Mi novia mexicana

[cedro]

Well its been awhile since I posted.  The last time I posted anything was back in early Feb 2002, when I was very dissapointed with the internet dating services.  I live in Dallas and I did meet one person, on a blind date, but there was not much chemistry.  She was mexican and did not speak much spanish.  She did insist on meeting a second time, and was persistant.  So I did (and a good thing too) because this time she told me she wanted to introduce me to her friend who was in her ESL class studying english.  About 3 days later theres a message in my voicemail that says meet us at 6 oclock at Dennys.  I thought ok I will show up and see what happens.  Well I met her friend and we had alot in common.  (I have been studying spanish seriously for the last year)  Our communication is very good.  At first she was not interested in meeting a gringo, but her friend assured her that I am a good person and knows spanish.  This girl used to live near Monterrey MX, and has been here 9 months.  She comes from a good family.  We have been dating 3 months now, I have never seen someone so in love with me.  She doesnt even have to say it because her body language, ect. tells it all.  However when we are together, she is kissing me and saying " tu me encontres " or "estoy en amorada contigo"   I dont think Im in love with her yet, but I think about her so much.  Her personality is the best I have ever seen,  very friendly and outgoing.  Im kind of a serious type person, and she is getting me to be more emotional and expressive.  My energy levels have increased since I met her, and I definately dont feel lonely anymore.  She is the typical latina who is very passionate, affectionate and loving.  And by the way her sexual energy is beyond anything I could ever imagine!  Wow!

Heres the part where Im a little confused,,, Personality wise she is the best, look/physical appearance wise,,, she is alright looking, size 6, pretty, but not your knock out model type.  But interestingly enough, when ever we go somewhere men are always checking her out.  Especially mexican men.  Sooo, why am I confused?  Originally I thought I would go to colombia, find me a 10, and see how it goes.  But now I dont think that is a good idea.  This girl is here now, with me and I enjoy being with her.   The other thing I want to mention to the board is that she is traditional and knows how to take care of her man.  Period.  Something she told me the other nite, she says, Cedro, why have'nt you hired a mariachi band and serenaded (sing) to me?  I told her baby I cant "singo" but maybe one nite...

She is incredible and I got real lucky, especially since she is here now......but I waited a long time for something like this to happen.

[Edge]

... in response to Mi novia mexicana, posted by cedro on Apr 24, 2002

sounds like you got it made in the shade and you have got a good woman on your hands but she is maybe not all you desire in the looks department.  Only you can be honest with yourself about how important this is to you and how you would feel if you cut her loose because of it.  You might lose someone who, as you say, really loves you, which is not all that easy to find..Real love does not come around all that often.  But it is important to be really attracted to our spouse.  

One thing about hunting for 10's in the looks department in Colombia or anywhere else., be careful what you wish for because you might not be too happy once you get it.

Good luck with your novia, sounds like you have been blessed-

Edge

[Jeff S]

... in response to Mi novia mexicana, posted by cedro on Apr 24, 2002

Sounds like you've got a good thing going. Looks fade with time but a good heart and the love of a good women does nothing but get better.

-- Jeff S.

[Pete E]

... in response to Mi novia mexicana, posted by cedro on Apr 24, 2002

This girl sounds great.Her feelings for you are very important.What you need to ask yourself,and you can take your time to decide,is can you love her.You don't want to get bored or have regets.
Their are no 10's in Cali, some 8's and maybe very few 9's.Even if you can land one they are not likely to feel like this girl does for you.
It brings up an old quandry.Is it better to be the one caring less or the one caring more?Seems like it is always one or the other.If you care less than do they are usually right there for you,very loving,loyal,affectionate,sexual.
And even if something goes wrong you will not be too upset.Its an in control possition.
If you care more it seems like they never care enough for you.You can be hurt and disapointed alot.This can be a painfull and powerless position.But you have that feeling of love,caring.When they do respond it is wonderfull.
My logical side says there first is best.My heart says the second is best.
Now someone will probably say they have  mutual equal caring.To be honest I have never experienced that and wonder if it exists.Seems like its always scewed one way or the other,at least a little bit.Both can have strong feelings,but usually one more,and that person is in control.
Reminds me of an old Jimmy soul song."If you want to be happy for the rest of your life,never make a pretty woman your wife".A little truth in this  think.
Of course we get the Colombian experience,where you can get a much better looking woman who will still love you.Its relative I guess.

