This is for everyone to read.
I see two trends that occur with the men involved in this search.
And please correct me if I am wrong, and tell me to shut up if I am trying to get too deep here.
But, what I'm preceiving is that men that are bringing a positive perspective in this have been undergoing transformations. It seems to be a positive thing for them, and it is coming through in their posts.
For myself, my search hasn't just been a physical thing, it's been spiritual and mental. I can't be sure where it will end, but I can tell you, I'm definitely not the same person before I started, and I like the change.
Also, my question is this "why get bogged down in the WHICH COUNTRY TO TRAVEL syndrome?"
It doesn't really matter. This is about moving ahead, not backwards. Meet a person, and plan for the future. Who knows where it will end?
Another thing I noticed, there is the negative transformation. I think allot of the guys who bring the wrong type of attitude end up with poor experiences, and in the end, they hold grudges because of the pain. Yeah, I know some decent guys may get hurt. SHIIT, I may even get burned. But, it's worth the risk to me.
I think the guys, who experienced the worst (for example JunFan) should take some time to be quiet, find some peace and reflect on what happened. Even they can learn from it, allot about themselves.
JunFan, this is not about "bringing a latina from a 3rd world country to live in the USA in a middle class gringo home".....that's an elitist attitude. And, it will eventually sabatoge all the good intentions that you may have had.
This thing is about CHANGE, for both people involved, and their families.
Aaron
