Question: Do Latin Women like Latinos?

[Nico]

I am a 34 yr old educated Mexican-American.I am strongly considering going to Latin America or elswhere in search of a wife. However, I am very concerned that Latin Women may not like Latin men. Latin men are who they are trying to get away from ,right? So if and when I go on my search, will Latin women get turned off by the fact that I am Latin(if nothing else subconsciously)? It just seems logical that once a Latin women has made up her mind that she would like to seek a foreign husband, she will then get a picture in her mind of some race other than Latin (i.e. Caucasian)
 To make matters worse, I have also heard that Columbians for instance feel that Mexicans are inferior to them.So if that is the case, will they discount me a a possible mate ? Would they feel as though by selecting me they are marrying down(so to speak)?
 All comments are appreciated.

                         Thank you,

[JUAN]

... in response to Question: Do Latin Women like Latinos?, posted by Nico on Jun 18, 2001

Based Soley on appearance?  You are going to be in a Latin American country and even though Colombia is a melting pot the mestizo population is over 50%.

I don't think you'll stand out as a foreigner nearly as much as a gringo going to Colombia.

I got a private e-mail the other day from a guy who's lived in Colombia for several years, he's an American, he answered a similar question I asked a while back,  he said that anti-Mexican feelings do exist in Colombia but mostly among Colombians who try to act "white" or those who have lived in the United States and have returned to Colombia and have brought the  prejudices they  picked up here back with them. He said they are in the minority and that most Colombians don't harbor any prejudices, among most Colombians born and raised in Colombia he said Mexicans are much loved.

I received another private e-mail from a Colombian guy who said to not "worry where you're from" as long as you treat people with respect, he said he went to Colombia a few years back and met some Latinos from different  LA countries, Mexico, Venezuela, Puerto Rico, Panama, Ecuador,  Peru, he said he hung out with them and they were treated like kings.

If you want to avoid the girls who are no  longer interested in latinos I suggest not joining the agency scene, read up on Colombia, look on the internet, ask guys on this board, people who have lived in Colombia or your Colombian friends (if you have any) about  places to go, things to do and where you can meet good girls, also ask about safety tips and about places to avoid.

If you can understand and speak Spanish well or well enough to get by and don't act like an A-hole you should have a blast.

[Hamlet]

... in response to Will they be able to tell whether you ar..., posted by JUAN on Jun 19, 2001

Speaking from personal experience, not only is Nico fluent in Spanish, but he is EXTREMELY personable and I predict when he does finally realize he should get his ass off to Latin America he will have scores of beautiful and also personable women EATING OUT OF HIS HAND.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Will they be able to tell whether yo..., posted by Hamlet on Jun 19, 2001

When Nico does get to Colombia he is going to be asking himself why he waited so long!

Pete

[Aaron]

... in response to Question: Do Latin Women like Latinos?, posted by Nico on Jun 18, 2001

Nico,

This is very interesting that you pose these questions. I myself am American, but have travelled to different countries in Latin America. Here in the states, I have many friends originally from Latin America from all different counties. For the most part, we are all highly educated, and been exposed to many different philosophies, and cultures. I speak Spanish, however, since my other professional obligations I have not been able to continue studying Spanish, and I have also layed off in the search for a Latin American woman. I know what I like, out of personal preference...Colombianas. These past few years I have really taken some time to reflect on my experiences travelling and meeting people. One thing that I think may help you is that if you are looking for THE ONE don't get caught up into preconceived notions about how the women are going to receive you. That can prevent you from finding miss right. Sure, don't be surprised if you meet Latin women that are not interested in dating Latin men. That is their personal preference that they are entitled to...I came to realize that it is not so much which kind of person someone prefers to be with, but more it is the reasons why people prefer particular types of people. On the other hand, realistically there will be many latin women that are interested in you (as long as you are nice and loving and willing to be responsible). YOU WILL BE IN A LATIN AMERICAN COUNTRY...what do you think!!! And, if you speak Spanish, all the more better for you. Maybe, some of your difficulty will be the cultural differences between Mexico & being Mexican American verses a Colombian. But, I'm sure you'll be able to get over that. Also, one thing is this. Yes, Latin American countries have rivalries between each other. I highly advise not to get involved in discussions about these types of things. The best thing to do is to be open minded. You can appreciate all different types of people and different counties. I really came to realize the kind of communication and dicussions that I would like to have with my wife whenever I do get married, and I decided that I don't want to talk about disagreements between Mexicans, Colombians, Argentinians, etc., etc,. etc.. That's pointless, and it leads to more prejudice and dicrimination between nations and people. So don't get caught up into that. One other thing is that this trip, and your entire pursuit for a wife where ever she may be, is ALL ABOUT YOU AND WHAT YOU BRING INTO IT. So think about what YOU want in a partner. How do YOU want to be treated? What kinds of things do YOU like? And search for a woman that is willing to fulfill those things for you. And when you find her, make your own opinions about her based on your happiness, not what others may say or believe. Remember, you will receive in return what you give. If you give goodness, you'll receive goodness. If you give genuine love, you will receive the same. I beleive this philosophy transcends cultures and races...and if you live your life likewise many women will admire you.

