... in response to Thank you for your concern!, posted by Howard on Mar 31, 2001In searching for a spouse from a differant country, I believe that we do not know the true extent of our cultural differances, untill we actually bring them here and start our lives together.
I believe for the most part, the Asian cultures as a whole, do not tend to be openly affectionate towards the ones they love. As Americans, I think we tend to over use those three little words, "I love you" to the point that they no longer special anyomore. The song "More Than Words", by extreme, comes to my mind.
Thai has already informed me, that to be openly affectionate in Vietnam(kissing , holding, etc..) would be disrespectful to his culture and his family. So , I do not expect him to openly show me that he loves me. I'll just know in our hearts that there is love. But I am thinking there are more to his words than he says. His culture , as a whole, are not affectionate. They show their love in other ways. Such as preforming simple tasks, or, as in your case, saving all those pictures.
I am not saying that I do not expect Thai to conform somewhat to my culture. I just expect myself to give him lots of time and space, and understanding. If I want this to work, I believe that is one sacrifice I must make. and eventually, (hopefully) there will be a balance between our cultures. And then we will know what to expect from eachother. Give and Take, as they say. But at first, I truely believe that it should be me "giving" for the most part. He has made the ultimate sacrifice to be with me. He has given up his way of life. Left his family, and friends behind to start a new way of life here with me.
And I'll be the most patient, I am sure, that I have ever been in my life, if I want this to work, and last forever.
Now I am rambling again...
__Lori
