A Response to Carrisse

[yorktr]

Gee, Carrisse, I don't think that the fellows were accusing only Filipinas exclusively as being gold-diggers. It is merely that most of the fellows here are pursuing that group primarily, so any negative thoughts about the motives of foreign women seem to be directed at the Filipinas.
For centuries women the world over have tried to improve their circumstances by marrying well. I call it capitalizing their marriage. Mothers of the American girls tell them that it is just as easy to fall in love with a rich fellow. I have seen advertisements for classes and seminars entitled "How to Marry the Rich" for well over 20 years now in both California and New York.
So the fellows here are somewhat terrified that they will get ripped off. They have probably experienced this already, as I have, from their American wives, and rather than write off the whole business and become hermits, they try again, but are on their guard. That is reasonable, no? Or should we just wear badges saying "Hello, I am a Slimeball"? It is becoming even more scary as the truly serious problem of domestic abuse is in the process of being defined down from actual beating or mistreatment to basically whatever the woman wants it to be, without even such evidence as police reports or other corroborative information. Chances are this will not apply to fellows, who are victims of domestic abuse which is largely unreported. Such is the gist of recent NYC legislation requiring employers to hire women who simply claim to be victims without any proof whatsoever. But I digress...  
To be horribly self honest, I assume that the only thing I have to offer a foreign lady is a free pass to Gringoland. Americans have had no interest in me for decades, as my qualities of honesty, dependability and integrity were and are frightfully boring. Some 10 years ago the disinterest became mutual. I now find most American women to be boring people. Astoundingly uninteresting, yet fully self-absorbed. They of course think that they are fascinating, and being clueless can only denounce us fellows as being in search of sex-slaves. Yet any immigrant to the U.S. has lived a more interesting and more troubled life than my American sisters. Maybe one day they'll understand...yeah, right.
I tend to date Chinese since there are more Chinese/American clubs here in Noo Yawk. The vast majority are good people, however, I have met a few who are playing a game. What is funny is that these ladies underestimate their foe; they seem to equate the relatively laid-back nature of American guys with stupidity. What is sad is that this type of woman is essentially settling for someone they really don't like for that Gringoland ticket. I experienced that recently with a woman I call "The Actress". I'm no movie star, so when someone is hanging all over me, it is suspicious. When I told her merely that I had failed to fall in love with her, she immediately denounced me and all of my ideosyncrasies, of which she had previously expressed enamoration. She had six months to land her American before her visa expired. I sometimes wonder if she found someone that she actually liked. I am obviously no longer on her phone list, so I'll never know.
Final thought; To keep myself really honest I try to approach this as if the U.S. is the poor country, and that RP, Peru and China are the lands of opportunities. This helps me walk a mile in their shoes or sandals. However, I'm going to turn 50 this year, so I figure that this game is about over for me, and that I'll just weld three trailers together into a Hermit Mansion...Like they say, if you want unconditional love, get a dawg.

[Carl]

... in response to A Response to Carrisse, posted by yorktr on Mar 15, 2001

To Yorktr

50!! to be so young, I was 68 when I met my pot of
GOLD(my Filipino wife)
Carl

[Dave H]

... in response to A Response to Carrisse, posted by yorktr on Mar 15, 2001

Hi Yorktr,

Go to Asia or the Philippines. Believe me, you're still in the game. There you have a much better chance of finding a woman that will appreciate your qualities. They may look the same here, but it ain't the same species.

Dave "The Former Hermit" H.

[Dave H]

... in response to Loved It!, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2001

I went to the Philippines looking for gold. My motives were purely selfish. I wanted to be happy! I was looking for a special lady to spend the rest of my life with. I think that I found her. I believe that she got screwed in the deal. ;o) She feels the opposite. Our gold wasn't about money, but rather certain qualities that we were looking for in a partner. Maybe we are both "Gold Diggers." )

Dave H.

[kevin]

... in response to I'm a Gold Digger!, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2001

I hope you really had the "Midas touch" in this case.  I hope I do too the next time.

- Kevin

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: I'm a Gold Digger!, posted by kevin on Mar 16, 2001

Thanks Kevin,

I will keep trying until I get it right!

Good luck to you!

Dave H.

[kevin]

... in response to Mr. Midas, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2001

Gee, Dave.  Speaking of Midas.  I could really use a muffler.  LOL.

- Kevin

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Mr. Midas, posted by kevin on Mar 16, 2001

N/T

[Jimbo]

... in response to A Response to Carrisse, posted by yorktr on Mar 15, 2001

Hi yorktr,

Seems like NY has given you a negative attitude!  One trip to the PI and you'll forget about the three trailer Hermit Mansion - seriously )  My brothers and sister had taken to calling me a hermit before I took the trip to meet a lovely Filipina.  Then after the second trip when I got engaged they called me crazy.  Now they view my transformation with wonder.  I just tell them that I've been to the Mountaintop, and I've seeeeeeeen the Promised Land.......!

Jim )

[Cecil]

... in response to A Response to Carrisse, posted by yorktr on Mar 15, 2001

Your post brought to mind one of the common ways of attacking those of us you seek a foreign bride.  A person, usually an AW will say these girls are only after your money.  I like to ask these AW if they date homeless men or go down to the shelter to find a husband.  I dated an American lady who had no where near my financial status.  Yet not one person ever suggested to me that she was only after my money.  If she had been a filipina, the same people would be labeling her a goldigger.  From my estimation, a goldigger is not a lady who seeks a better life for herself or her family.  A golddigger is someone who marries a man solely for money with no love for him.

Just my 0.02 worth

Cecil

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: A Response to Carrisse, posted by Cecil on Mar 15, 2001

N/T

[curt]

... in response to A Response to Carrisse, posted by yorktr on Mar 15, 2001

I was divorced at the age of 52 last year and my life is just beginning!