Everything is ok now just cultural difference

[mck]

Everything is ok now in the land of MCK. It was mostly cultural differences. She said it is normal in Guadalajara to have sex 3-5 times a day. I explained to her that in the U.S. it is normal to have sex maybe 4-5 times a week and she understood. We both kissed and made up. This was the first argument we ever had, that is why I was kind of frustrated when I posted. She has mellowed down on the smoking and forcing me to do stuff since I stood up to her. You guys were right about if you stand up to a latina and say how you feel they do respect you more. We are both very determined to make this relationship work. If you live with a latina occasional arguments are all part of the relationship in the begining because there are so many cultural differences. My novia says occasional arguments in the begining are what make a stronger couple in the future. She said this is part of the latin way. I thought I was the most patient understanding guy in the world and I can tell you one thing these types of relationships require alot more patience and determination then any relationship I ever had and I am speaking spanish at about 80% after practicing for months now and her english is about 70%, I cannot imagine what it is like for the guys who don't speak spanish, but it is worth it to have a woman that keeps the house spotless, the laundry folded and dinner on the table as soon as you come home and then have wild jungle sex at night. We went to the park to work out last night, then went to the video store last night and then to the supermarket and had many hours to talk about things and how we felt about each other. What is kind of funny is how she always takes the free magazines in the supermarket and when ever she walks by the bubble gum machine in a store she has to have it, just like a little kid and she is the queen of coupons to. She spends all day cutting out coupons. Another very very interesting thing I noticed was when I pointed out a measuring cup in the supermarket because we did not have one. She said she does not need one because she knows just by knowledge the measurements of a cup, 1/2 cup etc. I told her very few American women know measurements just by common knowledge without needing a measuring cup and she said "that is because chicas gringas son estupidas" in her heavy accented Spanglish. She is such a little cutie.

[denvermike]

... in response to Everything is ok now just cultural diffe..., posted by mck on Jun 11, 2002

Hi Guy,

What a problem!!

I can related in many ways to your sexual appetite problem. The latinas I have dated are far more sexual than any AW I have been with. I am dating more than one young latina here in Chile. One of them it like your lady. It can be a real challenge at my advanced age to keep up with her at times. She can be very sexually demanding.  As a typical latina, if I'm not up for the job so to speak, she blames herself, "you don't love me anymore, boo hoo!!".

When I was married to an AW, fighting was something we both avoided, but with a latina, stating your point of view somewhat forcefully is expected. I'm glad you've got the picture so fast. My style has always been easy going and non-combative, it hss taken an adjustment in my attitude.

As you have found out, fighting is a way of life in their culture, and apparently an important source of commnication. It seems strange to us, but that is the way it is.

This latina and I have had some real yelling contests (yelling from her not me) over stuff, particularly when she found out about the other ladies. She yelled stormed out, using a version of Chilean Spanish that is nearly incomprehensible to anybody else even other Spanish speakers. First time it happened, I said to myself well that's over. But within a few days, she'd call me and act like nothing ever happened. The fire and passion that make her great in bed, also makes them a bit crazy to be with at times. But I always say to myself, who's the boss here, yep it is me. Besides there are a lovely assortment of other options if I so choose, and they know it.

So good and enjoy your new life.

take care,
mike

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Everything is ok now just cultural d..., posted by denvermike on Jun 11, 2002

I think arguing or fighting style may vary by latin country and also woman by woman.Even though my wife(a Colombiana) loves to watch novelas with all this fighting and arguing,her personal style is just the opposite.If I raise my voice or yell the subject of the original discussion is lost and they new subject is you yelled at me.She will then not talk to me for hours.It doesn't matter how justified I was in my anger,to her its never justified to yell at her.
If I even raise my voice in an emphatic statement she has the same reaction.
So latinas are not all alike,by a long shot.Be carefull of generalizations and assumptions,they may not be true.

Pete

[zzzz]

... in response to Everything is ok now just cultural diffe..., posted by mck on Jun 11, 2002

Hablando se arreglan las cosas!......

[greg]

... in response to Everything is ok now just cultural diffe..., posted by mck on Jun 11, 2002

Trying to make yourself look good again??? U got tired of Her using You as a door mat to wipe Her feet??? Hehehe

[mck]

... in response to Mike are U trying to save Face???, posted by greg on Jun 11, 2002

No it just seems like I am always posting the negative and not the positive. I do not want to give the newbies any horror stories lol.

[outwest77]

... in response to Everything is ok now just cultural diffe..., posted by mck on Jun 11, 2002

That you are the same guy who said he came home and his
novia was excercising naked to the tv and had the house
spotless, and i said how lucky you were,
I guess life is full of tradeoffs, large sexual appetite is not exactly the worse thing i can imagine, maybe you can compromise and go 2 or 3 times a few days a week, now thats she does not expect it, she will think its a treat.
All in all , doesnt sound like such a bad life.

[mck]

... in response to i just realized, posted by outwest77 on Jun 11, 2002

No it really isn't a bad life. I would say the relationship I have right now is pretty much like the typical gringo-latina relationship at the start with a few misunderstandings here and there but works well overtime. I know she loves me and is not materialistic and not green card shark. Overall I would say she is a pretty decent package. I would give her aobut a 7 on a scale of 1-10. She is pretty much just your average looking latina. I am not complaining.