had to enter it to get to next page of form :-(

So, because of my experience and knowing many times it is others who actually enter women's info, it makes me have doubt to acturacy, especially on email issue.  So, what has been others experience?  Does same woman in ad reply by email when you send her email through CB or other such agencies?  This I know is changing as more really do have email now than last year.

By the way, my trip home postpone as my employer get sick and I have to stay.

Blessings,

Jean

[Cecil]

... in response to Is email really theirs most of the time ..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Aug 10, 2001

Hi Jean,

I am very distrustful of agencies which for a fee will forward email to a lady.  They do not give you a postal address so you are completely dependent on them to communicate with the lady.  I know on the Russian side there have been agencies that will make up email letters to collect a fee from you for each reply.  Cherry Blossoms is different in that they do not charge for email communication.  When I began this journey, most ladies did not have email or telephones so letter writing was the only option.  The truth is that the ladies who have email access have a huge advantage.  If a lady corresponds by postal mail, she will send about three letters in three months.  a lady who sends two emails a week for the same three months will have sent 24 letters in the same time.  Who will I know better?  We should keep in mind that ladies who have email tend to have access to more American men so they will tend to be more likely to be scamming you.  No offense Jean, but that is the main reason I do not write to Hong Kong. The ladies are in a big city with all the western influences.  I am writing to a OCW in Dubai and she has told me some of the wild things these ladies do when mama and papa are not around.  One of the reason that we are writing ladies in the Phils is to find ladies which have more traditional values.  I will emphasize that many OCW retain their family's values despite the environment.

Cecil

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Is email really theirs most of the t..., posted by Cecil on Aug 12, 2001

Hi Cecil!

I am a bit confused by your statement “If a lady corresponds by postal mail, she will send about three letters in three months”. Where does it say that in the rule books? I think it is a fairly widespread misconception that you have to wait for a reply to a letter before you can send another. This will cause all kinds of problems if you follow that line of thinking. An otherwise nice correspondence can die real fast if one letter gets lost because you may never get a reply.

My suggestion for those corresponding by snail mail or e-mail: Write whenever you can and don’t worry about how many letters you wrote vs. how many she wrote (that’s so trivial). If you want to write every day or twice a day, go for it. My then fiancée really enjoyed receiving 5, 10, or even 27 letters at one time.

Just my $.02,

Ray
 

[Cecil]

... in response to 1 letter per month?, posted by Ray on Aug 12, 2001

Ray,

When you first begin your correspondence you write to several filipinas and wait to see who is interested.  It makes no sense to me to write five letters right away to a lady before you receive a reply and are sure that she has an interest in you.  After you realize a lady has an interest you can write more frequently but by that time the lady with the email access is sooooo far ahead of her.  There is no way that you can learn about a lady as quickly with postal mail as you do emailing IMHO.

Cecil

[Ray]

... in response to Re: 1 letter per month?, posted by Cecil on Aug 12, 2001

I agree that the initial contacts will be slower with snail mail. But I have known guys who have been writing to a lady for a long time and they would not send a letter until they received a reply to their last one ("it's her turn to write"). Then they would feel jilted or something if it didn't come in time.

If you're in an on-going relationship with a particular lady, I would recommend using both e-mail and snail mail if you can. They always appreciate a hand written letter or card (with photos).

Also, if you've ever spent time in an Internet cafe in the Phils, you would understand that there are likely to be more than one person reading your e-mails :-)

Ray

[kevin]

... in response to 1 letter per month?, posted by Ray on Aug 12, 2001

Once I felt serious with my ex, I wrote practically everday.  I had a supply of stamps, assorted denominations, and a postal scale handy.  I might write 3 or 4 days in a row, then take a break for 1, 2, or 3 days.  That was my writing pattern.

My ex said that the post-man thought I was a crazy lunatic because of the frequency that my letters were coming in.  Looking back, I have a funny memory.  After my Philippines trip, but before my ex came here on the K1, I made a fart tape and sent it out to her.  I have memories of making it, what I said, and thinking about it makes me laugh.

My correspondence with Analyn followed the same pattern as that with my ex-wife, except that the correspondence was electronic.  In addition, I have sent her snail-mail, but never received snail-mail from her.  I'd send cards, pictures and money in snail-mail.  The only physical, tangible piece of material I got from her was a pink international return receipt card with her signature on it, verifying that she receive a package that I shipped out.

