Emails and latin women

[Rich]

This is just a question to the guys on the board who have been emailing to latin girls.

Now I have been writing to several girls in Venuzuela,colombia,peru ,guatemala,Dom republic. Most of the time just to try and improve my written spanish but a couple of the girls I am beginning to like ! all of them seem very erratic sometimes they write everyday for a week and then I don't hear from them for months and then suddenly they appear again and write me a message and then disappear again. Is this normal ? Do you get messages like for example the one below

How are u my cute guy???
Hope u are doing fine!!
I just write a short mail to tell u that I am not use this mail anymore..
So please write me to my new one, ok?
...........

I will wait news from u there...
Have a nice day!
LOTS OF KISSES =0)
MARIE

As you can see she has changed her email address and several of the girls keep doing this !! Now call me a suspicious old git but warning sounds are beginning to sound ! If anyone could let me know their experiences it would be greatly appreciated !

[JunFan68]

... in response to Emails and latin women, posted by Rich on Jul 3, 2001

Hey guys...I know what you mean about the email game.  The email like letters, are ....oh, what's the word= CLINICAL to some degree.  Kinda like playin a war video game versus the real thing.  It's easy to kill someone on a screen (in terms of emotion)but much harder to do in person. In the same way, it is harder to hang up on someone when they are talking to you than it is to delete an email and move on to the next one in the mail box.  God only knows how many under 21 yr olds are emailing these girls for fun. I know letters can contain emotiona, descriptions, experiences and hell, even poetry... but it is no substitute for live conversation, whether it be in person or via telephone when you are not in country.

This leads us back to the oh so hated 'speaking Spanish' issue.  At some point you will have to talk to them in order to take it to the next level.  When I set out on 'my' campaign, my experience was that the women would often volunteer their phone numbers because THEY wanted to talk, not just write...mine always says something like "Anoche pude difrutar escuchar tu voz" .You all know what's next...after a few phone calls, the women will, if they are interested, begin asking when are you coming to Colombia. That, my fellow Gringos is a critical moment in the way you chose to meet women (letters/email). I know the process of learning spanish won't help you necesarily in the now, but you might as well, even 3-4 months here and there will add up. And maybe, low and behold, 6-12 months have passed and you now know 50 verbs, basic conjugations, and common phrases, etc.  If you need a quick fix, I know of guys here you have use agencies to 'moderate/translate' the calls.  I have also seen guys that have contracted translators to make 3 way calls....

If you think she could potentially be someone very special, you must seize the opportunity and get down there within a month or two.  If you do this and she knows you have travel plans, I think you will find her interest level spike.  If you stretch it out and say something like, 'hopefully in a couple of mos", I think you run the risk of someone else comin' in the back door on you, whether it be for another Gringo or some local Colombian.

Could this progression be a progressive litmus test whose goal is to cull out those who don't or won't have the honest intentions of ever visiting Colombia?

Later,
Mike

www.sparhard.com/colombia.htm

[Rich]

... in response to Here's the problem!!, posted by JunFan68 on Jul 3, 2001

Mike

You are beginning to convince me....ha ha

now where did I put the number of the travel agent......

I was off to the dom republic but I can see myself getting drawn off to other places.....

[JunFan68]

... in response to Here's the problem!!, posted by JunFan68 on Jul 3, 2001

I understand the issue about not having access to a computer, but I don't believe it is a real issue.  My girl lives in a lower-middle income home that is fairly distant from the internet cafe's, but she never failed to write me at least 3x/week, and that was before I ever met her.  I had identical experiences with the other women I was corresponding with...one from Bogota, one from Cali, and one from Bucamaranga.

I have found the Colombianas to be an EXTREMELY resourceful breed.  I am amazed how they accomplish many things in their day to day lives.

Same holds true with the phone.  Most don't have phones down there, at least in my girls neighborhood. But I guarantee you that one of their friends does.  So, for the first 5 mos. of our relationship, she would call me with a calling card or I would phone her at a friend/neighbor's house.

THX
Mike

[DallasTexas]

... in response to Emails and latin women, posted by Rich on Jul 3, 2001

I would not disagree with the other guys comments. I know that my wife who is in Cali (UNTIL NEXT TUESDAY!!! YEAH) does not have a computer and must go to the mall or other place to use a computer to access email.  

She uses LatinMail.com and our experience is that half the time it is down. The other half of the time it takes a full day sometimes two days for an email I send from my MSN account to her LatinMail account to show up and vice versa.

While I am sure that there are some women that are doing the 20 gringo a day thing it could also be that some of them have a difficult time getting access to email. The few lucky ones might have access at their job.

[denvermike]

... in response to Emails and latin women, posted by Rich on Jul 3, 2001

Hi Rich,

I have been playing the email game for some time now too.  Your situation is not too unusual.  Remember that the ladies are writing to lots of gringos also. I hate to say it but they are probably saying the same "cute" stuff to 10 or 20 guys.  I look at an email relationships as a long shot at best. So with that in mind, they may be a bit flighty at times.  Look at it as kind of a fun game, but I wouldn't take anything they say to you too seriously.

I have a friend in Cali, and we were in an intercafe together there, and she showed me her email inbox and address book. She was receiving emails from at least 20 guys! She showed me some of the emails, it is interesting. It is kind of funny, all of us guys say about the same stuff.

Changing addresses is not too uncommon, they probably have found a cheaper internet access.

If you want to find a latina, you a better buy an airline ticket and head south.

good luck,
mike

[Rich]

... in response to Re: Emails and latin women, posted by denvermike on Jul 3, 2001

Cheers Mike,

yeh I reckon you are right I'm going to have to just go !!!!

[Wasp]

... in response to Re: Re: Emails and latin women, posted by Rich on Jul 3, 2001

Mike,

My experiences are pretty much the same.

Don't get carried away with the flowery language.
"Muchos besos y abrazos mi amor."

I was emailing one in BQ. Nothing for the last 3 weeks.

I think the email approach has reached the end of it's usefulness for me. It's time to get to ground zero.