Anonymous really got roasted for his post telling the story of his girl friend.It sure looked like he was getting used so everybody jumped on him.Some of the posts were very unkind but also very funny.Alot of people took the opportunity to really nail him.
Anonymous told us he has followed here alot and posted under another name.Then he sticks his neck out and tells his story and "chop"!
Its easy to critisize but we are not in his shoes,we don't know the woman,it just looks very suspicious.And it does sound like she did have some real needs that he was kind enough to help her out with.Of course it's always easier to open your heart and help out a beautifull woman than your average person in need.He says he loves her and if you love someone are you going to give them the benefit of the doubt,at least untill it's absolutely clear that she may be decieving you?Alot of what people get critisized for here is opening up their heart,sometimes to the wrong person.Isn't it noble,if not sometimes foolish?Should we always be so carefull with our money that we may overlook a case were there is real need?
I remember when I first moved to San Francisco from Idaho when I got out of college.What a change.Working in the city I was constantly hit up by panhandlers.I quickly developed a thick skin and would just ignore them.One day I was getting on a bus on Market street and I saw an older black man lying on the sidewalk,my first thought was just another wino.Then I looked closer,he didn't look like a wino,he was well dressed,he was laying on the sidewalk holding his hand out for help and looked right in my eyes as the doors closed and the bus left.I thought,my god,that man might have been having a heart attack and I just ignored him.Every time I think of it it haunts me a little.
Now I'm not saying be an enabeler and give money to beggars or scammers,but sometimes there may be a situation where it is appropriate to open our hearts and not be so cynical.Maybe the first reaction should be to look carefully.
I know alot of us have worked very hard for our money,but we are also very fortunate,having the opportunity we do.People can work very hard in other countries and have nothing.We are dealing with an economic disparity when we pursue latinas from the south and we should try to be kind about it,realizing our good fortune.
We bought some new furniture lately and my wife said"I thank my god for my furniture".I said,hey,I bought that furniture.She said"that is true,but my god gave you the money to buy it with".
Pete
