Howard's(H2O)wedding is off

[Edge]

... in response to Re: Re: Isn't a 46 year old guy, posted by Houndog on Jun 6, 2001

I guess I should mention that my future Suegro (father-in-law) is around 75 and my future Suegra is around 48 years old.  He was around 45 years old when he married my future mother-in-law and she was all of 18 years old.  From what I can tell they have had a good marriage. This was his second marriage.  He was an accountant for a sugar cane factory but is of course, retired.  They raised 3 wonderful daughters who have all turned out to be responsible, good women.

My girlfriend has told me that Bernardo (her father) is often in a "bad mood".  From what I can gather he is kind of a "curmudgeon" (a little like Andy Rooney).  Of course, he is still trying to keep an eye on the younger 23 year old with her boyfriends, etc., which can make a guy a little cranky.  

Anyway, Bernardo and I get along great.  Since I found that he likes his cerveza, we now have something in common that we like and can share.

So I think it still is unusual for an age spread this great for marriage in SA, but, it does successfully happen.

[Pete Eiguren]

... in response to Re: Re: Isn't a 46 year old guy, posted by Houndog on Jun 6, 2001

HD,
I agree that forty something guys and girls 18-22 is not a good idea but I think  it is very common.Actually girls in their 30's are not that great in number at the agencies compared to younger girls.I think the age thing is alot different there and not just with gringos.One Colombiana I know married a Colombian guy 46 years older than her.They are not still married.
You can go to Colombia,find a girl the age you were thinking
and be happy about it.(I did)Guys who hang around longer seem to gravitate to the younger ones,but mayby they are both just playing.

Pete

[Houndog]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Isn't a 46 year old guy, posted by Pete Eiguren on Jun 6, 2001

Pete,

Almost every single one of the Ca. Bunch has an unhappy busted 19-22 yr old story to tell. The archives are full(as well as LWL)of lust gone bad stories with the "little girls" as they're refered to by Colombiana's at or over 30. Yes I was asked to my face in Cali, why I was interested in Women, when all the other Gringo's were interested in "Little Girls" !

Maybe some will shop long enough, hard enough, and get lucky enough someday to tell about finding one that "Truly Loves Him" as in the forever type. But 40-45/19-22 "IS NOT COMMON." If it was, you could have/ would have sited ALL the happily ever after stories you seem to know about. At least Edge cited "ONE" exception to the rules....and like him, I know of "ONE" exception, my fiancee's Uncle 65/33 , who readily admitted he was an exception and knew it.

Now buying companionship and finding love are two different things...which would you like to discuss

HD

[Pete Eiguren]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Isn't a 46 year old guy, posted by Houndog on Jun 6, 2001

Hd,
Maybe its just the people I know,but I know alot of guys dating very young girls.(Actually I was blown away by this when I first went down)So far their track record is not good,but these younger girls will date the older guys.
It may seem like buying love and in some cases may amount to that,but its a little different,more ongoing and more complicated than just hitting the cat houses.Actually prostitution is more honest than alot of these relationships.You pay your money and get what you came for.
Just a clean business deal,no BS.But I think the guys are looking for more than that,and thats when deception can come to play.

Pete

[Edge]

... in response to Re: Isn't a 46 year old guy, posted by Pete Eiguren on Jun 6, 2001

Pete - with all due respect to Howard.  I do not know him and will take your word on what you say about him.  Maybe he was blinded for awhile. A Caleña 19 years old is very young to me.  I am around the same age as Howard.  My fiancée just turned 30.  I am much happier with a woman around this age. She is still young enough to look great and is more mature and sure about wanting to get married. I have met several women younger than 25 while traveling to Cali and other cities and I have not met anyone I would seriously consider marrying.  My girlfriend's younger sister is 23 and is pretty mature for her age.  She is a mechanical engineer and has a good head on her shoulders.  She knows how to speak english and is also very pretty. However, she still acts like a 23 year old much of the time.  Her friends are around this age, etc.  I would consider her too young for me.  I want a woman who is also closer to the age of my friends and neighbors so she can assimilate easier with them also.

It sounds like Howard dodged a bullet and I hope he can find himself a good one.

[Pete Eiguren]

... in response to Re: Re: Isn't a 46 year old guy, posted by Edge on Jun 6, 2001

I totally agree.Even though Forty something guys and 18-22 year old girls is common,I think it is a bad idea.Howard is looking at some other girls in their early 20's and I think he would be much better off with late 20's-early 30's.

Pete

[DallasSteve]

... in response to Isn't a 46 year old guy, posted by JUAN on Jun 6, 2001

A 46yo man with a 19yo fiance.  What was he thinking?  Doesn't he know 22 years is the limit.
Just joking.  I'm 44 with a 22yo Colombian wife.  I think what problems we have had (15 months together now) are more a result of differences in personality than in age.  She's an extroverted party girl who likes to stay out late and makes friends with everyone she meets.  I'm a quiet, stay at home, family man who programs computers and keeps a meticulous house.  But then, I never expected her to stay.  I just can't resist her.  And if she left tomorrow I'd go back and get another.  I've had more fun in the last 15 months than in the first 43 years of my life.  Solo se vive una vez.
OK, if you want something valuable from my experience it's that the most uncomfortable times are when she wants to hang with friends her age.  I don't fit in at all.  But when we're alone together it's all good.  I feel completely at ease with her and I treasure every moment.

[MikePastore]

... in response to Do as I say, not as I do, posted by DallasSteve on Jun 6, 2001

This guy comes closest to the mindset that I have. I will be 47 in August and will be heading south in the next year or so, and if I get a beautiful, young (25 or so) woman to share my life with me, it's up to me to keep her in my house and content. Steve, treasure every moment. I know that I will when my time comes.

[Houndog]

... in response to Good role model I think, posted by MikePastore on Jun 6, 2001

Personally I had my GOALS & EXPECTATIONS for Myself in Life and in Love especially, set considerably higher than one that didn't bail yet. I found for me, having a legally binding roommate far below what I needed or deserved in life.

And with the proper amount of Learning about self, the time, money and effort it isn't neccesary to lower ones expectations to barely above zero to still have them fullfilled. To me at least.

My standards for a relationship are far above those mentioned above and I found "all" I wanted, needed and more.

HD