Pre-nuptial

[Dave H2O]

... in response to Bushwackers?, posted by Ray on Jun 2, 2001

Hi Ray,

I think I'm in trouble. I guess I will have to pretend this is the evil Dave H. ;o) I must have had the my oxygen level to low in my submarine. ;o)

"Evil" Dave H.

[Jay]

... in response to Hurry Jay!, posted by Dave H2O on Jun 2, 2001

Hi Dave,

Sound's great! ROTFLMAO! Sound's like a job I could enjoy.
Will be there soon after the 15th (depend's on how long I take to drive there), come hell or high water.

Looking forward to whatever I end up doing when I get there. Just want to get there!

Jay

[Dave H2O]

... in response to Re: Hurry Jay!, posted by Jay on Jun 2, 2001

Hi Jay,

That just shows you the sacrifices I make to help my friends. Bushwacking is a tough and dangerous job, but somebody has to do it. ;o))

PS I have a large cardboard box in my backyard you can live in for P5000 a night. Hey...what are friends for? ;o))

Dave H.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Question to the ..., posted by Jay on Jun 1, 2001

How many blacks thought he was guilty?

Best of luck to you. I've been in your situation more than once or twice. Look at it this way, things have worked out for the best so far, so what makes you think they won't contiue to do so?

-- Jeff S

[Jay]

... in response to Reminds me of OJ, posted by Jeff S on Jun 1, 2001

Hi Jeff,

Good point about O.J.. I'm thinking the same way you said. I think thing's will be o.k.. Like you said, why should I think differently based on thing's working out well so far?

Seven year's ago, I NEVER would have thought thing's would be as good for me as they are now. I still have lot's of up's and down's like all of us, but really can't complain.

Thank you also for your kind word's. I've been in this situation before too! I'll make it.

Jay

[jon]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Question to the ..., posted by Jay on Jun 1, 2001

Jay,

from my earlier post about my layoff, you know you are not alone.  I hope that this means that it was just time for a change in our lives and that better things are around the corner.

I wouldn't mind being back in Florida myself, I spent 2 years in Tampa in the middle nineties (long brazilian story).

Jon

[Jay]

... in response to Welcome to the club, posted by jon on Jun 1, 2001

Hi Jon,

Yeah, it was a shock and very depressing, but as usuall, I am keeping my faith in God to get us through it. Situation is tight, but we are both loking forward to the change and hoping thing's will be o.k. there.

Good thing is that my wife is transfering to the Ft. Lauderdale office of her company. So it just mean's I will be looking when I get there. I'll find something, I'm sure.

At least I'll be near the beach and palm tree's! Thank's for your encouraging word's.

Jay

[cc]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Question to the Ladies, posted by kevin on Jun 1, 2001

Can you rent this movie in US??? I haven't seen it, but I was in the P.I. when this story happened and it was all over the Philippine newspapers at the time!

[kevin]

... in response to movie, posted by cc on Jun 1, 2001

I have my own copy.  You can purchase it from the PilipinoSuperstore website (which is based in Artesia, California).  Please try to get to that site, browse, and order.  Good luck.

- Kevin

[humabdos]

... in response to Re: Question to the Ladies, posted by Stephen on May 31, 2001

Sorry Stehhen but god I wish you had of hooked up with my poor little third world gold digger! You would be singing a very diffrent tune!

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: Re: Question to the Ladies, posted by humabdos on Jun 1, 2001

Don't interpret me to be saying that all these ladies from the philippines are virgin Mary's and are all being taken advantage of by American men.

Yes, there are gold-diggers.

From what you've said about your ex and her actions, I think she probably was a gold-digger from the start.  I doubt that she ever loved you.

But I still told Tess about 30 minutes ago that you will marry another Filipina.

Best wishes.  Yes, I think you got a raw deal.

Stephen

[Stephen]

... in response to Not exactly, posted by Carrisse on May 31, 2001

C:

You brought up a good point.  She showed him that she trusted him by signing the prenuptual.

But what has he shown her about his commitment to her when he asks her to sign one?  

So he's happy because she signed it.  But she's hurt and wondering about his true feelings.

Marriage is a risky thing.  You never know 100%.  You simply go with your heart and sometimes things don't work out.  

I believe that by asking the lady to sign a prenuptual you may be planting seeds of doubt / resentment / mistrust in her heart.  The man may well be starting the very divorce that he wants to avoid.

Of course, there may be some good reason to have a prenuptual.  For example, I thought about having a prenuptual with Tess.  Because I am an attorney I would want to shield her from people who want to sue attorneys.  Here's the problem....how do you explain that to a lady in the Philippines?  It just wasn't worth the effort.  I didn't want to plant any doubt in her mind.

Stephen

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: Not exactly, posted by Stephen on May 31, 2001

As smart as your wife is, she'll think that you're protecting her (which is true).  She'll probably think that its really romantic on your part.

Women, who can understand them LOL!

[midnightgirl]

... in response to Re: Not exactly, posted by Stephen on May 31, 2001

Yeah , you're right but on the part of the man , he seems he doesn't trust my friend. You see they've been three years before they got married so how could he do that. If he truly loves my friend he would not give any doubt on her. I know that marriage is a risky thing. I don't know, but my idea on this is different, It seems it's degrading on my part. I know she has a reasons  why she signed it but i know she was really hurt.