Latin men

[mck]

I was talking to my novia about all her past relationships last night and I was absolutely stunned at what she told me. She said her first boyfriend that she lost her virginity to at 24 was drunk 24/7 for two years. She finally could not take it anymore so she got rid of him. Then she was taking English classes and was going out with her Gringo english teacher from Boston. She moved in with him after a few months and came home from work early one day and caught him having sex with another girl from her english class. She said she started to cry and ran home to her mommy. Then her last boyfriend she went out with for a year was married with kids and she never knew about it That ended real quick after she found that out. Her dad also has two different Mistresses and said her dad is only home with her mom maybe one week a month and he spends the rest of the time with the two other women. Her mom will not divorce the dad because she does not believe in divorce and also the dad is the bread winner in the family. It amazes me what some of these women put up with.

[Michael B]

... in response to Latin men, posted by mck on Apr 28, 2002

I used to live in Mexico City. Granted, it was 25 years ago, but things are probably the same today. At the risk of being accused of portraying 'negative sterotypes', I observed that for the most part, Mexican men are excellent fathers, but they tend to be not very good husbands.

On the other hand, you mentioned that one of her boyfriends was married and had a kid and she didn't know, well that works both ways. When I was in college a bunch of us went to Mexico (college sponsored study trip) and my room mate showed up with this beautiful Mexican girl--turned out she had been high school exchange student in the US a few years ago and his parents had been her sponsor family. Anyway, she fixed me up with her neighbor and we hit it off and we corresponded for the next 3 years and I visited her 3 or 4 times during those 3 years and we talked pretty seriously about getting married (when I graduated). Then one time she got mixed up about the date I was comming and I showed up unexpectly. Guess what? That's right....she had actualy been 2 months pg. (but didn't show yet) the first time I met her and now the little girl was 2 years old. Needless to say, I did NOT marry her. Not because of the kid (she was precious) but because I didn't want to be married to a woman who LIED to me, especially about something that serious. One thing humoreous about this, I asked her "What did you do with Carnina when I was down here before, who took care of her?" and she said "I took her to the hospital and told them I thought she had pneumonia---they kept her for a week runng tests and finaly they told me she was alright and I could take her home. Of course I'd go over and see her everyday, before our date." (side note: Isn't socialized medicine great? Imagine, FREE babysitting!)

I did see her twice more after that, when I moved to Mexico City a couple of years later I looked her up. She was married now, to Carnina's father, and they had another child by this time. She invited me to dinner so that I could meet the husband. He was an alright guy. I'm sure that he knew of our releationship, but he polietly "pretended to beleive" her story that I was the guy who's family had sponsored the neighbor (who still lived next door and also came to the dinner) when she was an exchange student. We all made the best of what could have been a tense situation, but it worked out OK. Mostly, I think she wanted to show her husband "Yes, I did have a relationship with a gringo, and yes he is back in town, but you have nothing to worry about". After that, I had a few "just friends" dates with the neighbor and finally lost track of all of them, although I heard several years later my that GF and her family had all moved to New York and that the neighbor had been killed in the big earthquake.

[Pete E]

... in response to Latin men, posted by mck on Apr 28, 2002

The single Colombianas you will meet will all have Colombiano horror stories which are probably true.Yes there are some good Colombianos,but they are usually married already.
Skeptics like to minimise this as a factor.Its huge.Some of these girls have totally had it with Colombianos.One of my wifes friends had a baby with one and he just split.She said no more Colombianos.We were able to help her meet an american and she is happily married in the US now.
I'm talking about Colombianos,I think there is a similarity with other latin men,but it may vary by country.
Even the gringo who spends alot of time there can pick up some of these habits.Women are so available its harder to be loyal and easier to play around.
Remember the movie Little Foss and Big Halsey,where the little twirp who played Foss picks up these habits from Halsey,played by Robert Redford.

Pete

[pack]

... in response to Latin men, posted by mck on Apr 28, 2002

wellllll...they dont all put up with it.....ever heard the name BOBBETT?

[TexasRob]

... in response to Latin men, posted by mck on Apr 28, 2002

It is not uncommon at all for a man in Mexico to have more than one family going at a time.  I have close friends in Mexico involving four different families.  Of the four only one man does not have another wife and children that he splits his time with.  What is really amazing is how the guys in Mexico often want to offer advice on love and women.

[Onephd]

... in response to Re: Latin men, posted by TexasRob on Apr 28, 2002

Hell, they've figured out a way to have several woman at once and have them all happy too, I guess in their eyes, they are experts!!! ha ha...Man one relationship is hard enough, I cannot imagine several at the same time for years and years.

[Onephd]

... in response to Latin men, posted by mck on Apr 28, 2002

What part of Michigan are you in? I'm in Michigan too

[Onephd]

... in response to Latin men, posted by mck on Apr 28, 2002

What part of Michigan are you in? I'm in Michigan too

[mck]

... in response to MCK, what part of michigan are you in, posted by Onephd on Apr 28, 2002

I am out in Dearborn.

[Onephd]

... in response to Re: MCK, what part of michigan are you i..., posted by mck on Apr 28, 2002

I'm in the lansing area