Courting?

[Cecil]

One of my penpals wrote to me and said that I had not "courted" her yet and she could not wait to see how I do it.  I can't wait either becoz I am not sure what she means by courting.  Is that like bring her flowers and taking her to dinner?  Thanks for your insight.

Cecil

[KADAMS]

... in response to Courting?, posted by Cecil on Jul 7, 2001

I have visited HK and some of the Filipina hangouts, I don't think the standard courting method will apply. The OCW's tend to me more self-sufficient and Americanised. I would venture to say that the old fashioned method would work best in the Province, but what about Cities as Manilla and Cebu? I think it is safe to say the the country ladies are not the same as the City ladies, far from it. And do the Pinays keep "province values" if/when they come to the states?

interesting.

[rgg]

... in response to Does this only apply to small city?, posted by KADAMS on Jul 8, 2001

I should say it has something to do with whether or not the family still plays an influence on the lady's life. Filipinas still living with their parents even if they are already working will generally tend to be careful about who they go out with. These women i must say are the best catch for any guy looking for a mate. Their place of residence do not dictate their values but the family acts as a guidepost.

On the other hand, women who for some circumstances have went on their own to look for jobs be it in the cities or outside the country have for some reason or another broken links with the family. Theirs have become a mixture of both family and personal values gained from living by their own wits. Personal values can be good or bad depending on how a person has acquired it. To a GRO(bar girl) stripping is ok as long as it brings in the money while to a decent girl its a no-no even if it means going hungry. Admittedly, a city girls values have a tendency to be more liberal but it does not diminish the influence that parents, a brother or a sister have over her.

[tomtneal]

... in response to Courting?, posted by Cecil on Jul 7, 2001

about the same here except alway's plan for 3 or 4 people instrad of two and ask her parents permission to take her out and let them no ehere you are goeing and what time she will be home
tneal

[Carrisse]

... in response to Courting?, posted by Cecil on Jul 7, 2001

I think DaveH should write this part as he did what to me epitomizes the Foreigners how to in courting.

Courting in the Philippines is not only trying to win your love interest's heart but it also meant trying to win her family's approval.  Yes, we're all in this together.  Our family's opinion especially our parent's have a big say as to whether we will accept your love or not.

My suggestion is for you to tell her your feelings and hope that she will reciprocate. Also tell her that you would like to meet her family to thank them for raising a fine daughter (this should be done ONLY when you are REALLY in love with this girl).

Saying sweet nothings is the first step in courting--especially in long distance courting.  Pinays are truly romantic at heart and we always get excited to read and/or hear sweet nothings.

The question is:  Are you ready to take this step??

C

P.S. Hey, maybe I should write a book LOL!

[shadow]

... in response to Courting--Part 3  A Guide to Foreign Men..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 7, 2001

for a very enlightening series. You touched on many subjects and made it sound sensible. Larry.

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to thank you, Carrisse..., posted by shadow on Jul 8, 2001

Especially about do not commit, especially to parents until you know you love woman.   Very Important!!!!

Jean
http://IOPP.com/jean.htm

[KADAMS]

... in response to Carrisse... you go gir! ... she tells it..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 8, 2001

I have read your Web page, interesting. I noticed you mentioned you enjoy the Discos, where? I will look for you next time I visit HK, if you don't mind. I will be happy to post some photos for the nice people on the page of your service, if you wish. I have emailed you several times, but you do not reply. Perhaps I do not meet the "personal search criteria"?

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to Are you this way?, posted by KADAMS on Jul 8, 2001

Hi is this AF?

I did answer your emails last Spring.  My log show I sent the last one.  Yes, it was full of qualifying questions I ask before accepting a personal search and often I do not get a reply when I ask such serious questions so I just think you change mind.  

Perhaps you not receive my email as ISP's do seem to eat too0oo many.  I just noticed a new email from AF.  I will reply privately and we can go from there.  If KADAMS is not AF then email me again and mention this BB and I will answer 1st, OK?

Blessings,

Jean
Jean@FilipinaCupid.com

[Carrisse]

... in response to thank you, Carrisse..., posted by shadow on Jul 8, 2001

Did you know that the cycle is reversed after the wedding? Yes, the guy did the courting before the marriage but it is now the woman's job to keep him interested and begging for more.  Soooooo, the cycle begins once again but the players are reversed.

[humabdos]

... in response to Your welcome Larry..it gets interesting ..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 8, 2001

Bull crap! lol

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: Your welcome Larry..it gets interest..., posted by humabdos on Jul 8, 2001

;-)

[tomtneal]

... in response to Your welcome Larry..it gets interesting ..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 8, 2001

yes and i loooove it
tneal

[shadow]

... in response to Your welcome Larry..it gets interesting ..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 8, 2001

I wouldn't know anything about that.  Might be interesting to try it sometime, though, just to see if you're right!!!! Seems farfetched!  Larry

[Bear]

... in response to Courting--Part 3  A Guide to Foreign Men..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 7, 2001

Honey was the one I wrote a ltter to her parents and included one from my mother introducing herself and telling them a little bit about our family.  It was surprisingly helpful.  MOF she said her father said after he read the letters "He sounds pretty serious!" (hehehehe)

Its odd though all the mistakes *I* made while I was there, Honey got the blame for.  I have never seen a society so set on women keeping there husbands in line and yet having no authority to do it with.

Bear