... in response to Sharing impressions, posted by Zebson on Jul 17, 2001Hi Zeb!
My gut reaction is that it makes me very uncomfortable. If I take more time to think about it I suppose it wouldn't seem so ominous, but right now, thinking about the way she just left a note (instead of telling you in person)... well it just doesn't seem right. But if, as you say, this is who she is, a non-typical Filipina, maybe it's just her and not a big deal.
Unless I felt that I knew her pretty well (as well as might be possible given this method of courtship), I would be worried about her having other motives, like running off on her own now that she's in the country. Or worse, running off with a man who might have participated in a deceptive plot. That, I guess, is the worst case scenario and luckily not a likely one.
Do you know where she is staying? This, for me, would be a must. Can you contact her once a day, maybe just at night so as not to overly pester her? She may be independent but she has also made a commitment to marry, so I think she should be open to your concerns when a pressing need like this comes over her.
Good luck Zeb - I'll stay tuned on this one! Let's see what the others say. Somehow I don't want to believe that there is big trouble here. Maybe I just don't want to overreact. Mostly I want to think about it more, but it's tough without all the facts.
Jim
