I am a firm believer that one should never WOVO, at least for first visits
with the ladies. I made one trip to Russia to visit one lady, but we had
previously met in Canada, so it wasn’t my first visit with her.
I made a second trip to Russia and met with several ladies with good
results.
I made a trip to Turkey and met with 3 of the ladies that I had previously
met in Russia. That went fine also.
Then, I started planning my 3rd trip to Russia and had mostly decided to
visit only with one of the ladies from my Turkey trip. We were very
compatible in most every way. The only problem was that she was some
ten pounds heavier than would meet my criteria for a slender lady. She
was not fat; she just was not slender; perhaps she was average even tho
she had a nicely defined figure. We talked about this and she agreed she
should lose some weight, and she wanted to ‘on her own’. Remember, you
can’t change unless you really want to. She, in mid-May, said she would
lose the weight by September if I would agree to come at that time. So we
had a deal.
I purchased my tickets to SPb in early July. I hadn’t bugged her about her
progress on the weight issue. But, on the very day that I called to tell her
that I had the tickets, she proudly reported to me that she had not GAINED
any more weight and that she would work on weight loss when we were
together in September.
Then it all came flooding back to me about the cultural differences that
someone had sent me that I posted here a couple of months ago. It said
that in US we take commitments very seriously, whereas in Russia
commitments are often taken as ‘suggestions.’
Anyway, no one but myself makes a fool out of me, so I promptly went
back into the Internet match sites and began the very time consuming
process of finding a group of ladies to meet in September. I now have e-mail contact going with 23 ladies and I will plan to meet with 10 or so of them.
Moral of the story for me . . . . we may never be safe with WOVO even
after multiple visits.
Anyway, I fully admit that I am a slender freak, but that is part of the deal
and the ladies know it. And for you bleeding hearts, it is perfectly alright for
a guy who is not slender to require a slender lady. Remember, their
criteria is for a person with ‘financial security and stability’ even tho they do
not possess that characteristic themselves. So there is no necessity that
these criteria on both sides be one and the same. Before some of you get
too lathered, I should note that I am slender.
JR