- Kevin

[tito]

... in response to Question for the more knowledgeable(sp?), posted by Howard on Aug 9, 2001

Howard,

I met my fiance thru the one-and-only.com.You pay 24.95 for one month and you can send as many emails to women from all around the globe.There are many in different parts of the RP.My girl works in an office and has email access.So does her friend who put her on there.I wrote 24 emails one weekend and got 15 responses in three days.Most were women working in offices.Only one internet teenager responded.She was a real trip!!Most have pictures but some don't.I only wrote to one that had no picture.She should be here soon:)

I haven't responded to any your recent posts about "the troubles" because,frankly dude, I am in awe.I am unworthy;)
Your courage in posting and the lengths you are going to too save this marriage is inspiring.I am rooting for you and your wife,man.Yours is a situation which I believe could go either way.It must be killing you but you soldier on.Your "the man"!Follow your gut.That is God whispering to you.Take care and stay cool.

tito

[Howard]

... in response to Re: Question for the more knowledgeable(..., posted by tito on Aug 9, 2001

Tito,

Thanks for the kind words :c)  They are much appreciated, especially right now :c)

The funny thing about God's little whispers are that while he whispers "It's over.  You will never reach her.  You will never find the happiness you thought you would in her.  You deserve better, it's time to move on..." in one ear; He immediately whispers "Are you SURE you've done everything that you can?" in the other.  I've always said God has a twisted sense of humor :c)

Thanks for the support and info :c)

H

[Dave H2O]

... in response to Re: Re: Question for the more knowledgea..., posted by Howard on Aug 9, 2001

H~,

That isn't God whispering those negative things in your ear. Send "Mr. Negative" back to the hot place he came from. No...I don't mean Florida or the Philippines. He is the one that makes you doubt God. God is love, not confusion.

Dave H.

[Howard]

... in response to Think about it..., posted by Dave H2O on Aug 10, 2001

Dave,

Now you KNOW I love you man, but the "company line" always leaves me confused.  Of the thoughts I am having, which ones are the negative ones?  

Think about it.  Depending on which side of the fence you're on you could attribute either comments to either side.  That's why I chose to use a combination of thought, prayer, logic and conscience in making my decisions :c)

Any and ALL guidence is much appreciated :c)

H

[Dave H2O]

... in response to Re: Think about it..., posted by Howard on Aug 11, 2001

Hi H,

...you end up falling off like me! I'm a slow learner.

I love you too man. :c) Too me, the "doubts" are the negative thoughts. You chose a combination of "thought, prayer, logic, conscience" and "DOUBT" in this situation. )

I am not some sort holy rolling religious freak. Ok, I may be a freak. ;o)) It has been a long slow process. I learned to believe in things that I couldn't see through the "eyes" of others. I have been with several thousand people when they died. (NO, I didn't kill them) I have successfully resuscitated some who were clinically dead. Sometimes people talk...and when they did, I listened. I don't believe too many people die atheists. I helped care for my mother and saw her slowly die over 12 years, from when I was 7 years old, until she died when I was 19. I took care of my father for 6 months when he was terminally ill. My parents were Christians and never lost their faith. Sometimes they had doubts, but they always overcame them.

I have heard and seen enough to believe in a higher power, whatever name we call it. I was raised a Christian, although I wouldn't say that I was ever a very good one. I have always been a doubter, partially due to the suffering and inhumanity I have witnessed, since my early childhood. I always wanted to know, "Why God? How could you let this happen?" Some things we have no control over. But, I now believe that we have allowed most things to happen to ourselves. It is due to our belief that we are the "God" of our own universe and ignore divine "help" that comes our way. People smoke cigarettes and ask, "God how could you let me get lung cancer?" When I was married, I chose to ignore almost all of the advise that came my way. Most was from very knowledgeable people, which included a priest and a minister, who got their advice from the Bible. When my marriage ended...I asked God how he allowed this to happen to me. After all, I was a good person who helped many others in their time of need. It seems that God only enters most of our lives when we want to blame him for something. I never went to church when everything was going well, unless there was a wedding or a funeral. I read hundreds of books, including self-help topics, but not the Bible, which is a divine manual for living.

Perhaps I will always be a back sliding Christian. At least now I am aware of it and am trying to change. I admire the faith of others that is far greater than mine. I am sure that others here can quote the specific Biblical passages about how the "Devil" uses doubt to confuse us.

If Gary Busey can find God, can Howard Stern be very far behind?

Dave H.

[Carl]

... in response to Think about it..., posted by Dave H2O on Aug 10, 2001

n/t

[Jimbo]

... in response to Think about it..., posted by Dave H2O on Aug 10, 2001

Dave,

El Diablo is whispering those negative things?  Better tell our man huma... 'cause I think ole El Diablo has got hold of BOTH of his ears! )))

Jim