Dating ringers at Latin Encounters

[Calipro]

Just got back from dating the ringers at Latin Encounters and I have to say I had a great time. I didn’t stay at the agency and I didn’t have any dealings with Margaret at all so I can’t comment on her one way or the other.  I did deal with Shirley and I have to say I was impressed with her performance. I had approximately 15 appointments with the 15 best looking women in the agency and all but one showed up, to me that is a job well done.

I decided to join latin encounters because they had the largest number of young beautiful women.  Ringer or no ringer if the chick is hot and is willing to meet with me than I want to meet her. The rest is up to me.
Colombian chicks are like monkeys. Monkeys don’t let go of one branch until they have a good hold of another and Colombian chicks won’t let go of one guy until they have another to hang on to. I find it incredibly hard to believe that done of the women I dated at Latin encounters didn’t have a boyfriend or two. I mean these chicks are hot and all kinds of guys must be after them. But, if the girl really likes me, she’ll dump the other guy (right? or so I think).

Well to make a long story short, I have a hard time turning young beautiful women down. So, I’m engaged to a ringer at Latin encounters (if she is young and hot she has to be a ringer right?). I spent most of my time in Cali with this girl and her family and I just think she is perfect (definitely a 10). But, I’m 40 and she is less than half my age. Are we just kidding ourselves or can this relationship really work? Well, guys place your bets because if she is willing to come I’m bringing her.

                                                                          Chao , Calipro

[Craig]

... in response to Dating ringers at Latin Encounters, posted by Calipro on Jul 19, 2002

Just got back from Cali myself I'll throw my 2 cents when I have time, any questions you can think of let me know. Sorry I missed you.

[Pete E]

... in response to Dating ringers at Latin Encounters, posted by Calipro on Jul 19, 2002

Not every really attractive young girl is a ringer or bad news.Actually I think a ringer would be a girl who is on the books or web site but is not available,so your girl is not a ringer.After the ringer discussions guys could assume every hot looking girl is one.Not so.So she is for real in that she is looking for a guy,and found you.
Now the issue becomes how sincere is this hot looking chick in really wanting you or are you being used for some purpose of hers other than love.You are the one that will have to figure that one out.I would say if she is very consistent in her desire for you and the family is a good one you have an excellent chance of a relationship that will work at least in the short run.I think one of the problems with a 19 year old or so girl is she could change her feelings later.She may not be mature enough to  make a lifetime commitment.
To guys here that think this age difference is too great I say you are judging it by US standards,and it certainly is acceptable by Colombian standards.I think a girl a little older is a much better bet,but it if younger and prettier are really important to you go for it.I know there can be a temptation to get the absolutely best looking one you can.It can be risky,but then there is the reward.Lets see,whats the relationship equivilant of laughing all the way to the bank?Lets see it could go"while you guys are trying to figure this out  I have the hot looking chick."
Good luck.Really.I hope it works for you.But if it starts looking bad you may want to get out sooner vs. later.The longer you hang in the more it will cost you.And it can be difficult to think strait when you are dealing with such a good looking woman.Of course you want to keep it together,so may  rationalise things that are trouble signs.
But it certainly is possible.41 and half that in age is not uncommon.I have 2 friends in a similar situations.42 and 22,48 and 24,and its working well it seems.Then there is my situation,59 and 35 and we have been together 2 1/2 years and the relationship constantly improves.
Who was that guy that kept telling us big age differences were uncommon in Colombia,based on what a couple of Colombianas in the US told him?Maybe not common as in 50%,but it certainly happens alot and seems acceptable.

Pete

[bogota vet]

... in response to Re: Dating ringers at Latin Encounters, posted by Pete E on Jul 19, 2002

A ringer has a much broader definition, ESPECIALLY in the case of LE.

A ringer could be a girl that has no intention of marrying, and the agency knows, but because she brings in the gringos and get them to hang around and revisit, the agency keeps them in the stable.
The gringo only finds out about this, after the fact.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: Dating ringers at Latin Encounte..., posted by bogota vet on Jul 19, 2002

OK,I understand there is another level of ringer who might actually date guys and let them spend some money on them.I was thinking of the model who was never available at all.
Calipros girl took him to meet her family and got engaged to him,I think that would rule her out of the ringer catagory,although he could yet encounter suprises here.

Pete

[colombian]

... in response to Re: Dating ringers at Latin Encounters, posted by Pete E on Jul 19, 2002

PERDONNNNNNNNNNNNN.
que me meta de nuevo.y claro que yo no soy una juez ni una mujer falsa gracias a DIOS me educaron muy bien,solo no me gustan cuando hablan muy feo de las mujeres y es verdad no todas somos iguales otras somos mejores que otras eso es verdad,pero creo que todo depende de la educacion que te den en casa o tu que piensas?,gracias a dios tengo muy buenos pricipios y siempre e sabido muy bien que es lo que quiero en mi vida ,y ademas mi esposo que tiene 54 anos el verdaderamente no aparenta esa edad el se muy bien,y ademas se conserva muy joven para los anos qu el tiene,el va al gym todos los dias,come comida muy saludable etonces no es el tipo de hombre que muchas mujres piensan o se imaginan ala edad de 54anos y lo de la tentacion eso si es verdad,pero cuando tu tienes un buen hombre a tu lado muy responsable ,inteligente muy bello,por dentro y por fuera que casi no tiene defectos,quien no quiere tenr ese tipo de hombre asu lado seria alguien muy estupido que cambie a un hombre asi ,y la verdad si tengo mucha suerte al tenrlo a el ami lado,de verdad y o es mentira nunca emos tenido ningun tipo de discucion,para nada y nada de problemas si ami no me gusta algo yo simplemete se lo digo y ya a asi sucesivamente y creo que para tener un matrimonio perfecto ese el el factor mas importante la buena comunicacion,confianza y seguridad el uno en el otro,y y les pido disculpas si en verdad estoy ofendiendo a alguien solo es algo de opinion y yo me expreso asi,solo digo lo que siento y mira muchos matrimonios que han tenido divorcios aqui,mas que todos son mujeres mas madueras que yo que han pasado por esos problemas osea que tambien habremos mujres jovenes muy maduras para sostener una relacion no mas bueno cuidesen un beso y que dios los bendiga con amor la:colombiana

[bogota vet]

... in response to Dating ringers at Latin Encounters, posted by Calipro on Jul 19, 2002

Over what time frame did the 15 come in for citas?

