Posted by Oscar...
"I ordered tea, my interpreter ordered tea, and this girl ordered every frigging thing on the menu just about! I'm thinking "ok, just let it go"... Anyway, we're sitting there and she pulls out her smokes. I do not smoke and was specifically only meeting women who had said they did not smoke, as her profile had said. I had a sore throat at the time and was starting to get sick and I said "Your profile said you didn't smoke", to which she replied "oh, all the girls say that but we all smoke", and she laughed! I then asked her VERY NICELY that because I had a sore throat that was getting worse, would she mind not smoking at the table?
To which she told my interpreter "I don't like to do what people ask me to do, and again laughed, and she lit up"
Another day in my yacht charter business...
So my wife and I go off to work the other day in our Yacht Charter Business. We have 10 clients on the boat and 2 show up on time. It's not a private charter so I take the 1st two ladies down to the boat to relax while I go back up and wait for the other passengers. I then call them on the phone when they are 10 minutes late and they are still at the zoo... They of course lie and tell me that they are on the way and close. So I wait for another 40 minutes and they drive up. 8 smoking passengers get out of their van and they are 4 Russian couples. Two of the girls are really pretty, and the other two are average. I'm thinking....this is going to be interesting. Of course they don't apologise for being late and holding up the boat, and we head on down to the boat.
When they get on the boat, I tell them the smoking section is at the bow, so the non-smokers can get some fresh air at the stern. They go to the bow and start smoking. I also tell the girls to take off their street shoes that are "high" so they don't break their ankles when the boat heels over. Within 20 minutes after leaving the dock, the ladies have their shoes back on and they are all smoking all over the boat. They are not listening to me or my wife and my Latina wife is getting spitting mad. I'm alot more mellow, so I'm just trying to keep the peace between passengers, but my wife says a few things in Spanish to me and one of the Russian couples tells me to be careful because they speak spanish. (What my wife said was not unkind) I speak some Russian after my marriage to my Russian wife so I respond in Russian and tell them to be careful too because I understand them .LOL. (They speak perfect English but had been speaking Russian.) That surprised her a little when I started talking to her in Russian. So the point of this is that we were treating them nice, and they were treating the rest of us with serious disrespect. 3 hours with this group was an eternity... We have taken out over 50,000, guests over the years, and this charter moves to the top of the list for obnoxious passengers.
So the other day my friend from Arizona comes over to visit and introduce me to his new Russian wife that he brought over about 8 months ago. She has two kids 3 and 17 that he also takes on. My wife and I decide to invite them for breakfast at our house. So they arrive and the kid is basically out of control. The mother doesn't give a zhitt that he is ruining plants and tearing the place up. I have alot of experience with kids, so I start playing with him to get things a little more under control. I have this bowl of hershey kisses on my table and my friend's RW takes a couple of chocolates out and gives them to my Weimaraner (dog) I ask her politely not to give him anymore because it makes him sick, and she smiles. So I go back in the kitchen to work on breakfast, then stick my head around the corner and that **** is giving my dog more chocolates. She speaks perfect English so I know that is not the problem. I ask her again to please don't give the dog chocolates. So this happens TWO more times until we sit down at the table and she is feeding the dog waffles at the table after I ask her not to. My wife and I have to feed her kid because she is preoccupied with our dog...Another 3 hours, and another eternity...
My friend tells me that the 1st few months of the marriage were good, but now she comes home from work 4 days a week and starts screaming at him for not having the house clean. He used an example that she went off for not lining up the coffee cups all the same way. He asks me if I am glad I divorced my Russian wife.
The little boy has finally stopped urinating in his closet...
The 17 year old shows on going disrespect for his Mother and his new step father.
It's just a total lack of respect that some of these Russian women have for other people. I've seen it happen many times. If they want to do something, they go right ahead and just do it while you are not looking. It's a hard life over there, many of the men treat the women like crap, and the women have had to learn to adapt. Some of their adaptation skills are not flattering.
So, the reason for this post is NOT to bash all Russian women. It is merely to show part of a character that some of them have. Many of these girls are stubborn, don't listen, and don't give a zhit about what you say or think. Many have really strong characters from their difficult upbringing, so you better be ready for combat if you choose the wrong girl.
Sounds like some American women....
So, for you guys that are thinking about marrying one of these girls and bringing her over, spend enough time in Russia to try to really learn about their character before they get here. If you are anything like me, living with this kind of crap will really get you pissed off in a hurry. You don't want to find out she is really difficult after she gets here. They all are on their best behaviour when you go over for your vacations. It can be tough, but you absolutely have to find out who the girl really is..
After my experience with my Russian wife, when I went to Latin American, I knew I wanted to find a girl that wasn't selfish. So on some of my dates with girls that had real potential, I suggested we do some volunteer work for children. Buying food, clothing and toys for the orphanages. I watched how the girls responded to helping others and this told the whole story about the girl.
After delivering books for this one poor family, I watched my wife read to the kids for an hour. It was at the end of a long day and we were both tired. This told me alot about her character.
Sitting in a cafe, or going to eat will only tell you so much about a girl. You don't have much time there, so try something a little different to speed up the evaluation process.
Finding an unselfish, giving women is everything in my opinion.
Take it easy,
Wayne