Take Care,
Aaron

[Traveler]

... in response to Question: Do Latin Women like Latinos?, posted by Nico on Jun 18, 2001

probably 95% of latin women marry latin men.  who knows maybe more.  there are cultural factors in your favor.  one benefit that gringos may have at least initially is kind of the "exotic" or "different" factor.  however, when the "exotic" factor wears off for both of them.  then the struggle for communication and compatibility begins.  

it depends on the person of course but people tend to associate and make relationships with those most similar.  lets face it, while international/interracial relationships may be the purpose of this board, it is the exception.

[Rico-M]

... in response to Question: Do Latin Women like Latinos?, posted by Nico on Jun 18, 2001

I am Latin-American and beleive me if you go to Colombia
you will be well received  and  be able to be able to pick from many who you want to get to know.
I have been there 3 times and am presently comunicating
with a special lady.
Regards,
Rico

[Patrick]

... in response to Question: Do Latin Women like Latinos?, posted by Nico on Jun 18, 2001

Considering that the vast majority of Latin American women marry Latin men, I don't think there's anything to worry about.  Si hablas español bien, debes buscar una mujer afuera de las agencias.  Pudieras publicar anuncios personales en los periodicos, o viajar al pais para conocer a las mujeres en persona.

[Pete E]

... in response to Question: Do Latin Women like Latinos?, posted by Nico on Jun 18, 2001

Nico,
I think latin women do like latin men in general.I also think some of the Colombianas have been burned by shallow womanizing irresponsible Colombianos and are searching for an alternative.I think a latin man who speaks spanish and comes from the US has a better chance than than a normal gringo.One of my Mexican American friends found a georgous Colombiana easily.He met her when she walked in the door of an agency to sign up.Some other gringos were there but couldn't strike up a easy conversation with her like he could,so they just galked at her,which turned her off.
About the Colombian-Mexican-Argentine thing.I think these are just general attitudes that are easily set aside when they meet the actual person.As a Mexican American you are seen more as an American,but one who can converse with them.
So they are marrying up.Some of the upper class women may not think this but they are not who we are likely to meet.
Maybe I presume too much that you do speak spanish.If you do its a real advantage.
Funny,where I live,San Jose ,California has a Mexican American mayor,Ron Gonzalez.He doesn't speak spanish.When he was running for office there was this political cartoon where these guys were standing on a ladder and looking in his mouth(he was giant sized)and saying "no spanish here".
Just go.You will do fine.Actually you will do much better than fine,(you will be amazed)which is why all of us here are hooked on latinas from the south,particularly Colombia.

Pete

[Traveler]

... in response to Re: Question: Do Latin Women like Latino..., posted by Pete E on Jun 18, 2001

dfd

[Ralph]

... in response to Re: Question: Do Latin Women like Latino..., posted by Pete E on Jun 18, 2001

Your friend was Mexican? I thought the "scoop" was Colombians don't like Mexicans;-)

Are you also saying that while the rest of the Gringos stood there gawking and drooling, the dude that could actually speak Spanish, was able to actually just talk to a Latina?
Wow, I thought he would need to pick his translator up at the airport first;-)

Language can help a great deal, anyone that preaches against it is . . . . . . . .

[JUAN]

... in response to who would have thunk?, posted by Ralph on Jun 18, 2001

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[Ralph]

... in response to LOL Ralp, couldn't help it could ya?, posted by JUAN on Jun 19, 2001

It's amazing how someone can be on a crusade AGAINST learning Spanish! Of course if I had a similar command of English, I would be hesitant to learn another language;-)

[Traveler]

... in response to who would have thunk?, posted by Ralph on Jun 18, 2001

$100 bucks those guys were saying to themselves, or even outloud, dang!!  I wish I knew Spanish

[Alberto]

... in response to Question: Do Latin Women like Latinos?, posted by Nico on Jun 18, 2001

I'm not counting the extreme cases of deception by women, that by the way are not worse than men. Is anybody at fault here? Men? Women?. I do not see it that way, there is not bad in most of us, it is just survival of the fittest, and women want a man that is a good provider. They want your genes and they want a good life, also for their kids.  The thing is that, some women want to live their lives in certain way, so some men do too. If you encounter a woman that is trying to lie to you in order to get something, just discard her. The reasons we are taken are, that we prefer to be blind in order to get her(she is georgeous !) Remember, even if you are in Beverly Hills with a wad of hundred dollar bills in your hands and a sign that reads: "for free" even Zsa Zsa Gabor, might stop to get it. Women do not care much on how you look, to an extent, but how you act,talk and what kind of life she is going to have with you, of course it is better for her if she likes you, but the problem is that, not always you find, beauty, money or education in one package. Women that have money or are beautiful, want a centerfold guy from a magazine, poor women are going to bargain for a better life. It does not matter if youy are a latino, Mexican of French, they want you to provide her with a better life, latin women with money will tend to marry their own kind. There are millions of variations to this formula. There is no woman like other....or man. All you need is common sense.

Regards

Alberto