My reasons were very similar to Siqiman's.
At 31, I felt that I needed to try a different approach, since the one I had been using for the last 10 years was failing.
I was ready to settle down at 21 or 22, but by the time I was 25, my biological clock was ticking so loudly it was deafening!
I had tried just about everything I could think of to meet a nice young lady to settle down with. Singles Bars, friends of friends, women I met through my job, parties, everything I could think of!
My criteria was very simple. In fact, I only had two stipulations; a)Accept me for who I am and b) not be a total head-case. That's it. Oh, I guess there was three, c) put a high value on marriage and family.
My theory on physical beauty is also simple, it all fades :c) You better like who you're with for who they are, 'cuz sooner or later sex becomes less of a priority and that's who you end up with.
I dated women of all shapes, sizes, religions and convictions, but never found one I felt would be with me until my death. Funny, but it seems the ones I really fell in love with were the ones that were the least likely to commit.
What I found in my wife was someone who thought that I was a good guy. She fell in love with me for all of the reasons I wanted someone to fall in love with me for. No, it isn't all sunshine and daisy fields, but what ever is? We do our best to make the other happy, even if we don't always understand why :c) And yes, right now it feels like I am doing all of the giving. That's ok though, I did all of the giving in every other relationship I have ever been in anyway :c)
Anyone will tell you, you're trading one set of complications for another with our trek. You just have to find complications that you feel you can deal with :c)
Keep the Faith!
H
