Harvesting A Wife

[Celt]

... in response to Re: Re: gotta love them bears, posted by Pete E on Apr 27, 2003

There is a big hunting trophy for Uribe on CNN today.
A top-rebel commander turned himself in. He said that
he missed his children. Notice how even the most zealous
revolutionaries re-think their positions when they notice
that society is willing to fight back. The pro-Iran Shiites
should be learning that lesson around now.

[Edge]

... in response to Harvesting A Wife, posted by hwalker7 on Apr 26, 2003

is who are you trying to make happy in your life??  Yourself or other people, including your family?  Look to what you think will make you happy in your life.  The people who care for you want you to be happy.

 By far the best decision I have made was to go to S.A. to look for a wife.  After all is said and done all the people who know me, and now my wife, would definitely agree.

 I just said I was heading south to meet a woman I met on the internet and for a vacation, which was the truth.  I also did not tell many people what I was up to until I became certain that I had met the woman I wanted to marry.  People are naturally curious about this.

I remember talking to my dentist who I like alot (even though I cannot believe what he gets away with charging for fees).  He is about the same age.  He has told me about his divorce and how he finally found another woman to marry and now he is happy.  On later visits, I told him what I was doing and he was very curious.  He remarked that my latina wife "probabably treats me well".  After he met my wife, I could tell that he was impressed.  We talked privately and he said I really had done something good that many men might envy.  It took him a long time to find a woman here in Denver who he thought was easy going and not a "b*tch" and did not have a ton of baggage.  I met his wife and she is a very nice woman, but to be completely honest, to me she is not very attactive.  But the important thing is for him to be happy.

Some men I know have commented that I "have balls" to do what I did.  Travel to Colombia and go through the whole process to bring a woman here and get married, etc.  There is risk involved and you need to keep a clear head and make good decisions.  The payoff for me was a life of happiness with a good woman who is very attractive.

The adjustment period can be rough and that is why I think we do not hear from men after the wives get here.  Things are either going really well or they may be having problems.

Now that my family knows my wife, everyone is enamored with her, she is a sweetheart.

The bottom line is to do what you think will make you happy.  People do not need to know too much about your business now until you are sure of your course.

Good luck.

[hwalker7]

... in response to the question you need to ask yourself......, posted by Edge on Apr 27, 2003

Thanks Edge.

You speak with much wisdom.

Just recently I was talking with someone about women. We were both talking about the "package" and the "sweetness." Oh, how many times have I encountered and even dated women who had the package-- very attractive, but who were not nice. In fact, it was/is difficult for them to be nice. I remember one woman who I dated a brief while and who was quite shapely, yet was cold, rude, and moody, say to me,"I am, what I am."

On the other hand you have some women who are sweet but as we all know are not attractive. Some guys can do it, I guess. But, often I don't see that smile etched on their face when they are with their wives or girlfriends who may be nice but unattractive.

Well, I'm not settling.

I do anticipate an adjustment period. Later, I will field comments regarding that, i.e., the language barrier, culture, money, and more.

As far as telling people, I will be wise and discreet. It is MY happiness that is key.

Thanks,

~Henry Andre'

[HeyNow]

... in response to Harvesting A Wife, posted by hwalker7 on Apr 26, 2003

I have a friend that married a Woman from Cali.  He said the people that are supportive and pleased with his decision to go overseas for a wife, are in a good marriage relationship themselves.  On the other hand the people that criticize him are in bad marriages.

[Brassa]

... in response to Harvesting A Wife, posted by hwalker7 on Apr 26, 2003

A lot of times i see this brought up. About, "What will peers think"?  "Why cant you find a woman here"? "Why is she so young"? And it really seems to worry folks. I only wish i could give anyone with that concern just a tad of my attitude. I guess i am probably self centered but i care not one bit what other people think in what i do to pursue happiness. I dont live in a vacuum but i can tell you,Its the very fact of being different and unique in your pursuit of happiness that will actually draw people to like you eventually. Dont worry about what anyone thinks unless your asking for advice because you cant find happiness on your own. Good luck