... in response to So Much For Theories!, posted by Dave H on Mar 18, 2001A Filipino-American sexton at my parish indicated this to me. His wife is a fellow Butuanite, and I saw them today. The wife was the organist at our wedding.
Well, I briefly might have mentioned this before. He and his wife are very religious and to alot for the parish and community. When he learned of my divorce, he told me "keep the faith". Months after the divorce, when I talked to him, he urged me to get my marriage annulled. I have the annullment papers, but have not yet done the paperwork. I've stalled for a couple of reasons. The first is that it is going to be a considerable outlay to get the diocese to consider it. Second, and more of the reason now, I'm not ready to get married yet. As for the future there are other things to consider such as the religion of a prospective wife.
He did say something about Filipina nurses. It is fairly common to find a divorced Filipina nurse. As we were talking he was emphasizing the importance that adultery is a sin. The spouse guilty of adultery, or divorcing to have sexual relations with somebody else is a grave sin. He mentioned that the men who are second husbands to Filipina nurses (those who married to get to the U.S.A., obtain a lucrative nursing job, and then dump their first husbands) are guilty of a "grave sin" being married to such nurses. He was referring to the perpetual stage of lust and adultery. The adultery being the initial act on the part of the women. The men being guilty for having conjugal relations with such women (lust leading to perpetual adultery).
He urged me to have my marriage annulled. Without formal annullment (at least in the eyes of the Catholic Church), I too would be guilty of perpetual adultery if I remarried.
Well, the church is operated by humans. I don't yet have the money to divert it solely to an annulment at this point. When I approach that bridge someday, I will persue it.
- Kevin
