We talked yesterday and it was very positive! I feel alot better :c)
The letter writing advice is so good that I took it before I even started posting again
recently :c) In the letter I explained my frustrations. It was not a negative letter. I
explained that I am frustrated because I can’t figure out what to do to make her happy and
that she isn’t giving my a whole lot of clues how to. I told her how important I felt
communication was and that I was willing to listen to anything she had to say, positive or
negative. I also praised her at length for the things that she is doing and apologized to her
for being so clueless. I reinforced to her that we WILL get through this and that no
matter what happens that I will NOT give up on our relationship. I asked for her patience
while I figure out exactly how to correct my actions. I reassured her that I am not upset
with her, that I love her more each day and that the fact that I can’t figure things out is
eating me up inside. I stressed that I don’t blame her for our problems and that I simply
want to fix them and live a long happy life together. I explained that I am in school for the
sake of our future, so that I can better provide for her and our children.
She gave me no verbal response, but I did notice a change in her attitude for the better.
Yesterday I got off work early and when I got home she was in a pretty good mood. We
chatted for a while and the conversation was refreshing. After about an hour I went o
collect my things and get ready for school. When I got everything together I went in a nd
sat down next to her and we had a brief, but very positive discussion.
I told her that I am sorry that I have been so negative and selfish the last few months. I
told her that pressures outside of our home and the fact that we were having
communication problems at the time were simply too much for me to handle and that I
handled everything poorly. I explained that I now realize what I must do and that I am
going to be a bigger part of her life. I told her that I now realize that I abandoned her
after the wedding and that I am sorry. I made a point to tell her that it was no reflection
on her, just that I didn’t realize exactly what I was doing until I had done it. I told her that
we have more things to discuss and that we will have to talk about things a little each day.
(She is not a fan of long problem solving sessions like I am, so short one topic discussions
seem to be the best way to approach her right now) I told her none of it was bad, just that
there were things like our family budget and what we were gonna do for the future that I
want her input on. She nodded and was attentive and everything ended with a kiss. I am
assuming this was first step we have taken together on the road to Wellville :c)
I have a feeling we’re gonna be ok :c)
Keep the Faith
H
