"Fools rush in" or "How I found a foreign bride"

[DallasSteve]

I read that, too.  It was second-hand evidence, not from Larry himself.  I'd like to know if it's true.  If so, it borders on romantic malpractice.  And here comes "Do as I say, not as I do", because I also proposed after about 3 days.  

I got lucky.  My first fiancee (another Luz) disappeared from radar before I even got the K-1 filed.  Then yet another Luz that I had lunch with on my first Bogota trip called me back out of the blue.  And with her I also proposed right away because I was in love with her from the moment I first saw her (she just wasn't ready to make a commitment on my first trip and the other Luz was).  She is now Mrs. DallasSteve and it's been the best 17 months of my life.  I've said it before, "I'd rather be lucky than smart (or prudent)".

So what's the point.  I think the point is "You pays your money and you takes your chances".  If we chose to jump in recklessly, we should recognize the risk.  And still, we could chose a bride carefully and take our time and follow the rules (whoever's rules they may be) and think with our "Northern head", and still crash and burn.  Yes, I agree, being more careful improves your odds.  But these women, like us men, all have free will and anything can, and often does, happen.

Steve

[DallasSteve]

... in response to "Fools rush in" or "How I..., posted by DallasSteve on Jul 9, 2001

I love your naming convention.  Nothing subtle about it. ;-)

As far as your comment, I'm not sure what you're saying: "decide to get married, and then find a spouse".  What is the norm?  Isn't that more or less the way all people operate?  Colombia is just "wife search" on steroids.  Colombia is jet fuel and afterburners.

I didn't think I would marry someone 21 years younger than me.  I wrote to women in their 30s, too.  My wife's email was free (with South of the Border it was one price gets all addresses).  She responded.  I can't resist her.  She's got crazy skills.  I'm just blissed out.  I'm in love with my wife.

I read a magazine article once that interviewed average American women about what they find attractive in men.  One of them said she is attracted to a man who looks at her like he thinks she's irresistably beautiful.  Maybe there's something to that.  Maybe when you are very attracted to someone it radiates an energy.  Maybe that's why my wife wants me.

Steve