Why worry?

[Quasimoto]

MissisG,

You posted below that sometimes you are afraid. I must tell you that abusive men show their colors and intentions very early. Sometimes during the honeymoon. Usually within two months of marriage. Of course some men abuse as soon as they feel a secure bond, and have the woman under their control. If your husband has shown no real signs of unreasonable control, anger, or violence, then do not look for it. You are probably worrying about something that is never going to happen. So why ruin your life and happiness?

Steve

[Ken W]

... in response to Why worry?, posted by Quasimoto on Mar 9, 2002

My wife's uncle just decided fiday night (ironic timing) to get smashed and chase her favorite Aunt around the house with a hatchet. The fun ended with a trip to the hospital after he successfully punched out a lead-glass window - I hope the b@stard loses a finger.

Thank god the kids weren't there. I could give a sh1t about Alexi, but the bad news is that that behavior is being propigated to the next generation. I hope I get a chance to kick his @ss this summer.

-Ken Williams

[Quasimoto]

... in response to Why worry?, posted by Quasimoto on Mar 9, 2002

Opps! for missisG

[William]

... in response to Re: missisG - Why worry?, posted by Quasimoto on Mar 9, 2002

Mr Q:
I would suggest that YOU, or your mate, take some very good photos of any cuts and bruises yourself.
Use a film camera so you can get copies. Document time and date and circumstances.
You might also consider a running log, or diary of complaints w/ times and dates, etc.
As a friend, you could talk to police and abuse groups and/or councellors and find out
what all needs to be done, what options a person has, and soforth.
IF you are sure this isn't a case of false accusations, any evidence you can obtain and secure
(in your house, I suppose) would be helpful.
The abused party should be advised of help groups, even if you have to write down a list.
There should be ways she can get her hands on some money, somehow.  Fudge on grocery
bill or what ever. Some AW can be pretty sneeky and resourseful when it comes to these
things; foreign women usually don't have to go that far.
Teach her to drive, at least the basics.
This list could go on and on.
Just my 2¢