... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Self-Imposed Exile, posted by humabdos on Mar 31, 2001Hum,
Yeah, I know it does, that's I am trying to be proactive and trying to sort things out.
Actually, she has never really changed towards me, she has been distant since the begining. I have seen a change in her for the positive with everyone except me, that's why I'm getting frustrated. She seems to be getting more comfortable with everyone but me. That's why I think that I am doing something wrong. That there is something that I am missing. One thing I defitely know, is that I allow her more space than anyone else. When she's crabby and wants to be left alone, I leave her alone out of respect. My mother, whom she seems to be the closest with, NEVER leaves her alone. She won't tolerate her silence and now they seem to be best friends! I really think she is confusing my respect for her wishes with indifference. I know how depresion works, I deal with it in my life every day--depression runs in my family--and I know that when I am feeling sorry for myself that I actually want someone to talk to me, even though my body language my suggest otherwise.
The similarities to Larry's story bother me, but if she is planning something why is she so close to my mother and Aunt? Wouldn't she withdraw from them? She has to realize that as long as I don't abuse her, that they will be on my side. Why would she continue getting closer to people that she knows will abandon her, when she executes her betrayal?
I don't know man, thanx for discussing this with me. We'll figure it out together. I certainly hope that this makes others more aware of the possiblity for complications in a relationship of this nature.
H
