opinions from a post on the latin board

[Dave H]

... in response to assimilation? ROTFLMAO!, posted by Humabdos on Oct 5, 2003

Hey Hum,

I'm trying to avoid saying what I really think! LOL

Dave H.

[Bear]

... in response to opinions from a post on the latin board, posted by Chris F on Oct 4, 2003

the large community of Filipinos in California and the controlling attitudes of Filipinas toward others I'd say for some living in California, there might be some credence to this argument.  My wife is constantly reminded about the evil that was forced on her (by even her best friends and family) in the way of blatantly cruel remarks.  But then once you get out of California I think its all going to depend on where you are living and the Filipinos your wife assosiates with and how well you did you home work before you were married.  The Filipinos in our group here are in no way like that but I have seen some groups here where the Filipinas are exactly like that.  I suggest it behoves you to be involved and knowing.

I have heard stories both ways on living in the R.P. and since I don't live there I can't commment other than what I have observed.  Prejudice appears to be age/community specific and on occasion maybe even race related.  But generally Filipinos are more supportive and accepting of Americans than any other countries I've been.

Oddly enough I know numerous successful marriages between Americans and many different asian cultures, even a Cambodian.  I don't know any successful marriages on the Latino or Russian sides.  Guess I just haven't been looking.  I've seen failures on all sides but it seems to me its always related to a lack of communication rather than intent to deceive, but there have been some where deception was part of the plan from the beginning.  Once again communication and prayer are critical.

Bear and Honey

[Humabdos]

... in response to Considering..., posted by Bear on Oct 5, 2003

I've seen it to Bear and it really makes me sick!  California is a nice place to visit but I woundn't want to live there!

Hum

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Considering..., posted by Bear on Oct 5, 2003

You took the words right out of my mouth, I agree.

[Ray]

... in response to opinions from a post on the latin board, posted by Chris F on Oct 4, 2003

Hi Chris,

Well, the poster’s experiences are not the same as mine. Personally, I think all this nonsense that “x” race is better than “y” race when it comes to choosing a wife serves no valuable purpose at all. If someone is attracted more towards Latinos than they are toward Filipinas, then that’s fine with me, but the negative stereotyping by race only tends to show a person’s ignorance and personal bias, IMHO.

“Have you ever been to the PI?”
Yes.

“How many filipinas have you met?”
Maybe 50,000 or more? I never counted. I have over 30 years of living with Filipinas.

“In 20 years in the Navy I have probably been there 50 times.”
I spent over 20 years in the Navy also and have lived in the Philippines.

“Living in San Diego, I deal with them almost daily.”
I also live in San Diego and deal with “them” more than daily :-)

“I like the filipino people but would rather drive a burning stake through my heart than marry one.”
Fine, then don’t marry one. It’s not for everyone.

“I have seen so many young American sailors fall in love with a lady in PI, marry her and bring her back to the states only to have her leave for a filipino already here.”
I saw one of those, out of hundreds, but the other guy was not Filipino. From my experience, the vast majority of Filipinas who leave their American husbands shortly after arrival do so because the husband turned out to be a total jerk.

“I have seen such marriages be very successful but less than 10%.”
What’s the definition of a successful marriage? I would estimate 60-70% success rate overall by conservative standards. Overall, most of the failures are caused by the same issues that cause failures in any marriage.

“The filipino people are much less accepting of interracial marriages than latinos.”
Not true according to my experiences. Not even close!

“Your filipina wife will be under incredible pressure from other filipinos to leave you and join her "own" people once she is here.”
Huh? I have never heard of such nonsense before. I have no idea where he got that one from(?).

“Latinos are much more willing to assimilate with the general population than filipinos.”
Complete nonsense!!! From my observations, Filipinos readily assimilate into almost any culture or society, probably much more so than people from most other cultures. I would rather not comment on Latinos assimilating into our culture.

“If you would like to know what you are in for try becoming a part of the filipino community in a social setting. Be prepared to be completely ignored. You are not wanted there and if you have a filipina wife she will be ostrisized (sp) and you will be rejected completely. Filipinas with American husbands can only socialize with filipinas with American husbands.”
Again, total nonsense! I have lived in part of the Filipino community here in San Diego for over 30 years. 95% of my neighbors are Filipino. Many of my best friends are Filipino. My doctor is a Filipina. My dentist is a Filipino. My barber is a Filipina. I have worked with numerous Filipinos and have been invited into their homes on many occasions. I have definitely NOT been ignored. My wife has NEVER felt ostracized. We have NEVER felt rejected by our neighbors, co-workers or any other Filipinos.

I don’t know the author but he seems to have some personal issues with Filipinos. From my experience, the only non-Filipinos who feel rejected by Filipinos are usually the ones who feel superior to Filipinos and look down upon them. Unfortunately, I have known many such individuals during my time in the Navy. A little humility goes a long way. Treat them with respect and they will welcome you with open arms. Look down upon them and yes, you will feel rejected! Filipinos are well known for their hospitality toward strangers and people of other nationalities.

Ray

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Re: opinions, posted by Ray on Oct 4, 2003

Well done and truthful in my experiece.

[Kreeger]

... in response to opinions from a post on the latin board, posted by Chris F on Oct 4, 2003

...is full of SHeoT. Just look at the stats of the users of this board. End of story. Bye-bye.

[Nathan]

... in response to opinions from a post on the latin board, posted by Chris F on Oct 4, 2003

   I would pay it no mind. Sounds like the guy was in the
Navy and visited Whorehouses in the Philippines 50 times.
I know the type. I avoid them like the plague as they are
nothing but whorehopping degenerates who spend their time
whining about the quality of women they meet in bars.
   I have lived in the Philippines as well as three countries in Latin America and the guy is an ignorant putz. Every assertion he makes is a load of bull crap, as the years of
accumulated experience on the board here will verify.

Nathan