questions for you married or engaged guys...

[BrianN]

... in response to Re: I waited., posted by Oatmeal on Apr 16, 2002

sounds just like something i'd do, exactly.  no formality, just get it out.

dam.  I get a little "smokey" about a marriage proposal, because I've never done one the way the movies do it....  my first and only, was like, hey... I found this place in bonita that has an ad in the paper and it's only 25 bucks and you wanna go with me???

haha!

[Ken W]

... in response to questions for you married or engaged guy..., posted by BrianN on Apr 16, 2002

...Lena had already arrived in the US. Until then, we both agreed we would wait and let nature take its course - I invited her to come see me and have a paid three-month vacation, essentially. No illusions between us, just a willingness to risk.

Now, when I went to Moscow to meet her (yep, just her), I went with the same attitude as you have - I figured the WORST thing that could happen was that I will have a long-overdue vacation in an exotic city with a lot of spending money. I spent the entire 5 days with Lena getting the grand tour from an (almost) native Muscovite. Excellent - No waiting for intervews, sitting by a phone, dealing with agencies etc. just a great time.

I remember having that feeling of standing on the edge of a precipice about 2 weeks before she arrived. I got drunk one night and just worried for about 6 hours straight laying on the picnic table - Oh my GOD what have I done? I got it out of my system I guess..

I proposed about 3 weeks before her visa ran out I think. We did the JP thing 3 weeks later..

Oh BTW you will probably look back upon the K1 process with fondness - It's cake compared to the fun you will be having later; SSN, English lessons, Green card, building credit, finding a job, more English lessons, driver's licence, insurance, gynecologists, shopping, etc.

If I had to do it all over again, I think I would remember to take an umbrella this time.

-Ken Williams

[Mike]

... in response to I didn't pop the question until.., posted by Ken W on Apr 16, 2002

But the driving lessons rank as one of the hardest. I'd say turn left and she would turn right, every time we stopped she'd ask which way to turn although she had made this short drive many times already.Once She got her license I was very proud of her! one month later she hit the back of a new SUV because of hitting the breaks and gas at the same time! Oh well those days are behind us and she is doing pretty good now, but sometimes she'll drive 25 miles home from work with her lights off at night.
Mike

[BrianN]

... in response to I didn't pop the question until.., posted by Ken W on Apr 16, 2002

But thanks for all you said.  Probably why, is that i cannot find anything that differs from the way that I would think also.

I only asked this question originally, to see if there were any "dreamers" but realistic ones floating around, or maybe we're all a bunch of nuts looking for a risk to take.

Everybody seems to straddle both sides of this fence very well that's been successful anyway....  

Internally, I'm very "satisfied" to go meet this lady, because it's a (gross someone gag me) closure thing?... or it will work.  I think it will work out well, and so does she.  One thing I know for sure, that time has taken its toll, and out of difficulty, comes much understanding...

Thanks again.

and yeah, I know, my mileage my suck big time, but nothing ventured, nothing gained.

:-)

[yoe]

... in response to questions for you married or engaged guy..., posted by BrianN on Apr 16, 2002

not to get put in a Russian Jail. The rest was candy.
Joe

[BrianN]

... in response to I had one priority..........., posted by yoe on Apr 16, 2002

My thoughts from the second I get on the plane.

Hmm... are my clothes dark enough?  Is my rolled "r" real enough?... lets see, what hidden pocket do I put my money and cc's in?... the coat's good, what pocket do I have my bribe money in?

Do I look like a russian dewd?  Or do I need to get rid of the baseball cap and get a real russian thingy ma job?... yep.

all done.

[KenC]

... in response to questions for you married or engaged guy..., posted by BrianN on Apr 16, 2002

Brian,
I never put the paperwork ahead of the job at hand.  That "job" was falling head over heels in love and romancing a great woman into the same feelings.  LOL.  The other stuff is just minor details.  Try to remember what is truly important.
KenC

[BrianN]

... in response to Re: questions for you married or engaged..., posted by KenC on Apr 16, 2002

Like, this whole thing has been study, study study...  I got lost somewhere between the ins, the state dept, and scammer reports.

time to find myself again.  two hands and a flashlight I think I might now...

thanks for the response.

[Rags]

... in response to questions for you married or engaged guy..., posted by BrianN on Apr 16, 2002

Don't sweat the details, Son. When lightning strikes, you will know it...enjoy the ride. Actually, in my case, I didn't have to say anything at all. Ain't love grand?

[BrianN]

... in response to Re: questions for you married or engaged..., posted by Rags on Apr 16, 2002

Yeah, but it's all friggin (wonderful) K1 DETAILS!?!?!  What happened to the romance in it all?  

ha!  I'm really lmbo over this at the moment.

What a riot this ride has been...

[wsbill]

... in response to haha!, posted by BrianN on Apr 16, 2002

Can look at here for the next 40 years.  Oatmeal lady made the most sense.  If she's not superduper warm to ya and coming on to ya... better wake up from YOUR dream.

That's the direction my lady was coming from, I was just too dumb to figure it out.

I'd love to hear more from these guys that have found true love and what their wifes did to turn their heads.

[BrianN]

... in response to Re: Just make sure your really in love....., posted by wsbill on Apr 16, 2002

Well, Mr Bill, I think that my love life might end up better than the glass business these days :-( for you, (I hope).

I've got some very specific needs that have to be filled, I've dated... messed around for years, and ferreted out all of the jokers.  It's just that AW seem to have gotten the best of me over the years, but they always want me back after we're split up... lol.

Now, going there, if one can be so good as to fool me again, hmmm, I won't know, it depends on how good of an actor she is, but not as good as I was, to myself, to glass over the incosistencies of my past for her own, and give eternal gratitude for a smidgen of attention.

How I've wasted a lot of years.

No more.

But if I get a green card shark, after knowing what I know, and been through, then I deserve it.  I promise, I won't make a BrianN's Pravda... yakity yak thing.

Thanks for your thoughts, and letting me air my own.