Back in March I posted about a lady (28 y/o) that I met from Mexico, here in Dallas in Febuary '02. Someone had introduced us. I originally posted to report the how well my relationship was going with her. I have'nt made any follow ups on the board until now. She is from a small town north of Monterrey Mexico. Well up until last weekend our relationship was going great! I was thinking that this is the best thing to ever happen to me. But last saturday we had an arguement, which ultimately led to her breaking up with me. Totally out of the blue. The last 5 days have been the hardest in my whole life (i'm 38). And I hope I never have to relive this past week again. But Im starting to feel a little better now. She has returned to mexico to live with her parents. Why am I posting this for the world to read? Because I believe we all have the same goal to find a wonderful latina girlfriend or wife and I need to share my experience and hopefully get some feedback that could help me. Let me explain more about my relationship with my now ex-girlfriend. First I will write about how it ended then I will go into the details. After almost 5 months of dating, this wonderful relationship end without any advance warning, or maybe I did not see the signs. It end with her telling me she wanted to terminated the relation (in spanish). She was saying that we are incompatable, dont have much in common, and pointed out some flaws with me. She even admitted to a lie she told me. Interestingly enough one of her amigas was driving down to mexico on wednesday of last week and asked her if she wanted to come along. (Apparently she wanted too.) I think this is where she got the first idea of breaking up with me. She was missing her family so much.
The other problem I was having with her friends is that I have not purposed to my girlfriend yet and they feel I should of by the 3rd month of the relation. They wanna see total commitment. And I think her friends might of talked her into leaving me since I was not asking her to marry me. Well about a month ago I was really starting to fall in love with her. She had such a great personality and really knows how to take care of her man. But when I told her I loved her she did not believe me. (Now I will point out my mistakes in the relationship.) I have mostly dated gringas in my life. So I lacked being romantic with Blanca. I never brought her flowers, because the gringas I dated could care less if I gave the roses. But to Blanca this was an important and romantic thing to do. So I screwed that up. In short I just did not do those romantic little things which are apparently big things to latinas south of the border. She accused me of being cold, sometimes. But for the record I was very affectionate with her, and did many things for her.
Another problem in regards to my seriousness in her was that about a month ago she needed a place to stay/live, because her irresponsible roomate got the evicted from thier apartment. But at that time I did not want her living with me. She was making it clear to me that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me, and she was hoping that I would ask her very soon. (go to part 2)
