I was reading some things on the net and stumbled across this. It sounded logical to me. We've seen a few unhealthy people post here at times so I thought I'd pass it along.
Online Dating
The Self is comprised of four parts which are all connected to each other, as shown below:
Mental
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Physical--Self--Spiritual
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Emotional
A healthy relationship requires that both partners connect in all four areas of the self: body, heart,
mind, and soul. Healthy relationships also need time and patience to develop, and they require an
in person sharing of energy between both partners. When people are physically apart they can
connect to each other spiritually, emotionally, and mentally but only to a certain degree. When
the physical part is included, the sharing of energy between the partners clarifies the connection
which is building between them into something healthy; thus, adding more definition to this
connection.
Long-distance communication which occurs online, over the telephone, through letter writing,
through personal ads, and/or anything in which there is no physical presence, does allow partial
connections emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. However, the physical presence of both
partners being in the same room or area is missing. This may also cause both partners to create
expectations about the other and resulting in misunderstandings, which is of course unhealthy.
Even though long-distance communication does affect the physical part of the self, this
communication had its origin in the other three areas of the self. To connect in the physical realm
requires both partners to be in the same room or area with each other so that their actual physical
bodies may send energy to each other and that this energy may be shared with each other.
Connections which start with long-distance communication may serve as a doorway ONLY to
something further, as long as it is followed up by including the physical area of the self. Some
claim to fall in love with each other over the Internet. However, for this claim to be healthy
requires further clarification which can only be accomplished by allowing the physical part to
catch up to the rest of the self which thinks it is in love. A healthy relationship means that a
connection is made and is being nurtured in all four areas of the self: body, heart, mind, and soul.
[Copyrighted 1997 by David Little Elk.]