Pete

[Georgina]

... in response to Mi novia mexicana, posted by cedro on Apr 24, 2002

I just have a question. Is she a legal resident here or is she on a tourist visa?

[mck]

... in response to Mi novia mexicana, posted by cedro on Apr 24, 2002

I am in the same situation with a Mexican girl dude. Hippy girl is about 5 3" 130 but she is exercising everyday to get thinner. I would give her maybe a 7.5 on a scale of 1-10. I to, have also thought about going to Colombia to get a solid 10, but now after getting that raise and everything that happend to me in my last post, there is no way Im giving her up. It is almost like having a geanie in a bottle. All I have to do is make a wish and "boom" it's there. I also love the maturity she has and work ethic she has. Knowing how I am, if I did not meet her, I would of gone to Colombia and picked the first drop dead gorgeous twenty something girl and done the K1 thing right away and you know the risks involved in that. I asked what she thought of the entire "40-50 year old guy thing with 20 something latin women". She basically told me "In Mexico if the gringo is 20-30 years older, and has money, it is possible for the girl to fall in love, but it is alot harder if the Gringo is not physically attractive. If the girl is truly sincere, then it may be true love, the girl may be just looking for stability on top of love but she said it also may be not true love either and the girl may just be looking for money, but she also said most of the Mexican girls are pretty sincere but there are a few "sharks" even in Mexico. I asked her what she thought about Colombian women and she basically said "Your risks increase when the country you go to is extremely poor". She also told me "I am so happy I met a gringo who is younger then me and that I am attracted to, and is my little "boy toy" as she calls me."

[Patrick]

... in response to Re: Mi novia mexicana, posted by mck on Apr 25, 2002

......that no matter what Latin country you're looking in, you can find people with low opinions of other Latinos from different countries.  Latin America is definitely not one unified culture and nationalism exists in every one of them.  I've heard Colombians disparage Mexicans, Venezuelans talk bad about people from the Honduras, etc. etc.

There is no "best" Latin country.  Each man simply follows his own preferences and needs in choosing which country he looks in.  Mexico is certainly closer than Colombia, and IMHO is somewhat more conservative than Colombia, but my wife is from Colombia and I'm very happy with her.  I could have found a good woman in any country, including the US.  It just happened that I found her in Colombia.

[Jeff S]

... in response to I think you'll find....., posted by Patrick on Apr 25, 2002

I had a couple of Guatamalans working in my company who the Mexicans didn't allow to sit in the lunchroom. They had to eat outside the room.

... and Americans are claimed by many to be racists.

-- Jeff S.

[MarkInTx]

... in response to I think you'll find....., posted by Patrick on Apr 25, 2002


That seems to be everywhere...

In Russia... all Ukraine women are primitave and dirty

In Ukraine... all Russians are just as bad as AWs

In Brazil... the women in Sao Paulo think that the women in RIo are all hookers... etc, etc...

Good advice seems to be: Never ask your girlfriend what she thinks of women from any other town or country

[El Diablo]

... in response to Re: Mi novia mexicana, posted by mck on Apr 25, 2002


I don't particularly mind you mentioning Colombia at every opportunity but Colombia is not particularly poor compared with other developing countries of the world.  For instance Mexico's GDP per person is about $9,000 US with approximately 30% below poverty while Colombia is about $6,000 and 55% below poverty line.

If economics is the biggest risk factor than there are significant risk populations in both countries.  

El Diablo

[Patrick]

... in response to Mi novia mexicana, posted by cedro on Apr 24, 2002

Go for character and go slow.

[cedro]

... in response to Forget the 10s, posted by Patrick on Apr 25, 2002

Thanks for the reponses.  I will be taking it slow with my girlfriend and see where it goes.  She is really a good person.