long time no see

[Lori]

Hi Everyone, I hope everything is going great with everybody!! I really don't read the board much, but I do skip over it from time to time.
I have not heard from Thai or his family since the one time he tried to contact me.  I withdrew my sponsorship and turned in the Nail shop he and his neice were illegally working in. I thought that was my duty to tie up the lose ends I was responsible for. They no longer work in the Nail shop and I never see Thai at his brothers house anymore(I drive that way to work).
That is the end of it. I have not taken any more steps to have him put out of the country. I was going to persue this thing until the end. But where would that have gotten me? I would surely end up this totally bitter woman. And if that consumed my life for as long as it would have taken, what would I have after it was over but an empty soul?
I have taken alot of positive things out of this experience. The most important thing is that I know I can be happy on my own. I don't need a relationship to define who I am. (I think alot of American women have that hang-up) The second thing is that I know now what it is I want to do with my life***TRAVEL***. I'll be going on a one month tour of cambodia and thailand in the summer of 2005.wooohooo--can't wait for that!!
I quit my second job and now sell used womens clothing on E-bay. This gives me my savings for my future trip and also lets me spend time with my girls.
Last year all winter someone has been shoveling my sidewalk. I finally cought the critter. It has been my neighbor. He is a single dad with one kid still at home. Well, now that it is summer, he has mowed my lawn. I told him I had a mower and that he did not need to mow it.(bastard!)I finally had a conversation with him about 3 weeks ago. Much to my distress, he seems to be a super nice, down to earth, big belly, balding guy!!(just like most of you guys). Anyway I have since went to a movie and dinner with him. He tried to kiss me on the first date(what nerve!!) But I only gave him a handshake. I have 2 tickets to the Tom Petty concert here, so I guess I'm going to take him in return for the shoveling and the mowing. Maybe then we'll be even and he won't try to kiss me anymore.
well, take care everyone!! I love you guys!

[Jay]

... in response to long time no see, posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

[This message has been edited by Jay]

Hi Lori,

Just a short post to let you know that I am THRILLED to hear your are doing well and are getting past this. I've always wondered about how you were doing. I knew you would tell us in your own time.

We all got to get over the disasters in our lives, but of course that is easier said than done. Gotta keep pressing on. Look's like you have done this. I bet it still sux and hurts a bit, but time heals all wounds. Looks like you're well on your way.

My biggest concern for you, was that you would never trust again. Looks like you are ready to live again, the trust will come in time. Good. Take your trip, do that traveling. Give the nieghbor a chance to be a friend. Just start there. Ya never know. You got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

I thought I could think of some good lyrics that I know we both like as an ending to this post. I can't. I'm stumped. LOL!  All I can think of is Skynard's "Give me back my bullets". Always works for me! ;-) Right now, I'm listening to "Tweeter and the monkeyman" by the Traveling Willburies, but that won't apply to this.LOL!

Anyway, M'Lady. Your doing great. Continue.

Luv ya,
Jay

[Jay]

... in response to Re: long time no see, posted by Jay on Jun 19, 2003

What am I, chopped liver? I'm the only one who didn't get a response from you here, Lori. Oh well, I know the women on these boards don't care for 'ol Jay as they think I'm some kind of crass Jerk. However, that's just an act I put on for the entertainment of others. I thought you could see through that though.

Albeit, I meant what I said. Welcome back.

Jay

[Lori]

... in response to long time no see, posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

I meant to give you that advise awhile back, but got too busy. Hope the family is doing great!!
take care LORI

[Dave H]

... in response to DAVE--babies can't wear purple g-strings..., posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

Hi Lori,

WOW I checked out P-L today and saw your post. I am very happy to hear that your life has moved on and that you and the girls are doing well. You are going to have some fun on your trip! I hope you can also visit the Philippines one day...but, I must warn that you will be swamped with suitors. Don't rule out us short (or tall), fat, bald guys...we kind of grow on  you. ;o))) The family is doing fine, just hot down here.

Dave H.

[Lori]

... in response to long time no see, posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

Congrats on everything. Seems like all is going great for you.

I have made a list of things to do before I die. I knew you would appriciate the one thing I'm doing in August. I am finally going to see Neil Young in concert. I can't freakin believe it myself(pinch--pinch)
take care--Lori

[Humabdos]

... in response to Hum.., posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

Hi Lori!

