matrimonial scams-Part 4 and final

[jo12208]

One of my friends with a similar situation said he had to approach this through a private attorney.  His wife took him for 25K after one month and bailed with a stolen credit card.

He said after the divorce, you can file a civil suit for fraud, and then are able to pursue this criminally.  It takes time and money.  But at this point I am game.  You need to force the authorities to act.  This is not high priority for them.

Hell right now I am jugdgment proof.  I also think the shelter could have some liability in this.

That is my story.  Laugh all you want.  Say I should have known her better,  etc.etc.  If anyone has any experience in the matter I would appreciate if you would drop me a line.

IMPORTANT---  If there is a Scott from San Diego lurking.  Please contact me.  The girl that is coming to San Diego next week is the best friend of Vanessa.  I was married in her house.  I have valuable information for you.

[fuzzy]

... in response to matrimonial scams-Part 4 and final, posted by jo12208 on Jun 17, 2001

I am glad that I am not the only one who is living a nightmare.The only difference you got rid of yours my is still here. You want to know some of the warning sign I did not notice until it was too late? My girl would get in fights with her friends, with her mother. When she got in a fight with her mom, she told me she wished she would die. Her mother ? one of the sweetest people I ever met would do anything for you. I visited two times in Peru. The second time I went to see her she was angery because I did not change my ticket so I could spend Christmas and New Years with her. It was too late unless I wanted to spend a sum that I was not prepared to do.
 I got her to come here in April and then the trouble really started. My house that I rented was horrible. I showed her pictures inside and out so she know what it looked like. Every where we went I was in trouble. The food store? A nightmare a fight everytime. I was told I talked to loud, I was told one day that i just bought what I wanted but the next time I was told " Don't know anything about this food so get what you think we need." Cooking food? I had to do it because if I do not I would starve the food was so bad. She got a part time job on second shift. She would come home and sleep until 2:00pm and get up clean for a 1/2 hour throw water on her face and act like she killed herself all day.
 I found out she was still writing some of the men that she wrote before we met. She claimed she was just friends. We got in alot of fights about them. Funny thing was when she finally told them she was married they Acted like gentlemen and stopped writing her. She was trying to arrange to visit one man in South Carolina when she visited her sister down there. So you see you are not the only one who is in deep dark crap. Oh by the way debt I have now? try around $20,000.00 gulp yep I feel pretty stupid also.

[pack]

... in response to Re:thanks for the info.., posted by fuzzy on Jun 18, 2001

fuzzy you not doin so good dude. i have heard many stories simalar to yours from gringos. i have one friend who has been married about a year and he is having a terrible time with his calena. she sleeps late , lays around watches t v, goes out dancing with her girlfriends, wont eat the food he prepares but will get in the car and go to mcdonalds , he is not a happy camper at all in fact he is looking for a good lawyer...i'd say he has just about had enough.

[Pete E]

... in response to matrimonial scams-Part 4 and final, posted by jo12208 on Jun 17, 2001

Thanks for posting your story.Maybe it will save someone else from making the same mistakes.
A question,didn't you see any warning signs as to what kind of a person you were dealing with?Didn't any of her lies raise some suspicion?Were you so taken with her that you didn't check out stories that would seem hard to believe?
Didn't you get any intuitive signals?Were you just thinking with your little head and not the big one?
I know there are many problems that can be encountered in our quest for a latin wife,but out and out fraud and deception like you experienced I think can be avoided if we are just a little cautious.
I would immagine in hind sight you can she the trail of deception and all the clues you chose to overlook.
Look at the bright side.Maybe you got off cheap.If she had been willing to put a couple of years into it you could have gotten taken for alot more.Every thing we do in life either gets us the result we wanted or valuable experience.
Last question is,even though you got burned aren't you tempted to just go find another one?There are alot of good girls out there.I think you can tell a really good one.Its messing with the questionable ones that gets a guy in trouble.
Sorry if I was hard on you,I do appreciate you posting the story.

Pete

[pack]

... in response to matrimonial scams-Part 4 and final, posted by jo12208 on Jun 17, 2001

i just read your story....i dont know what to say, it sends chills down my spine.

[El Diablo]

... in response to matrimonial scams-Part 4 and final, posted by jo12208 on Jun 17, 2001

I wouldn't worry too much about being embarressed, nor people laughing, the important thing is that you told your story as a warning to others.  

I think your wife is most likely an agency scam artist if not an out and out sociopath.  I would suggest you protect yourself against her as best you can.  She may accuse you of abuse in order to avoid being sent back to Colombia.

If she does get sent back to Colombia, I would recommend that you contact all the agencies and warn them.

[Wasp]

... in response to Re: matrimonial scams-Part 4 and final, posted by El Diablo on Jun 17, 2001

Thanks for the headsup. It takes guts to publish a disaster like this over the net.

I'm wondering if you could go into some detail on the red flags you noticed in hindsight.

[Houndog]

... in response to Re: matrimonial scams-Part 4 and final, posted by El Diablo on Jun 17, 2001

I agree with El Diablo about not worrying about what a few POS flamers might say.

I also commend you for having the cajones and 'concern for others' to come out with your unfortunate story.

My sincerest sympathy.

Regards, Houndog