Courting?

[Bear]

... in response to You should go out more..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 8, 2001

I got all I need with Honey.  No need to get out more.  She and I were so honest about our thoughts, beliefs and needs that games of "hard to get" were not nescessary.  But we did do the "cute" things.  If you notice I still do them very publically.

Bear

[Carrisse]

... in response to Courting?, posted by Cecil on Jul 7, 2001

The Filipino male visits his love interest in her home and begins the courting.  This could entail giving flowers and some other little gifts and the courtship will also make it possible for him to get to know her on her turf as well as her parents. It would also make it possible for her parents to size him up and interview the guy to determine his qualifications as a future husband and father of their future grandchildren.

The courtship's duration depends on how fast or how slow she will give her answer to his question: 'Do you love me too?'.  And she may allow several admirers/courters visit her.  This is still the norm in the PI.  And just because she said 'Yes I love you too" doesn't mean that you are betrothed to her.  It just meant that you are now officially boyfriend and girlfriend.  And it is also the norm to be boyfriend and girlfriend for years before marriage and in some cases some relationships don't even end up in marriage.

Question:  Here in the States, is it the norm for boyfriend/girlfriend to have sex before marriage?

Part 2 coming soon.

[tomtneal]

... in response to Courting--How the Pinoys do it to win th..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 7, 2001

it is a requirement of the Aw women to be done no later than the 2 date or she finds somebody else
tneal

[Stephen]

... in response to Courting--How the Pinoys do it to win th..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 7, 2001

Yes, I think that a couple generally has sex prior to marriage.

However, this should not be done too quickly.  Usually, the man should wait until the end........ of the FIRST DATE.

Stephen

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: Courting--How the Pinoys do it to wi..., posted by Stephen on Jul 7, 2001

;-)

[Stephen]

... in response to Not on the first date!  Shouldn't you at..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 7, 2001

Of course you should play hard to get.

I mean, you certainly don't want a guy to think you're a loose chick.

That why I said to wait until the END of the first date.

I'm a traditional guy.

Stephen

[Berg]

... in response to Courting--How the Pinoys do it to win th..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 7, 2001

This was actually a good answer. If I understand correct its more a formalized process. You sort of declare your interest? Are you expected to introduce your parents to her as soon as you met hers?

Answer: Yes most often you would have sex before marriage. I take it this is not the case in Phi?

[tomtneal]

... in response to Re: Courting-- Carrisse, posted by Berg on Jul 7, 2001

it sure isn't the case there i had to wait nine month's after she got here,then a very painful 2 weeks after she got here there was no question in my mind she was a 27 year old virgin
tneal

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: Courting-- Carrisse, posted by Berg on Jul 7, 2001

it is not too common and if it indeed happen then the man should marry the woman to save her and her family's honor.

[jon]

... in response to Courting--How the Pinoys do it to win th..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 7, 2001

Excellent part one, I am looking forward to future parts so
I can better understand your culture.

As for your question, it seems sex happens quite frequently
and at a very young age here in the US. Whether the people
are boyfriend and girlfriend seem to have very little to do
with it.  I keep hearing how kids as young as 13 are
sexually active.  It's my opinion that this is due to the lack
of the nucular family and lack family values passed
from the parents to the children.

Me, I was a very late bloomer which makes me an exception.
While I found the thought of sex very very interesting, I
thought it had it's place and I did not have to spend my
entire waking moments trying to get boinked.

[Carrisse]

... in response to sex before marriage?, posted by jon on Jul 7, 2001

Check your mail.

I'm at work trying to get some H1Bs done in order to make the INS cut-off.  How are you doing?