Firts time they say they love you

[michsteve09]

I have been writing and speaking to a woman for two months now and she lately has said that she loves me. I told her I really couldn't say it until I met her so she accepted that response. I would like to know when you guys first heard this from women and when you finally met if she seemed sincere? I would appreciate any response thanks.
P.S. we have talked a lot about 5 to 6 hours a week and emails every day.

[john_paul32177]

... in response to Firts time they say they love you, posted by michsteve09 on Nov 4, 2001

my experience has been diferent in two ocassions. when i met my fiance in less than a week those words were exchanged and we are marrying this month and i dont regret it for a minute. we set up a friend of hers and it seems her relationship is going the same way, but then again it seems that my fiancee surrounds herself of just the best of people

[michsteve09]

... in response to Re: Firts time they say they love you, posted by john_paul32177 on Nov 5, 2001

Thanks for the below messages it lets me understand a little more about the women. It's nice to hear that it is going well for you.

[Sol]

... in response to Firts time they say they love you, posted by michsteve09 on Nov 4, 2001

Hi,

My bride-to-be said she fell in love with me the first time I wrote to her. It took me several months, a number of emails and phone calls, and a couple of meetings in person before I felt the same way. Directly or indirectly I think it's useful to test the sincerity of her love. Certainly I'd meet in person before deciding I was in love. In my case I work in high tech and, while I'm still employed, I can only plan my work life one quarter at a time. I've talked to my fiance about the possibility that I might be unemployed for a while, that she might need to work, and that it might even make sense for the two of us to live in Colombia for a while. She was supportive of all scenarios. She loves me for who I am and for how I respect and love her and she knows I can take care of her and she's not concerned with my income, our status of living or whether we live in the US or not. I have no doubt that my fiance's love is pure.

I should add that the first lady I met (in Medellin) I fell in love with via email and we were both POSITIVE that we'd hit it off and sail into the sunset. Well, we met in person and our fantasy love faded quickly. So, I give you the advice that was given to me and helped me the second time around - don't have a long-term fantasy email relationship. If you can afford the time and money to get to the next level sooner rather than later you'll both be better off, even if you need to have a backup plan of meeting with other women if things don't click.

As an aside, there's a difference between 'querer' and 'amar'. Both are very delightful but amar is much stronger than querer.

Sol

[TexasRob]

... in response to Firts time they say they love you, posted by michsteve09 on Nov 4, 2001

In correspondence it seems those words are spoken to quickly and easily by the many of the women.  I am making my first trip to Cali on Dec 1.  My intentions were to get to know a few ladies online as friends.  In hindsight I do not think that was a good idea.  With one exception they tried to establish an understanding via e-mail that I was coming there to see her only.  I am not going there to play games.  If I am going to tell a woman I love her, I will do it looking in her eyes and I will mean it.  Also be careful of falling to hard on the internet. I had one lady with no children suddenly have three, another lady who had been divorced for one year was actually working up the nerve to file for divorce.  I met these ladies from an ad I posted on amigos.com.  I did also meet some ladies I feel are very real and honest.