15 over 3 days, 15 over 2 weeks? ...

I would assume the longer, the better your odds.

[Calipro]

... in response to Re: Dating ringers at Latin Encounters, posted by bogota vet on Jul 19, 2002

They came in over a ten day period.

                          Cali pro

[Wayne1]

... in response to Dating ringers at Latin Encounters, posted by Calipro on Jul 19, 2002

Calipro,

I'm going to send you a little message from my 23 year old wife from Cali.

She said to you,  oh don't worry about that age thing.  It's normal in Colombia for older guys to date the really young girls.  She said that 15 is even normal for there.  The Colombian guys don't like the women over 25 in Cali because they have bad habits that can't be changed.  She thinks 40 with a teenager is perfect.  That is her take...

My take is that you better stop referring to girls as "hot chicks" because when your teenage wife comes home from school with her teenage American girlfriends, you are going to take some heat...LOL

My Russian wife was 18 (I was 32) when I married her....  I believe it can work with such a young girl, but....it is 10 times more work dealing with such a young girl.  You are only in bed with her a small % of the time, and the rest of the time you are helping her grow up.  It can be a real pain in the backside.  So I'm not discouraging you, but if you don't have superhuman patience and understanding, this will turn into your biggest nightmare.  Oh yea it's fun to think about being married to such a sweet young thing, but the reality is often very different.  You know what they say, "careful what you wish for.."

I learned enough the 1st time around to know that I wanted a girl the next time who had at least worked a job and knew responsibility.  Teaching responsibility is a real bore.

My Colombian wife has managed an engineering firm, and worked since she was 14.  What a difference this has made to the day to day running of our business.

Wayne

[colombian]

... in response to Re: Dating ringers at Latin Encounters, posted by Wayne1 on Jul 19, 2002

hola.
perdon si no es conmigo el problema.wayne1.
pero la verdad no comprato tu idea de lo que dices.sabes yo me case alos 21 anos de edad mi esposo tenia 52 y iva cumplir 53,y yo 22,pero la verdad nos casamos y mucha gente pensaba que ra solo interes ,pero la verdad no es asi,y lo de que el me ayuda a crecer es la verdad ,porque el tiene mas experiencia en la vida o tu que piensas?,sabes si me case con un hombre mayor y no con un joven fue definitivamente por ese motivo el ya sabe lo que quiere,y no tiene que estarlo consultando con otras personas,y ademas yo tambien boy al college aqui y tengo amigos americanos y de otras culturas y la verdad ami me tiene sin nigun cuidado lo que la gente piensa o deja de pensar,es mi vida y si alguien esta en esa misma situacion lo importante es que lo ames y nada mas ,creo que yo tengo sufieciente madurez para dejarme convenser por lo que los oros digan,piensen o dejen de pensar,y tambien gracias a dios tengo la sificiente educacion,porque cuando me case ya solo me falataba un ano para terminar mi carrera ,gracias adios yo tengo ,la fortuna de tener unos buenos padres y una familia muy unida que siempre me daban lo que yo queria ademas era y soy la menor de mi,casa,y por eso nada mas ,etonces espero no ofenderte pero eso si me toco ami,directo al corazon pueda que hubiera etendido muy mal pero no lo creo ,cuidate y un beso y que dios te bendiga la colombiana.

[Wayne1]

... in response to Re: Re: Dating ringers at Latin Encounte..., posted by colombian on Jul 19, 2002

If you can read in English, why can't you try to write in English.  You realize that almost all guys on this board don't understand your spanish.

You did not understand my post period.  All I said was that I thought it was OK to marry a young girl, but it is alot of work.  Much more work then an older girl.  Do you disagree with this point.  Besides, you were married when you were 21, not 18.  So I don't understand your point.

Wayne

[BenKramer]

... in response to Re: Re: Dating ringers at Latin Encounte..., posted by colombian on Jul 19, 2002

Hey Colombian,  cant you say it in enlgish ? No habla inglish usted ? Ben

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Dating ringers at Latin Enco..., posted by BenKramer on Jul 19, 2002

I was going to say that.I used a web translation service and the post still wasn't real clear.Some of us gringos habla puiqino espanol.I know,we should learn.But if you are living in the US you really need to learn english.I told my wife if we lived in Colombia I would have to learn spanish.We don't.So she needs to learn english.
Also,another lazy mans excuse,I think my wife has learned english much faster than her friends who's husbands speak spanish.2 I know have been here a year and know very little english.My 11 year old step son speaks very good  english in 2 years,but they have to learn in school.

Pete

[colombian]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Dating ringers at Latin Enco..., posted by BenKramer on Jul 19, 2002

jajajaja gracias.
y claro que leo perfecto lo que todos escriben pero ,me gusta hacerlo mas en espanol,mi gramatica es muy pobre para escribir,pero tranquilo la proxima vez lo are,take care .no worried be happy,with my love and god bless you:the colombian

[bogota vet]

... in response to Dating ringers at Latin Encounters, posted by Calipro on Jul 19, 2002

That was good, few no shows is unusual, maybe July is a slow month, not many gringos in Cali in July. Not familar with Cali in July.