... in response to What do you think?, posted by Windmill Boy on Apr 16, 2001I was told by my mother, the sooner you get married the better. So , my goal was to find a man!! I moved to Alaska, where there were plenty of men to choose from. Needless to say, I got married within 5 months. And yes, I married for the wrong reasons, mainly security. I moved around with my husband, helped him build his career. Watched him get his degree... In the back of my mind I was always fearful that he would "out-grow "me. That he would tire of me because my education was not up to his. Well, my fears came true when he walked out the door and married a nurse.
What's the moral of this story?? I am not sure. But let me give you an idea....could it be true that alot of these women watched their mothers stay at home while their fathers had their career. Nice senerio...untill...the father walks out. Now where is the mother?? What education does she have?? How does she support her children?? Remember only reciently has the government cracked down on dead beat spouses.( and I am not exculding the wonderful men who raise their children by themselves) But in the old days the mother was just left to pick up the pieces. I think these women grew up in an era , when mother stayed home. But the fact is that beginning in the 60's divorce rated were at an all time high.
Maybe just maybe...that is why these women are so apt to build their career before marrying. I know it is a sad scene, but maybe true. But as for those woman who will only date or marry someone with alot of money.....I have no respect for them. There are "gold-diggers" everywhere who are self centered and only out for themselves no matter who they hurt.
I visit alot of asian boards. One that I frequent is a vietmanese board with alot of young people in it. When asked what they want most from a future spouse...the answer is almost always a good career, and lots of money!! This not only from the women , but also from the men.