Cool, I haven't seen Neil in years. I think it was sometime in the 80's.
Good luck with the neighbor dude he sounds good so far, bet he doesn't mind getting his nails dirty :-)

Hum & Sallie

[Ray]

... in response to long time no see, posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

Hi Lori,

I think you made a wise decision not to fall into the hate/revenge trap. I can't remember, did you ever get your final nullity?

Travelling is great fun and you can really do it on the cheap if you work at it. A month in Cambodia & Thailand sounds fantastic. Is this some kind of organized tour with all transportation and everything included? Are you going to take any of the girls this time?

Maybe if you get the fat bald guy a hair transplant and get him on an exercise/diet program, you'll have the makings of the perfect mate... (ROFL!). Does he like to travel also?

Ray

[Lori]

... in response to Re: long time no sea, posted by Ray on Jun 18, 2003

Hi Ray--hope everything is great with your family.
I did'nt get an allulment. I could not prove that I was intoxicated when I was married. Nor could I prove that Thai was mentally retarded--although it was not to hard to prove that about his family. Grounds for anullment are too strict, so divorce it is for me.
About the trip--I am planning it on my own. I'll take my oldest daughter.  Except when I go into cambodia I'll hire a tour guide. I am thinking about Intrepid Tours. You sort of rough it with them, and that's what I am looking for. i have been taking notes on the web site "lonely planet". Right now , camodia and Thailand are fighting so the border is closed. Lets hope that they get over it by 2005 or I'll have to go to vietnam and enter cambodia that way. I really feel a need to see the Angkor Wat ruins for myself. They are almost as grand as the Egyptian ruins(but not quite!)

As far as the fat old (43) bald guy goes--I'd take him just as he is if he is as sweet as he seems. He does seem to have alot of the same interests as me, traveling being one of them. i just need to make sure it's not all talk ( I like the same crap you like bullshirt) if you know what I mean.

It has been over a year since Thai went to california, I really don't know if that's enough time to be single or what. But it is nice to know someone has an eye for me.
Take care--LORI

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: Re: no sea long time, posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

asdf

[Windmill Boy]

... in response to long time no see, posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

Hi Lori

..... This  neighbor  must not  have  gotten  the  memo  that  chivalry  is  officialy  dead  like  the  rest  of  us  did  ha ha ha.  well  enjoy it  then!

I'm having  dinner tonight with a friend who is a large woman with a nice sweet personality.  Last weekend she  had  a  date  with a guy from LA who was  really digging  her  and things  went  well  between them.  She  noted  that  he was  really nurturing and  doting on her. She  is  usually the  one  putting  out  the  nurturing  effort  in  relationships  and  she  was  not  used  to  this turn  about.   She  said  that  so far  she  couldn't  really  find  any major faults  with this  guy.  I  said  "Then  don't  try to go out of your way to find any, and just acccept  the situation as it is and go with the flow and see what  happens"

Just  remember  the  Buddah  has  a  big  belly  and I think  it  is  supposed  to  be  good  luck  to  rub  it  right?  ha ha ha

Take  care  and  keep in  the loop  now  and  then.

Windy

[Lori]

... in response to Chivalry is still  alive?, posted by Windmill Boy on Jun 18, 2003

you know, my neighbor shoveled my sidewalk when he knew I would be gone. So he did not do it so that I would know it was him. I cam e home early one day, that's how I found out. Now, that's just old fasioned "nice guy"

I said "Then don't try to go out of your way to find any, and just acccept the situation as it is and go with the flow and see what happens"---now that's good advice!! I just don't know if it is too soon after the Thai experience. I guess I'll just breathe...

hmmm...rub the belly--huh?

[Jun Encarnado74]

... in response to long time no see, posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

Lori,

Yeah, I remember you. you were the one who was in love or married (i am not sure..) to that cambodian or vietnamese guy? it has been a long time. I remember you were having problems with that tguy because when he got here in the US he was very homesick..or something.

are you guys still together?...

[Lori]

... in response to Re: long time no see -- I remember u.., posted by Jun Encarnado74 on Jun 18, 2003

no

[Jeff S]

... in response to long time no see, posted by Lori on Jun 18, 2003

We big belly balding guys always enjoy hearing from you and like Stephen, I also am happy you didn't turn this experience into bitterness.

Oh no ... a kiss on the first date? What chutzpah!

Well enjoy Tom Petty and remember, you don't have to live like a refugee..

Keep stopping by occasionally and give us a hi!

- Jeff S.