Progress Report

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: Re: Man in a bubble..., posted by Dave H2O on Jun 19, 2001

Gee Your Hair Smells Terrific?

[may10]

... in response to Could it be, posted by Carrisse on Jun 20, 2001

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[MAY]

... in response to I agree Hum & Jim, posted by Dave H2O on Jun 19, 2001

i believe, you just got all the ladies'  vote for being the sweetest man here.   *S*

Dave "Mr. Romance"  Hero ........  *S*

[Dave H2O]

... in response to DAVE, posted by MAY on Jun 19, 2001

Hi May,

Thank you for your kind words. I had to check several times to see if you were talking to me. I am sure that the honor does not belong to me. I try my best to be romantic, but I don't think I am so good at it. Sweet. You can see right through me. *S* I don't like to see love end, even if it is not my own.

You'd better stop before I get a big head (big ego) or Humabdos gets jealous. ;o)

Dave H.

[humabdos]

... in response to Re: DAVE, posted by Dave H2O on Jun 20, 2001

Thats it I am getting a purple G string too!  :oP  Humabogoy

[Dave H2O]

... in response to Re: Re: DAVE, posted by humabdos on Jun 20, 2001

N/T

[humabdos]

... in response to I agree Hum,, posted by Jimbo on Jun 19, 2001

I can't see any other way... She can always come back later if... LOVE is the motivatior.   Hum

[Mars]

... in response to Progress Report, posted by Howard on Jun 19, 2001

Hi Howard,

Before I offer any input I want to say I know I will probably get gang-piled for my two cents but hey.....feel free to gang-pile. I will not offer any response to negative reaction to this post. Simple as that. Howard.....I have read all your posts ever since you came to this board and I think you are one hell of a human being. The friends you have must feel very lucky to know you and I am sure even casual acquaintances feel you are a fair fellow. I have no experience whatsoever with Filipinas and the only things I know of their culture and social norms I have garnered from the net and from books.....so I am surely in the dark about a great many things.... but when it comes to women in general, I feel I have enough experience to at least offer some insight on matters of the heart. Howard, you began this path because you wanted some happiness in your life. You have run the risk of great pain and uncertainty to realize your dream...to find someone who will love you....a risk many are unwilling to take from fear of failure. I salute you. But Howard... simply stated  IMHO...It isn't going to work. If it does manage to work out it will be because you made all the overtures. If I were you, I would get out of the situation. You went into this because you wanted happiness. Are you happy? It doesn't sound like you are. I am not saying your wife is a bad person....I'm just saying it does not sound like you and her are compatible. She doesn't go any where with you...She doesn't have sex with you.....any efforts you have made to do things with her like shopping, going to the movies etc. are repulsed....What evidence do you need to see reality? Again..If I were you, I would have a talk with her and explain your feelings....that your heart is not fulfilled and that you want a divorce and would still like to be friends. End it amicably and move on. Why live in misery for any longer? Life is much too short and I really think you deserve much better!!!! From your description of her daily actions, it does no sound like she is very happy with her life either. Divorce and try again.....and take a little more time to get to know them better. Anyway....I have spoke my opinion so I will let it go at that. Good luck Howard and God bless. Peace!

[humabdos]

... in response to Re: Progress Report, posted by Mars on Jun 19, 2001

NLLJGDD

[Jimbo]

... in response to Progress Report, posted by Howard on Jun 19, 2001

Hi Howard,

Does she still get along with your mother?  Does your mother find that, outside your presence, her mood is upbeat?  If not, she may indeed be depressed.

But if so, then she's giving you this treatment for a reason.  In this case, where she's deliberately shutting you out completely, you're going to have to be a detective to figure it out, using every clue available to you.

What a nightmare!  It hurts just to read your post.

Jim

[katy]

... in response to Progress Report, posted by Howard on Jun 19, 2001

If nothing is working (and you've tried for a long time) then I'd say that this has little to do with MOB issues in general.

I'd say that this is just her, as an individual.

I have one of two guesses:

First is that maybe she just doesn't love you. She might have no intention of divorcing you, but that doesn't mean that she loves you. And, that can turn into not liking you. Which can turn into complete antipathy.

The second guess is that she is clinically depressed. Depressed people lie around and watch TV all the time, don't want to socialize, and don't feel that they can communicate.

I have no advice for you, though.

I'm sorry.