Fiance here two weeks report

[SteveM]

... in response to Self Centered, posted by juio99 on Nov 18, 2002

Sure, there are times and things in which the self-centered aspect appears.  Of course, as well as the stunning outfits, we also have a dramatically improved home interior and gardens that come from this same trait.  

The problem, IMO, of calling this "self-centered" is that it misses the tremendous amount of effort (at least my) RW is willing to put forth to get what she wants.  We didn't have a painter, we didn't pay to get curtains and bed spreads, we didn't pay anyone to put up wallpaper.

Also, keep in mind that there will be times (if you are fortunate with your choice) in which the level of attention given to making you feel special and important is truly amazing.  Combine the two, and you get "treating yourselves well", which is part of the point of being together in the first place.

[KenC]

... in response to Self Centered, posted by juio99 on Nov 18, 2002

JR,
I have to disagree with you.  Being "self centered" would imply that the woman would put her self before others.  If my wife is any kind of example, she would blow your theory to shreds.  As a matter of fact, her "humbleness" is one of her major attractions for me.  Being young, beautiful and intellingent, she has all rights to be aloof and is not.  This is not to say she doesn't realize who and what she is though.  She once told me after I complimented her beauty, "Yes, I AM beautiful.  So what?  It doesn't make me any BETTER than anyone else.  It is just a quality that I happen to have now and it will disappear in time."  Sorry, but she is wrong, because that kind of inner beauty will never fade with age.
KenC

[Pordzhik]

... in response to not quite, posted by KenC on Nov 18, 2002

My wife has a very "matter of fact" attitude about her own beauty, and humbleness and dignity are words a lot of people search for when commenting on her character.

I'm sometimes asked "how does she compare to English women?" That's when I'm lost for words.

[robobond]

... in response to not quite, posted by KenC on Nov 18, 2002

Ken, does she have a sister?

Nice post.

Bob

[Jack]

... in response to Self Centered, posted by juio99 on Nov 18, 2002

JR, I will respectfully disagree with your statement "But with RW, especially the younger ones, you had better believe it is 'All about them."

Although there are exceptions with everything, everyone and every region of the FSU, to say this about RW on the whole, including the young one's, is just not true.  Sure there are going to be many young (and older) ladies from Moscow, St. Pete and Kiev who may feel this way, but there are many more Russian women (old and young) who are 100% opposite of what you are stating.

[wsbill]

... in response to Is everybody going for the trophy wife?, posted by BubbaGump on Nov 18, 2002

lol...

[robobond]

... in response to Re: Real men don't line dance , posted by wsbill on Nov 18, 2002

n/t

[Oscar]

... in response to Is everybody going for the trophy wife?, posted by BubbaGump on Nov 18, 2002

If 10 years ago you were dating extremely attractive women here, you will likely be able to do so there, unless of course you have perhaps changed drastically like gaining 150 pounds etc..  If you were good at dating here you will do fine there.
My experience was that many (not all) of the "super model" types there were just as demanding and self-centered as the ones I ever met here.. To find one who is not will take some searching and a little luck, (which seems to flow pretty freely there)..  ;-)
Just my experience, others mileage may vary..

[robobond]

... in response to Re: Is everybody going for the trophy wi..., posted by Oscar on Nov 18, 2002

n/t

[Zink]

... in response to Is everybody going for the trophy wife?, posted by BubbaGump on Nov 18, 2002

Not me, Bubba. I just want a nice girl in her mid to late twenties. I found and was badly burned by a supermodel type a year ago. Now I'm hooked up with a very dear, sweet lady. She's cute and well built but not a head turner. That's fine with me because it's the heart I'm looking for. Actually my current girl is sort of an anomaly for a Russkaya. She's not obsessed with appearances and wears comfortable clothes. She does dress up very nicely for dinners out but prefers jeans, running shoes and nice sweaters to mini skirts, high heels and see-through blouses. She suits me well because I'm not a suit and tie kind of guy.

[Oscar]

... in response to Re: Is everybody going for the trophy wi..., posted by Zink on Nov 18, 2002

That's great Zink, you sound very happy.

[KenC]

... in response to Fiance here two weeks report, posted by Ramblin on Nov 18, 2002

Ramblin,
Get used to the clingy concept.  It is understandable because you ARE her lifeline there.  If your girl is anything like my wife, you better also get used to the emotional and jealous side of her.  Of course the flip side is that they KNOW how to take care of their man.  Best of luck to the two of you.
KenC