the hard truth

[denvermike]

... in response to Re: Re: the hard truth, posted by captinharry on Sep 10, 2001

My company has transferred me to Santiago Chile. So I should have a nice time "interviewing the ladies"

[pack]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: the hard truth, posted by denvermike on Sep 14, 2001

its a tough life mr. denver..but somebody has to do it..right?

[pack]

... in response to the hard truth, posted by young gun on Sep 10, 2001

it could be something you both can work out. HOWEVER it could also be a red flag. something simalar happened to me with L . after dating for about a year we decided to do a K-1 visa. one day we are talking on the phone and i get a big ..well actually two big surprises. right in the middle of a very pleasent conversation she says " i want you to adopt my son as soon as we get married" ! hmmmmm i dont know we'll have to talk about that, maybe we should wait a few years to see if the marraige works first. she didnt like that. then a few minutes later she says we will need to send money to my mother every month in cali. wait a minute we arent even married yet and you want me to send money to la madre? im not too sure  about that..again we'll have to talk about it a little more. she again was upset with my answers. i looked at these as red flags and so began a rocky relationship that has lasted for 4 years now. soooo maybe its something simple you can work out but it could also be red flags. investigate it more.

[Patrick]

... in response to Re: the hard truth, posted by pack on Sep 10, 2001

I think we sent maybe $200 to my parents in-law when my father-in-law was dying for nursing care.  All the children contributed, not just the one married to a gringo.  On the other hand, I send $500 per month to my nephew for college here in California.  So the only family being regularly supported in this case is the gringo's. My wife's family are all educated.  One doctor, two professors, one chemical engineer, and one accountant.

If I had been told that I had to support an extended family in Colombia before marriage, I may not have done it.

[Cali vet]

... in response to Every situation is different, posted by Patrick on Sep 10, 2001

I think you have to examine the living situation of your novia carefully and find out what part she plays in the scheme of things. If she has a steady work history and contributes 50% lets say to the family income I think you have to seriously consider replacing that if you marry her, take her to the states and remove her from the income picture.