Foreign Brides

[ambaer]

I am concerned that many of these women just want to get to the United States.  So, I have a plan.  If I meet a woman, I am going to move to HER country.  I can do my work anywhere there is a phone or internet connectivity.  That way, if she really wants to be with me rather than just get a ticket to the US for the "high life" I will know.

Besides, I don't want her corrupted by American women.

[cjweir]

... in response to Foreign Brides, posted by ambaer on Aug 2, 2001

very true, but don't be surprised if many women you meet would love that. most do not want to leave. the only reason they do want to leave is simple, either the men they meet in there country can not support them, and are not faithful, and the only place they can find a good man and a better quality of life is if they leave. most women would love to marry an american and live in there country very happily. the true green card hunter most people can tell pretty quickly, if you are watching for it

[DallasTexas]

... in response to Foreign Brides, posted by ambaer on Aug 2, 2001

I believe that 99/100 women that guys meet in Columbia would elect to stay in Columbia rather than move to the US given the choice.  

I asked this specific question before I got married and the answer I got was something to warm the heart.

"I would prefer to stay in Columbia and if it was possible for you/us to live here that would be my preference. But, I will move wherever my husband and I need to be to be together and have a family!"

SHE SHOOTS SHE SCORES! c(QQ)c

[JimSimon]

... in response to Re: Foreign Brides, posted by DallasTexas on Aug 2, 2001

My novia would choose to stay in Colombia in a New York minute.

Jim

[Anony Mouse]

... in response to Re: Foreign Brides, posted by DallasTexas on Aug 2, 2001

I'm sure there are a lot of women who feel that way, but I believe 99% is way off, at least in Colombia.  Let's be honest.  Many Colombians are doing anything they can to try to leave their country.  It's a very bad situation there right now.  I'm not questioning your wife's words, but I would not believe a woman's words alone in this respect, either.  You need to get to know her and consider her words and her actions.
I don't think a desire to leave Colombia means she won't love and stay with her husband, either.  My wife made it clear from the beginning that she wanted to come to the US.  However, if she was unhappy with me she could leave now and probably stay in this country even though she hasn't completed the 2-year probation period yet.  She makes enough money to support herself, but she choses to stay with me.

Mr. Mouse

[ariechert]

... in response to Green Sharks?, posted by Anony Mouse on Aug 2, 2001

"However, if she was unhappy with me she could leave now and probably stay in this country even though she hasn't completed the 2-year probation period yet. She makes enough money to support herself, but she choses to stay with me."
- Mr. Mouse

I can understand a man wondering if a woman is only wanting to come to the United States to get a green card.  However, we need to be examine ourselves inwardly also and see if some of the marriage problems we have had are not coming from within ourselves.  If we have been selfish, immature, jealous, demanding, disrespectful, and control-freaks in the past then we need to correct these problems before making a new commitment to another woman.  Otherwise, history is liable to repeat itself, regardless of which country the woman comes from.  All blame cannot be put on "American Women."  Another thing that needs to be realized is that there have been studies done on the physiology of falling in love.  When we fall in love our bodies produce endorphins and serotonin to give us that rush that we feel when we first fall in love.  Science has found that this rush lasts about 3 years; just enough time to reproduce and get an offspring on its' way.  We need to realize that after the rush is over there needs to be a commitment to love our spouses; a "commandment" to honor each other and always seek the best for the other person.  Marriage doesn't take a 50/50 commitment it takes 100/100 to make it work.  Then we will be happy regardless of whether we are in the United States or Latin America.  Just my 2 cents worth. - Art

[El Diablo]

... in response to Green Sharks?, posted by Anony Mouse on Aug 2, 2001

I agree Senor Raton.  Among my friends in Cali who are just that friends, i.e. more likely to tell me their TRUE beliefs, about 50% would prefer to live outside of Colombia.  Among those who have been romantic interests, the answers have tended to be more romantic also -- YES my dear, I prefer my own country but I will follow you wherever you go.  (-: