... in response to whats happening now, posted by mck on Mar 27, 2002You might want to check out a thread in the archives titles "Getting a Nurse to the US" here:
http://www.planet-love.com/wwwboard/asian/archive00088/
It might give her some options you haven't considered. Right now there's a big nursing shortage in the US so they're issuing plenty of work visas to foreign nationals.
Also, I agree with ou about Guadalajara. Great town, great people, lot of fun. It would be a great place for a vacation home if you two connect up. I do think, though, that the money attitude, if you eventualy do get married, will lead to lots of conflict having income separate and trying to dole out bills separately. It doesn't sound like she's ready for marriage yet, but before you guys do it, you need to really talk through ths issue. That's not a marriage, a partnership, splitting bills. The scene in "The Joy Luck Club" where the couple is arguing about who has to buy the cat food is exactly what this leads to. Either you're a team or you're not. My own marriage started out that way and almost ended up in disaster. It was only after we "mingled" our assets that we got along financially. Now she handles the household bills, I the investments, and we both discuss and work out major purchases. It's worked out great and she's become more frugal and has stashed more in the joint savings account than I ever did.
-- Jeff S.