Young ladies; Go for it or not??

[juio99]

Against my better judgement, I let one of my ‘friends only’ lady friends from
an earlier trip put an ad for me in a local Russian paper.  As I suspected,
despite crystal clear wording (in Russian) as to minimum height, max
weights and slender requirements, most of the responses are from short
porkers.  So it has been a big waste of time plowing through all of the
replies, despite the luck with this procedure that others have reported here.

But now I have a quandary.  The ladies that met all of my criteria were . . . .
yikes . . . . . under age 30.  They responded to my ad despite the stated
lower age limit of 35 which my friend pushed me into when I wanted a lower
limit of 40 given my age of 50 which was also stated in the ad.

There is no way in h&ll I am going to get seriously involved with ladies
under age 35; but I keep looking at these pictures of the 26-30 year olds
and thinking . . . . why not meet and spend some time with them.
Everything looks so firm and tight that I can see . . . . and the unseen part is
probably also.

But then I keep thinking . . . . it would just be a waste of time in the long run
scheme of things.  And I have never had an ounce of contact with
scammers when I deal with ladies over age 40, so there is that worry also,
that I would be setting myself up in that regard.

So what do you think guys . . . . . . .  should I waste my time and theirs just
so I could look or possibly more at a beautiful tight face and tight body up
close and personal for a day . . .   or so??  And, why did these young
attractive ladies respond to the ad in the first place?

JR

[Stevo]

... in response to Young ladies; Go for it or not??, posted by juio99 on Aug 13, 2002

setting artificial cutoff points for things like age, etc.  Hey, if someone who is 34 catches your eye, are you going to nix her because she doesn't meet your cutoff point?

Finding a match is not science and shouldn't be treated that way.  You just may miss out on the perfect woman for you if your too smart for yourself.

Don't ask for advice, just follow your heart and mix liberally with your good (hopefuly at age 50) instincts.

Stevo

[MarkInTx]

... in response to There is nothing more counter-productive..., posted by Stevo on Aug 13, 2002


For me it looks like this:

Hmmm... I date women who are ten years younger than me in USA. So that would be good in the FSU...

Well, actually, I think maybe another five years would be appropriate, since everyone seems to expect it...

You know... if I can accept a 25 year old... Look at this 24 year old! She seems nice... and mature (oh yes, I can tell from the web page... she is...um...mature...)

Well, you know... 23 is a LOT like 25... and look.. she says she'll take a man up to 42! I'm only 41... I think I'll write her...

Wow... look at this one... 19 and she will take a man to 40... Hell, I'm only 41... she should take that too... right?

And before you know it, you're writing to kids young enough to be your daughter...

It's called a slippery slope... and that's why age cut-offs DO make sense (IMHO).

Yeah, sometimes you meet someone that makes you throw out the rule book... but when you are doing your searching, having a reasonable cut-off age makes sense and helps keep you from getting nutty...

[robobond]

... in response to There is nothing more counter-productive..., posted by Stevo on Aug 13, 2002

Bottom line is that high age differences are reflected in mortality rates of marriages.  This is not a rule but a probability.

We are not talking about chance meetings here - by definition these are very deliberate encounters.   Why deliberately choose to go against the odds in the selection process?

[BubbaGump]

... in response to There is nothing more counter-productive..., posted by Stevo on Aug 13, 2002

from reading your bio.  

I think a guy can go younger than 15 years below his own age.  If a Russian man has a life expectancy of 59 and I have a life expectancy of 84, then at 45 I have the life expectancy of a 20 year old Russian man.  I had a 21 year old girl wanting to come back with me.  I met her parents and I looked so much younger than them even though we are the same age.  Russian girls are aware that we live much longer that them.  This guy could streach his limits especially if he looks ok for his age.

[robobond]

... in response to You sound likes a man's man Stevo.., posted by BubbaGump on Aug 14, 2002

sounds like mental masturbation...

