Need Advice on Cali v. Bogota

[Richard Smith]

I have one week of vacation and I planned a trip to Cali, paying membership and room.  I only have one week and am interested in getting a wife.  But, I have been reading on the boards that basically Cali is a party town and Bogota is more serious.  However, when I called the agencies and asked them they said that there are serious woman in Cali.  I don't mind guys having fun, but I just don't have the time.  I am interested in advice.  Should I just scrap Cali altogether and go to Bogota?  Or, alternately I could go to Cali for a few days and bail out to Bogota if it doesn't look promising?  Would this work?  I am also interested in hearing from guys who have found someone in Cali?  Should I just relax and stay with Cali?

[Pete Eiguren]

... in response to Need Advice on Cali v. Bogota, posted by Richard Smith on May 15, 2001

Richard,
I went to Cali because I wanted to have fun while I was looking,and Bogota didn't sound like fun.My idea of a place to hang out was Latin Love in Cali.Hanging out around the pool in a luxury house seemed better than a hotel in a cold city.
I was serious,but willing to go several times if necessary.
I met my wife the first week and married her 2 months later.I don't recommend this but it was easy to get caught up in it.I lucked out and got a great girl,which was my first impression of her.
Actually I think there is something to the partying and played out reputation of Cali.There are many nice serious girls and alot who just want to play.I was married by the time I got to Bogota and didn't check it out as a single guy,but I do think if you are very serious you might do better there.Also if you do not speak spanish you will find more english speakers there.Stay at Nelsons.Don't go through any middleman.
Even if you meet someone in a week you should give it more time.I stayed 18 days my first trip.If you marry a Colombiana you will take lots of trips there,so you will need lots of weeks of vacation.You might take a one week trip but it isn't a one week process.And its not cheap.If thats all the time you have go to one city only.It takes time to arrange to meet the girls.

Pete

[Richard Smith]

... in response to Need Advice on Cali v. Bogota, posted by Richard Smith on May 15, 2001


Thanks

[Larry in Dallas]

... in response to Need Advice on Cali v. Bogota, posted by Richard Smith on May 15, 2001

Just get to colombia and be persistent and have a plan.  The women of colombia is the mindset you might want to have versus this "country" or that country.
  Many blessed men have found their wives and fiances all over the country of Colombia....

                             Larry in Dallas

[Villa in Cali]

... in response to Need Advice on Cali v. Bogota, posted by Richard Smith on May 15, 2001

Stay with Cali.  There are more than enough good women for you to meet in Cali.  Start planning your next trip because 1 week will go by fast.  You will need to invest time and money if you are truly looking for someone special.  Good luck.

Pacino

[Hodajr]

... in response to Need Advice on Cali v. Bogota, posted by Richard Smith on May 15, 2001

Richard,

I hate to brake it to ya, but you're gonna need more than a week to find & be found by the right one. Realistically, you're gonna need to re-visit that special lady before she'll leave. I'd be VERY SUSPICIOUS if a lady wants to leave so soon.

[denvermike]

... in response to Need Advice on Cali v. Bogota, posted by Richard Smith on May 15, 2001

I can't comment on Bogota as far as the agencies.  But I have been to Cali three times since November. My advice is pick either city and stay there for the week, don't split your effort with such a short time window.  If you only have a week, you should set a realistic goal of meeting from two to three women that you want to keep in touch with. I have to tell you, it is unlikely that a one week visit will do it. Most of the guys I know have gone several times, and still you may not find what you are looking for. If you go down there with the agenda of meeting someone in a week and starting the K-1 visa journey, you could be making a huge mistake.  I highly recommend that you change your attitude of "find a wife" to "having a vacation", and if you find one great, if not, you had a good time with some pretty ladies. Relax and take it easy.  If a lady is willing to get engaged in a few days, run, don't walk away. I almost made a big mistake my first trip along those same lines.

Make a concentrated effort in the first few days to screen as many as you can, and spend the last two or three days getting to know the ones of interest. But don't settle on just one on your first visit, keep your options open. Be very patient, you going need patience if you meet a Colombian lady that you want to marry.

Good luck,
mike

[Patrick]

... in response to Need Advice on Cali v. Bogota, posted by Richard Smith on May 15, 2001

You can find serious women in either Bogota or Cali.  However, the way you phrase your post, "I only have one week and am interested in getting a wife." makes it sound as if you're planning on meeting, courting, and marrying in a week.  Bad idea.  Take your time.  Two years from start to finish is reasonable.  Some do it faster, some take longer, but rushing into anything is almost always a mistake.  Better to take your time and do it right than depend on luck for a good marriage.