Ever consider this option for finding love?

[David24]

I'm new to this board but i'm curious if any of the men here have thought about living in Moscow (or whatever russian city) for a select period of time to get to know the people and culture. I have several American expat friends that live in Moscow on work assignment (i'm American) and most love it there. It's a very different lifestyle but I think in so many ways it's superior to using a mail order service to hunt for the "right" woman and then having her move to your homeland. If you have the disposable income it would not be hard to save up $20-30k and live a year in Moscow comfortably. I recently spent a couple weeks there visiting friends and met quite a few good people and if I spoke the language I could have met an almost unlimited number of great women as well. Of course this option is probably available to only a select few who have the cash to do it but in my opinion it's far superior to the very hit or miss process of bringing a woman back to the States. Moscow is also a pretty exciting place to live and if I could I would definitely not mind working/living there for an extended period of time. The U.S. is more 'comfortable' but you have to remember a successful relationship involves some compromise. If not Moscow, you could always retire or set up residence in a nearby european nation very friendly to Americans (Helsink, Finland, Riga, Latvia, Prague etc..) and commute often to Moscow for fairly cheap. Btw, i'm a fairly young guy at 24 so I never seriously considered hunting for a permanent partner for marriage but hopefully if i'm successful i'll be able to retire early and 'settle' down in my country of choice. If I had a choice i'd definitely consider Moscow as a long term option..it's a crazy but interesting place to live.

[thesearch]

... in response to Ever consider this option for finding lo..., posted by David24 on Apr 24, 2002

I am sure a lot of guys have had this idea cross their mind however, for most people, this is not practical. I for one have thought of and appreciated how this approach could be very productive. It would be my method of choice. The constant exposure to  many women can only improve the situation. Also, you can get to know these women without all the rush that is involved in the MOB arena.  At this time of my life this method is simply not practical.

If I do not connect with an FSU lady or a lady from my area of residence at this time in my life,  I very likely, will consider highly doing exactly what you suggest when  such becomes possible for me.  I have even used this future projected thought as a motivator in my life right now to move towards making that a reality.  So, in that sense, even if I do not go, I will benefit, correction, I already am benefiting.

I think that it would be an incredible experience. The hard part would be choosing where to set up temporary residence.

[Bob S]

... in response to Ever consider this option for finding lo..., posted by David24 on Apr 24, 2002

Why, in all the 5 or 6 years these discussion forums have been around, no one has EVER suggested that the best way to court a lady is to get to know her on her home turf over an extended period of time.  Wow!  Imagine that!  Well, even though I am not scheduled to retire for at least another 30 or 40 years, I think I'll do just that.  Next month I'll quit my job and move to Tokyo to chase cute J-girls.  Thanks for the suggestion!

[wsbill]

... in response to What an amazingly original idea!, posted by Bob S on Apr 25, 2002

Some lady from Alabama.

[Bob S]

... in response to Re: I though Bob S. had a wife, posted by wsbill on Apr 25, 2002

Nope, never been there.  Don't know anybody from there either.  I'm startin' to think maybe it's one of those places that doesn't really exist except in song.  Ya know?

[thesearch]

... in response to What an amazingly original idea!, posted by Bob S on Apr 25, 2002

Hey Bob,

This has been mentioned before on a few occasions. It is just that this approach is not practical for most.

I am curious as to why you are visiting us when, it is a woman from Japan that you are interested in and planning to move there.

I had heard that the Japanese women (the ones who live in Japan) are more interested in Japanese men then they are American men- prejudice so to speak - and that marriage between an American and a Japanese lady is actually frowned upon.

Do you have an comments on this? I would be interested to know. I prefer Caucasian women just because of being raised solely around them but, of all other races, Asian to me are the second most attractive to me.

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Re: What an amazingly original idea!, posted by thesearch on Apr 25, 2002

asd

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: What an amazingly original idea!, posted by thesearch on Apr 25, 2002

There are many, many, Japanese/American couples around. The perception of these things are changing. When my sister-in-law was dating her American boyfriend back in the mid 70s, papa-san insisted he only come to the house after dark so the neighbors wouldn't see him dating his daughter - but these days, Japan has become such an international community that a much wider acceptance of interracial marriages is coming about. It's considered kind of chic in Tokyo these days for Japanese girls to date black men as well, something considered kind of shocking to Japanese less than a generation ago.

You won't find huge age gaps too common, though. I know a 60/36 and a 50/32 year old Japanese couples but most seem to be within 5 or 10 years age of each other.

Japanese women have a lot to offer as loyal, feminine wives. Just remember this endeavor is not about statistics, or lots of options, or generalities in culture. It's about one person meeting and falling in love with one person and having that marriage go the distance.

Just my 2 cents worth

-- Jeff S.

[Dan]

... in response to Re: What an amazingly original idea!, posted by thesearch on Apr 25, 2002

n/t

[Bob S]

... in response to Sarcasm Greg - Bob Was Being a Bit Sarca..., posted by Dan on Apr 25, 2002

-)

[Mike]

... in response to Ever consider this option for finding lo..., posted by David24 on Apr 24, 2002

If I was single and had the money I wouldn't think twice about living in Moscow for months at a time. Shiit I loved it there, and it really is Disney world for the single man! I think when I was there 3 out of 5 (or maybe more) women spoke English to some degree or so it seemed.
Mike

[wilmc]

... in response to Ever consider this option for finding lo..., posted by David24 on Apr 24, 2002

I think this is a great idea.  
I am retired and divorced.  My pension, SS, and interest and dividends provides me with well over $30K per year.    
I have met a lovely lady in Moscow.  For a very small amount of $, about $5k, we have fixed up her apartment and my intention is to live there for the snowless parts of the year.  During the winter we will travel some together, Turkey, Cyprus, Spain, etc. I will return to USA for the remainder of the year, to visit with my sons and other relatives and friends.  Careful planning allows me to find inexpensive air fares. The cost of living in Moscow will actually allow me to save money and afford our, places in the sun, holidays.  I hope.  That is the plan.  
This may only be practical for those of us who are comfortably retired. I am confident that we can be more comfortably retired in the FSU than in USA. The mature Russian woman I have met are far more attractive in every way than AW's in the same age category.  Maybe I have just been lucky in Russia and unlucky in the USA but that is how it is for me.  

[BrianN]

... in response to Ever consider this option for finding lo..., posted by David24 on Apr 24, 2002

If I stash away 20 grand or so, and then go there to live and meet women just for the hellofit, then all should come up roses right?

Most on this board I think don't have the kinds of means to just grab 20k in equity and disappear for a year.  

If you're young, do it, and do it well.  Just don't come back b_itching a year later because you blew 20 grand on nothing.

Your idea does have some merit, but if you want some real thoughts on this, you should direct your thoughts to jimmy, who just recently came back from living/working in the Ukraine.

Where the heck is LP these days?