Need advice

[thesearch]

... in response to Good boy,Ryan, posted by Zink on Mar 11, 2002

Thanks for the compliment Zink. I am usually pretty laid back and conservative however, Ryan did bring out a little LP in me

[Marc]

... in response to Need advice, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

Tootsie,
I've always admired your contributions to the board and would be interested in starting a correspondence with you.

Please send me some details about yourself and what you are looking for in the future.

Marc    

mlaytar@umm.edu

[Marco]

... in response to Please email me, posted by Marc on Mar 11, 2002

spasiba@softhouse.net

[Patrick]

... in response to Need advice, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

I think Squirecam gave some good advice.  With your English skills I'm sure you could work as an interpreter for an agency.  That way you'd be exposed to many American men and instead of spending money, you'll be earning it.

Of course you'll still have competition to deal with, but at least you won't be invested time in corresponding with men who will write for months (or years) and never visit.

[Ramblin]

... in response to Work for an agency, posted by Patrick on Mar 11, 2002

Tootsie, you should really consider working as an interpreter, either for a large marriage agency or as an independent agent for people with connections to men going to Moscow.  As an interpreter, you would get to know a lot of American men and the ones that you are interested in, you could tell them that you are single and interested in seeing them socially and not as their interpreter.  I think Patrick is right.  I think it will work for you.

[poramoidryg]

... in response to Need advice, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

Tootsie, please contact me at your convenience as I may be a solution for you.

poramoidryg@hotmail.com

[greg2]

... in response to Re: Need advice, posted by poramoidryg on Mar 11, 2002

interesting you worded that

[Tootsie]

... in response to Need advice, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

I thank you very much for your advice and comments on my post.

Now I wish to ask you some more questions (sorry I didn’t do it in the earlier post).

1) Which jobs in the US besides maid can I find without job permission (maybe waitress or something like that)?

2) Is it possible to get job permission in the States? Maybe there are companies that need specialists who speak Russian and German besides English (perhaps on a temporary basis in hotels for holiday season) and maybe such company can apply for this permission?

3) Is it possible to find job like taking care of kids and helping them with their school homework? I have degree in engineering and very good in mathematics, physics etc. And I can also tell fairy tales to little kids. Hmmm… and to big kids too .

Thanks in advance,

Tootsie

[Zink]

... in response to Thank you and some more questions, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

Tootsie, do you really want to be a maid or waitress? I don't think so.

I can't speak for the US but in Canada most of the larger companies can and will help qualified people with visas and work permits.

I know of one Ukranian lady that came to Saskatchewan this way. I do not know her personally but I am friends with her husband's cousin, so I know a little of her story. She had met her husband while they were both on vacation in Greece. She wanted to come to Canada without the fiance visa. So he found a job opening at the local telephone company that she was qualified for. She didn't tell anyone that she was involved with a Canadian man. The company helped her with all of her visa paperwork. They dated for about a year after she came here and then got married.

You are well qualified for many jobs so it should be possible for you to find a corporate sponsor. Try searching for job openings in areas that you are interested in. It wouldn't surprise me if a company became very interested in you because of your linguistics abilities on top of your engineering degree. I don't know your resume but from what I do know about you I think you are a capable woman.

If everything else fails I could use a physics and calculus tutor. Then I would be able to finish my degree. I live right on the border and it would be simple for me to smuggle you across to the US. I promise I won't even make you milk my cows!

[Natalya]

... in response to Thank you and some more questions, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

Ok, regarding job in USA without permission.Most likely you will be able to find job in cities of USA with large Russian communities as New York, Chicago etc. Of course you can work as nannie or as housekeeper like my mother ( she's cooking,cleaning,doing laundry etc) but in most cases refferences are required otherwise it is pretty difficult to find even this kind of job.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Thank you and some more questions, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

Please e-mail me Tootsie: kmsauto@pacbell.net

[squirecam]

... in response to Need advice, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

Hello Tootsie,

What I suggest that you do is contact an american agency that does business in the FSU. Pick one that seems to have alot of clients in a large area. Give them a profile and tell them that you would like to meet men of that area (pick somewhere large, like california).

If you find enough men in an area that interests you, travel to the city and meet with the men.

Agencies usually charge alot of money for men to come see the women. Maybe the agency can do a similar thing for you here. For instance, the agency could "charge" each of the men a small sum. This money would be used BY THE AGENCY to obtain accomidations for a week or two. At that point, either you have not met someone, and can return home, or you have met someone, at which point I am sure they will be more then willing to help you out. If the are a reputable agency, they should be willing to try this out.

The agency wins (they get $$) the guy wins (he gets you) and you win. It's a win-win-win situation

Squirecam

[Jeff S]

... in response to Need advice, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

I've always enjoyed your perspective and reading your advice on this board, and ahve a thought. I've always heard that often the best action in a situation is to zig when everyone else zags. In other words, what you might try is to not necessarily do what everyone else is doing, that is to list yourself with Russian agencies. You're obviously very fluent in English, have internet access, and have far more knowledge about America and american men than your average Russian country girl. I've seen your picture too, and if there's anyone out there who doesn't consider you quite attractive, I say their taste resides somewhere where they sit down. You should consider the American dating sites. There are plenty of middle aged, divorced or single, intelligent. professional men out there who have a hard time finding someone special. You don't necessarily have to point out that you live in Russia until you get a two way communication going and find out if you have the basis for mutual interest and attraction. Believe me, there are very few men who wouldn't hop on a plane to meet someone they come to enjoy in e-mail and voice mail communications. Especially comparing you to the choices many men have in their own home towns. If a middle aged American white collar man is so poor or manages his money so poorly that he can't afford to visit you, you probably don't want to meet him anyway - he'll be trouble. There are tons of internet matchmaking sites that are not specifically international oriented. Someone who never considered the international scene might be just the ticket. Just a few thoughts for you.

-- Jeff S.

[Ryan]

... in response to Need advice, posted by Tootsie on Mar 11, 2002

What shall you do?  You just explained exactly what us men go threw to meet Ukraine/Russian women.  There is little to no difference…  

First I will hardly agree to stay at home of a women (And her family) I never met in person and hardly know. Second, even if I stay at the hotel I have a risk to find myself alone in a strange country in a strange place without any help.  Third, if one of us doesn’t like another I will have to go back to U.S.A. and two long flights within a week isn’t something easy and good for health.

All you did in your post was complain about the money, money, money and who would pay for it…  Again this whole process makes me sick…  Stay home and find your love in your country, are the Russian guys really that bad?   Look I am starting to see a pattern here with Russian woman and I really do not like what I see.  They seem to be all ME ME ME….

[greg2]

... in response to Re: Need advice, posted by Ryan on Mar 11, 2002

I know you are here