.....to FSU women, and to themselves.
Although this has been covered here before, I'd thought I'd share a recent story that has come to my attention. Some background: I began assisting a friend who wanted to pursure this little adventure after meeting my former fiancee. (Some of you already know about this) He was unable to do so until recently because of financial contstaints but lately he's begun searching. Now, he has refused to listen to me on more than one occasion and it appears he has already been scammed once. When I verify the validity of his claim, I will post the agency and culprit involved.
But the real story is this: He had contacted a woman from a website awhile back, she replied that she had already met her man and wished my friend luck. Now she has contacted him again stating she is in the USA and in dire straits. What struck me was her description of how perfect this guy was prior to her arrival.
Seems her Prince Charming isn't at all what he appeared to be. Revealed to be social misfit with emotional problems, the deal is rapidly falling apart. Now she's lost and pleading with my pal to help her. Well, you all know what my advice was but, like many men, a damsel in distress is hard for him to ignore. But thats his problem and I'm doing all I can to explain why he can't get involved.
Now *if* this tale of woe is true (a big if, as I'm only getting her side of the story through him), here we have another case of a guy who misrepresented himself. Another bottom feeder among the MOB crowd, the true loser we all hear about. We all know that to lie to these girls about your assets, status, etc, is the eventual kiss of death to many relationships. The men doing this *know* they are being dishonest. But what about the emotional cripples? It's much harder to admit that to oneself.
On the other hand, if a man is aware of these shortcomings he may rationalize that his new bride will solve these issues. Make him "better", so to speak. In both cases the deal will likely fail. My point is this: If you think she will mend your cracks, think again. And if you think you really don't have any of these emotional issues, double think again. Maybe you really are all together, but some serious and honest introspection is always a healthy thing.
Ask the people closest to you their opinions and think about what will happen after she gets here, instead of being so caught up in the process you're blind. And if you are *too* overjoyed at your success in finding a woman, best to ask the Little Man inside yourself why. Remember, The Little Man usually knows all. It's often repeated here how this endeavor is not for the faint of heart. (Or the faint of wallet.) I submit it isn't for the faint of brain either. So look beyond the search and K1, you be screwing with other people's lives here in a very big way. Think about her kids too if she has them. Sometimes to see far into the distance, one must focus much closer to home.