[Patrick]

... in response to Young ladies; Go for it or not??, posted by juio99 on Aug 13, 2002

My (unpopular) opinion is that you should stay with the 35 and over group.  That's a 15 year gap, but I think at 35 a woman is pretty mature.  If you feel that you should limit your age range to 35 and over, do it and don't listen to the other guys.  It's your life and you know better than anyone else what's right for you.

Stick to your guns.  I did.  I married a woman 2.5 years younger than myself.  I'm happy after 5 years of marriage and would do the same if I had it to do over again.  I didn't do it because I thought the "scammer" rate was better with these ladies.  I did it because I prefer women nearer my own age for a more equal relationship.

And for the guys with good marriages to young women-  My appolgies.  I don't mean to imply that your marriages are not good.  I just think the odds are more in favor of long term success with the older ladies.

I too received lots of responses from ladies I wasn't interested in when I had personal ads placed in newspapers.  I think that just goes with the territory.  When you're the one selecting the ladies from an agency, they've done much of the screening for you.  When you're getting responses from the ladies directly, you'll have to do that screening yourself.

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Young ladies; Go for it or not??, posted by juio99 on Aug 13, 2002

I'm sure that everything is firm and tight as you mention:

"Everything looks so firm and tight that I can see ..."

And everything is firm in tight in the areas that you can't see, too... such as:

Their grip on reality...

Their plans to get that green card no matter what

and of course...

Their grip on your balls once they get over hear (and I don't mean that in a good way...)

[Jack]

... in response to Young ladies; Go for it or not??, posted by juio99 on Aug 13, 2002

Hey JR, you been smoking something there?

You looking for a wife, or a play toy?

50 year old men don't need to be considering 26 year old ladies. There, does that make you feel better now. Now that you've heard someone tell you what you've already known make you feel better?

If your going to play with any of these young things, keep it to yourself. You don't tell anyone that you were screwing around with a young 20 year olds just to see how firm and tight they were, including the unseen part!

This friging message of yours JR almost reminds me of something that a previous pervert to the board would have written.

And why do you think young girls would respond to the ad of a much older man? Let's see here if we can think of a good reason why?

[BrianN]

... in response to Re: Young ladies; not??, posted by Jack on Aug 13, 2002

Jeez man, has the previous piss fest got you so tied up you're looking to do some outright assault and battery?!?!  haha!  I'm suprised jewio could actually come up with such comments!  Give the guy some slack for a moment.

I know exactly what this dude is talking about and he's simply tired of ignoring all the "yung-un's", and maybe has some ill-gotten thoughts about them... hell who don't.  Last time I drove by the local high school.. at noon... oh I won't go there!  Lol!  We all know what the yunguns want, and maybe it ain't between our legs sugar daddy... but the thought... oh the thought!  (Such a devilish thing).  Just remember you're married already.  The rest of us are still a'waitin.  

This has the makins of a long thread, and ok, maybe the only ones that look decent with brains and posses an adaptive nature are a tad bit younger than his original cut-off.  Being adaptive gets more difficult with age... and it is harder to find a real mate that "works", emotionally and logically.  But it don't make the guy a total pervert cause he talks his stuff here about his own thoughts regarding the situation he's in with'em.

Oh well, Just my nickel refill.

[robobond]

... in response to Holy SH$T jack..., posted by BrianN on Aug 14, 2002

amen, bro -- here's my nickel for your cup.

[robobond]

... in response to Re: Young ladies; not??, posted by Jack on Aug 13, 2002

Jack,  I agree with you but you probably didn't have to drift into implying that JR is perverted in order to make your point.  Come on, let's be civil in our communications here.
    P.S., I'm 55 and I confess - I too have lusted in my heart!

JR,  Get a grip on reality, you twisted, sicko f___!
    P.S., have you seen the 19 yr. old virgin fox on
    http://www.insanitylove.midlife.ohdaddy.com ?

LOL

[wsbill]

... in response to Re: Re: Young ladies; not??, posted by robobond on Aug 13, 2002

Turn on the TV and watch that "Anna Nicole Show"....

That girl use to look pretty good, until she got all that money.... She's looks bigger than Jack !