... in response to The final end to this long Saga, posted by John LV on Dec 3, 2002David,
Whether you realize it or not, you orchestrated this whole thing and she was only an actress in this play you have directed.
If not, you would have gotten rid of her very early on in the game plain and simple.
Sorry that life is teaching you such a harsh lesson. Learn or repeat. Then again, be as you are saying and do not learn but live only for yourself.
This way you lose on both counts, one getting a beating without coming away with a lesson learned ---- instead punishing yourself forever and others with you new hard skinned attitude.
By doing this you give her all mighty power over you from this day on.
Choose this if you like. It is your life.